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• To step
• Method 1 of 3: Decide what changes to make
• Method 2 of 3: Make a plan
• Method 3 of 3: Persevere to become a better version of yourself
• Tips
• Warnings

Re-creating yourself into a different person has a different meaning for everyone. In order to make progress in becoming the person you want to be, you will have to formulate clearly what that means for you. You may already have some ideas about this, such as dealing with friendships in a different way, or communicating better with other people. Or maybe you want to change your career or your self-image. You will also need to come up with a plan to move forward and accomplish this. Ultimately, you will have to stick to the necessary steps to becoming the person you want to be.

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Method 1 of 3: Decide what changes to make

1. Visualize your future. Ask yourself what you want your life to be like in 5, 10, and 20 years. Spend some time imagining your future. The situation as you envision it should give you a clue as to what kind of person you want to become.
   • This can be difficult at first. When you try to envision your future, you may not be able to think of anything. But often an image emerges with this question, even if only temporarily.
   • Try to imagine an image, even if it is only very briefly. Did you have a picture of yourself sitting in the living room with your partner in your own home? Maybe you had a brief picture of a sunset drive along the beach. Or maybe you saw yourself in your own company, talking to a number of customers.
2. Consider the future you envision. Once you have the image of the future that you would like to live in, think about the qualities or characteristics that you saw being portrayed in that vision of the future.
   • Above all, think about what kind of person you were in that picture. This is the kind of person you should strive for, the person you want to become.
   • Maybe you were assertive in the workplace. You may have looked successful driving along the coast. Or did you notice how easy, relaxed and open you were while sitting in the living room with your partner?
3. Visualize an alter ego. If you find it difficult to envision your own future, try this with an alter ego of your current self. If you could live a double life and be anyone? Take the time to think about this question in detail.
   • What does that person do in word and deed, and what does he / she look like that makes it your alter ego? How does your alter ego interact with other people? What does that person do for a living?
   • For example, imagine a board member with a successful career in her company. She went to college, got an internship and started her career in a normal way. She interacts with other people in a considerate, professional manner. She always wears appropriate business clothes. Her alter ego could be a strong woman with an opinion, wrapped in leather and riding a motorcycle. She works in a tattoo parlor and plays guitar in a band on the weekends. She does not have to guess her opinion and will proclaim it to everyone. She interacts assertively with others and usually gets her way.
4. Decide what your alter ego means. Your imaginary alter ego should give you clues as to who your true self is. Some of the characteristics of your alter ego suggest that you also want to acquire those qualities in real life.
   • The woman in the example may not change her whole life. But maybe she'll dress up a bit more boldly and go to rock shows on the weekends. Maybe a tattoo makes her nervous. Or she will do assertiveness training, so that she gives her opinion with a little more self-confidence.
   • There is no need to become quite like the person you proposed, unless you really want to. But some of the features you have seen are part of your true self.
5. Make a vision statement. Your next step is to develop a goal of who you want to become. Use the insight you have gained from doing one or both of the above exercises to develop this vision.
   • Turn your ideas into goals, such as: “I want to be an assertive entrepreneur. I love the idea of ​​organizing my own days and making my own business choices. ”
   • Once you have an overall goal, ask yourself a few questions to test it out and make sure it's right for you. For instance:
     • Does this objective sound interesting and meaningful to you?
     • Do you have doubts about it? Which part do you have doubts about?
     • Do you downplay the importance of your quest for change when you talk to others about your plans?
     • Do you feel like you have to chase this because other people think it would be good for you? Do you feel that this is the right change for you?
     • Does this goal seem to reflect who you really are?
     • Change your vision statement as needed after considering these questions.

