Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Be Respectful
• Method 2 of 3: Set boundaries
• Method 3 of 3: Physical intimacy
• Warnings

Your partner may have less sexual experience than you. If your partner is a virgin and you are not, it is important to draw boundaries as early as possible. Respect the needs and desires of your partner, set clear boundaries, and look for other opportunities for intimacy.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Be Respectful

1. 1 Find out what your partner's expectations are. If you decide to start a relationship with a person who has not had sex, you need to figure out what he is waiting for. All people have different attitudes towards sex and sexuality.You need to understand what your partner is looking for in a romantic relationship, including physical contact.
   • Your partner may be giving up sex because he decided to abstain from sexual intercourse. This decision may be due to religious reasons. It is also possible that your partner thinks that he is not yet ready for sexual relations.
   • If your partner deliberately refuses sex, understand what he expects from you. People define abstinence in different ways. Some refuse only penetrative sex, but are ready for other forms of intimacy. Others include all forms of intimacy in abstinence. Ask your partner what types of physical intimacy in a romantic relationship he considers acceptable.
   • Your partner may be asexual. This means that he does not feel sexual attraction and desire. Unlike abstinence, asexuality is not a person's choice. It is an inseparable part of a person's personality and sexual orientation. Asexual people may be attracted to other people, but they have no need for sexual intercourse. Many asexuals enter into romantic relationships because they feel the need for emotional closeness, but they can refuse all types of sexual relationships. If your partner is asexual, they may have special expectations from the relationship. Discuss these expectations before starting a relationship.
2. 2 Listen to your partner's words. When discussing sex, virginity, and relationship expectations, listen carefully to your partner. You should be clear about what your partner wants and what he expects from the relationship. Try to listen actively to the person.
   • If you listen actively, you will understand each other better. Don't get distracted by anything during the conversation. Nod and use other gestures to show your interest. Focus on your partner's words rather than trying to formulate your own answer.
   • Repeat your partner's words when they finish speaking. You have to make sure you get it right. If you misinterpret something, your partner will correct you.
   • If you are not a virgin (or a virgin) and your partner has no sexual experience, it is imperative to listen. Perhaps your partner is intimidated by your sexual past, and it seems to him that your relationship cannot be considered harmonious. You should explain to your partner that you respect their desire to maintain their virginity and that you want them to be comfortable.
3. 3 Respect your partner's right to privacy. Talking about your sexual past can be difficult. You may want to know everything about your partner's past, but they may refuse to give you details. Boundaries in relationships are individual and subjective.
   • It is possible that your partner will not want to answer some questions about their virginity. You have a sexual experience, and your partner may not like hearing about it. Of course, it is important for you to communicate as much as possible, but if he does not want to talk on some topics, respect this desire.
   • Don't force your partner to engage in conversations that they are not ready for. Let the relationship develop at a rate that suits both.
4. 4 Don't push your partner out of their comfort zone. If your partner is a virgin or a virgin, physical intimacy may not immediately appear in your relationship. You should respect your partner's wants and needs. Even if you really want sex, do not force your partner into it if he is not ready yet. Always ask your partner if he wants what you are offering him. Respect his decision. If he refuses, do not insist.

