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• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings

Are you an outgoing person with a loud voice but want to be quiet, calm and reserved? This article will show you how to do this.

Steps

1. 1 Be quiet. This does not mean that you should not speak at all. However, expressing your emotions too loudly and violently in conversation does not make you romantic or emotional. Take for example the romantic Goths, who often speak softly and thoughtfully. Think before you say. Do I have to insert my comment? Do I need to ask this question? Will your line lead to conversation? Teach yourself to ask these questions before you open your mouth and be surprised at how much quieter you become.
2. 2 Be independent. You should be polite, but not accommodate to others. If you succeed, it will give an advantage in future communication. Limit your time and opportunities, draw the boundaries of your personal space so that other people know about them.
3. 3 Keep conversations to yourself. This is great if you have friends, but be prepared not to hang out with them too much. Unless, of course, you are going to become one of those people who are reserved among strangers, but chatter with might and main among friends.
   • If there is something that you often say out loud, try to leave it in your thoughts. This is, of course, easier said than done.
   • If you're usually in the middle of a crowd at school, try sitting in a corner or in the back. At lunchtime, sit at the edge instead of in the center.
   • If you really want to say something, think about what it is, for at least 5 seconds.
4. 4 Be discreet and unsmiling at all times.
5. 5 Try to be indifferent and indifferent to some things.
6. 6 If you are standing in a classroom or walking with friends, take a pose against the wall: lean on it by crossing your arms or placing them in your pockets. Your leg should be bent and flat against the wall.
7. 7 Don't smile or laugh. If something seems funny to you, limit yourself to a grin or a smirk that means something like, "That was stupid." If you laugh a lot, people think you are an open person, and you wouldn't want that, would you?
8. 8 Don't watch TV too often. You can watch a couple of programs if no one is around. It may sound harmless, but if you are caught watching entertainment shows, no one will believe your indifference. So don't give them a reason.
9. 9 Rehearse your emotions. Analyze your usual reactions to events (knowing yourself comes in handy here) and decide what you want to hide and what to change. You may hate football, but right now is the time to sit next to the families and pretend you are enjoying the game. This is probably the hardest part, but if you try, it can be done.
10. 10 Start reading a book or drawing. You shouldn't go to play football or play active sports. If you are going to swim or skate, take a look around first. It is unlikely that you will seem to someone restrained and mysterious if you flounder in the water with might and main or hold on to the support while riding.
11. 11 Don't share your feelings or share your opinions with anyone other than close friends and family. Try not to show your emotions to others, as this will make you appear more secretive.
12. 12 Begin to be interested in the downsides of familiar objects. Learn to journal and write. Poets seem secretive and mysterious, and poetry is a great way to express your emotions.
13. 13 Reading is a wonderful thing. Jane Austen, Charlotte Brontë and Alexandre Dumas have written wonderful books. They will expand your vocabulary and impress many people.
14. 14 Be quiet, but speak up when someone speaks to you. Try to look friendly, you don't want to look rude! To get a guy's attention, be mysterious, give him a sultry look, and step into the shadows. He will want to follow you!

Tips

• When typing a message, do not use emoticons and funny shortcuts. Just write, "This is funny." This may be strange at first, but it will take you more seriously.
• Never treat others with disdain. If someone is trying to pull you into a conversation when you wanted to talk to someone else, make the conversation pleasant but short.
• If you've always said everything you think about out loud and risked getting yourself into trouble, now, trying to say it to yourself, you can think about anything and not get into trouble.
• Never voice your despair or confusion in front of people. If you see your enemy or someone you don't like, don't show them your attitude.
• To be quiet is to be polite. So be polite.
• If someone comes up to you and asks why you never speak, look directly into their eyes and ask: "Why are you never silent?"

Warnings

• People may ask why you don't want to talk.
• Some people will call you weird. Do not treat this as an insult, but take it for a compliment.
• Someone may not want to spend a lot of time in your company.
• You may be called morose.
• People may feel that you don't like them anymore, and they will start to avoid you.
• If you are too secretive, others, especially your parents, may think that something is wrong. Stay calm and don't overdo it.
• Just because you want to be discreet doesn't mean you shouldn't have friends. There may be many of them, but you will still remain secretive. It all depends on how you present yourself.