Method 2 of 3: Make a plan

1. Set your priorities. Once you have an idea of ​​the things you want to change about yourself, put them in order, from most important to least important. Start with the most important thing.
   • Remember that change is difficult. This means that you should not try to change too much at the same time.
   • In addition, you may make the first change and realize that this is enough. Maybe the person you wanted to become wasn't all that different from who you already are. Or you may want to re-adjust your priorities after making the first changes. Don't feel bound by that first attempt at setting your priorities.
2. Determine what it takes. Once you have decided what you want to change, the next step is to determine what you need to do.
   • For example, if you want to become more assertive, you will have to go to a course and read more about assertiveness. You can also talk to a business partner who is assertive and ask how he / she handles certain situations. You can participate in an assertiveness training or course. Make an inventory of what you need to start your journey.
   • You may find it easier if you divide the change goals into steps. Think about what exactly you need to become the person you want to become, and make a plan for achieving each step.
   • Dividing life goals into smaller pieces makes the process more manageable. It also becomes easier to track your progress. This can help you stay motivated.
   • Setting deadlines for reaching these steps can help motivate and keep you going.
3. Be aware of obstacles. Since you have no control over what is happening in the world around you, there will be obstacles that get in the way of you becoming who you want to be. By making a plan to deal with obstacles that you can foresee, you can better deal with them when they arise.
   • For example, imagine that you have multiple goals and at some point it becomes difficult to work on your top priority. Then you can make plans to work on another goal, and return to the first goal as soon as conditions are more favorable.
   • For example, friends and family may get confused and try to push you back. For example, if you become more assertive, people may consider this to be bossy behavior and react negatively to it. You can prepare for this with an explanation of what you are trying to achieve. For example, “I strive to become more assertive, and this is a very important goal for me. You have probably noticed that I am a bit easier to express my opinion and what I want. I am still practicing how to do this as tactfully as possible, but I hope you will support me in achieving this goal. ”
   • You may encounter limitations in the form of a lack of time or money. For example, you could save money for assertiveness training. But maybe an emergency will come in and you will have to spend the money saved. You can prepare for this with an emergency plan. One possible idea could be to push back the milestone for achieving that goal. You can continue to work on your assertiveness with books until you have saved enough money again.

Method 3 of 3: Persevere to become a better version of yourself

1. Practice new skills and habits. In most cases, changing who you are will mean doing things differently. Often this means that you learn a different skill. Once you have started, take every opportunity to practice these new skills.
   • Make changes to your daily communication. Strive to relate to others, such as the person you are trying to become.
   • For example, imagine trying to be more assertive. You can start by paying attention to situations where you could have expressed your opinion more firmly or where you did not stand up for your own interests. Then you can start working on standing up for your interests in a way that is not aggressive or threatening.
   • Skills will become more familiar and easier with a little practice. This can be a little scary at first, but making changes will get you closer to who you want to be.
2. Work consistently towards achieving your goals. Any major change or achievement requires continuous and corresponding effort. Work on becoming your new self every day.
   • A good way to ensure consistent progress is to set aside time each day to work on your goals. For example, you can set aside an hour every day to read self-help books or take assertiveness training.
   • Keep in mind that you have to invest a lot of time and work for major changes. By working hard and consistently over a period of time, you can become the person you want to be.
3. Stay motivated. Change can be difficult, and when the going gets tough, it can be tempting to revert to old habits. Always keep your vision statement at hand to help you stay motivated.
   • You can do this by recalling your mental image of what your life will be like once you make the changes you want. Visualizing success can help support your motivation.
   • You can also use physical reminders to keep your motivation alive. You can stick on written statements or pictures that remind you why you want to make the change. For example, suppose your new self is an assertive entrepreneur. Find a number of images that depict that role. For example, you could take a photo from a magazine of someone giving a business presentation. You can also add some pictures of what you hope your office will look like one day.
4. Be open to change. People are constantly changing and developing. What you like or want now may be different from what you wanted five years ago. It can also be different from 10 years ago. Be flexible and willing to change your vision if it no longer suits your needs.
   • Keep in mind that making personal changes will also change your environment. For example, if you decide to become more assertive, your communication style will also change. The people around you will notice and perhaps respond to you in a different way.

Tips

• Change yourself so that you become a better person. Don't change to fit in or gain the approval of others.
• Try to become a better version of the person you are now. Everyone has good qualities that they do not need to change or that they can use as a basis.

Warnings

• Major changes in the way you interact with others can be difficult for some people to accept. Some people you knew before you changed may not like who you have become. You may lose friends by changing your life. But rest assured, you will also make new friends.