Method 2 of 3: Set boundaries

1. 1 Be open about your expectations of physical intimacy. It may be embarrassing for you to talk about it, but it is better to discuss everything at the very beginning than inadvertently doing or saying something that will be unpleasant for your partner.At the beginning of a relationship, try to be as honest with each other as possible. Discuss any expectations regarding sex and physical contact.
   • Find out if your partner will ever be ready to have sex, and if so, when. Your partner may not be ready for sexual intercourse at this stage in life. Perhaps he wants to wait until the wedding. If you are dating a virgin or virgin, chances are high that you will not have sexual relations in the near future. Think about this before you start dating a person.
   • Find out what types of physical contact your partner considers acceptable. Many people who refuse sex enjoy kissing, holding hands, hugging, and expressing their feelings in other ways. Perhaps your partner is also ready for other forms of sexual contact: simultaneous masturbation or oral sex.
   • You should be well aware of what your partner doesn't like. It will be embarrassing for you to stop in the process to discuss boundaries, so it is better to talk about everything beforehand. Say this: "I understand that you have not had a sexual relationship. I would like to know where the border is. What forms of physical contact are acceptable?" You need to make sure that you don't make your partner feel uncomfortable at the moment of intimacy.
2. 2 Make lists. This may seem like overkill, but for many people, lists help define personal boundaries. On the Internet, you can find lists with different elements of sexual relations. You and your partner can cross out what doesn't work for you. You can ask your partner to make a list of things they agree to and a list of things they would not like to do. This will allow you to define boundaries and avoid misunderstandings.
3. 3 Do not hurry. If your partner has no sexual experience, it will take time for him to get used to physical intimacy with you. Be prepared to be sympathetic about how your relationship is developing. For romantic relationships to be harmonious, sex does not have to be present in them from the very beginning. If you have more experience, let your partner decide when to move to the next level.
4. 4 Communicate a lot at all stages of the relationship. As the relationship develops, boundaries and expectations can change. Perhaps at some point, your partner will feel ready for a new level of physical intimacy. Perhaps he will stop liking some things. It is imperative to talk to each other all the time.
   • Reconsider your personal boundaries from time to time. Get out lists of physical intimacy items and see if you like what you liked before.
   • You should also talk to your partner during physical intimacy. Ask your partner if he likes what you are doing. The person should feel safe with you, and they should be comfortable.
   • Talk to your partner about the need for communication. Say the following to your partner sometime: "If you ever want to try something new, I want you to feel free to tell me about it." As mentioned above, sometimes people feel that they are not yet ready for sex. Perhaps in the future, your partner will feel ready. It will be easier for him to try having sex with you if he knows that you can discuss safe sex, sexually transmitted diseases, and preventing unwanted pregnancies.

Method 3 of 3: Physical intimacy

1. 1 Try alternative forms of physical contact. Physical intimacy plays an important role in romantic relationships. If your partner is a virgin, it can be difficult for you to feel this closeness. In addition, it is very important that the sexual desires of both partners are satisfied. Talk to your partner about alternatives to penetrative sex.
   • Kissing can be arousing, especially if you are kissing sensitive areas (neck, ears). If your partner is not ready for sex, you can get sexual satisfaction from kissing.
   • You can touch your partner in sensitive areas. The breasts, penis and clitoris are highly sensitive. If your partner is ready for this, you can enjoy touching without having to have traditional sex. Oral sex can also be enjoyable for both. But remember that if a partner refuses sex for moral or religious reasons, oral sex is likely to be unacceptable.
   • Simultaneous masturbation is also an alternative to sex. Simultaneous masturbation is masturbation in which two partners touch themselves at the same time. It is a form of physical intimacy that does not involve contact with a partner.
   • There are other forms of sexual contact that do not involve penetration. To find out which is right for you, discuss it with your partner.
2. 2 Talk to your partner about pornography and erotica. Many couples enjoy watching pornography or reading erotic stories together. This will allow you to understand what turns your partner on. If you are planning on having sex in the future, it will be helpful for you to know what turns your partner on. Invite your partner to watch pornography or read erotic literature. You will feel close as you explore each other's desires together.
   • Remember, not everyone is comfortable watching porn or reading erotic stories. Respect the partner's decision if he refuses to participate.
3. 3 Establish emotional closeness. Physical contact is not the only route to intimacy. In a good relationship, there must be a place for emotional intimacy. Talk, listen to each other, share your thoughts and enjoy each other's company. All of this will allow you to bond.
   • Talk to your partner. Take long walks, talk on the phone, talk late. Go to coffee shops just to talk. Be willing to open up and be sincere with each other.
   • Meet your partner's emotional needs. If your partner wants to talk to you after a tough day, give him your full attention. Calm him down if necessary. Sometimes it is difficult to understand exactly how best to comfort a person. People react differently to being told and comforted in situations like this. Try asking your partner the question, "What can I do to make you feel better?"
   • Emotional intimacy does not occur immediately. For her to appear, you need to spend a lot of time together. Take time each day to talk to your partner.

Warnings

• If you've already had sex and your partner doesn't have that experience, your relationship may not develop the way you would like it to. Sex plays an important role in harmonious relationships. If you're not sure if you can adjust to the needs of your virgin partner, it's best to end the relationship.