Author:
Florence Bailey
Date Of Creation:
21 March 2021
Update Date:
2 July 2024
Content
Hugging the shoulders of the person you are on a date is usually the first step towards closer communication. If you are a brave girl who is ready to take the initiative in her own hands, or a timid young man who does not know how to take the first step, you need to find a way to hug the person in a way that looks cute and natural, and not awkward. Practice making sure everything runs smoothly.
Steps
1 Make sure you pick the right moment. While hugging your shoulders doesn't mean upsetting the person's privacy, it usually suggests that you are interested in a closer romantic relationship. Before deciding to hug someone, make sure there is already something between you. If this is your first date, you can hurry things up with this gesture, especially if both of you are determined to get to know each other well. If you are sure that you have no romantic feelings for this person, but want to be friends, it is best not to hug him, so as not to create the wrong impression, because it will simply not be fair. 
2 Check if the person is ready for your gesture. Do you feel like a girl or guy wants to take your hand or hug? If you know how to recognize all the signs, you will know when she or he wants to get closer. It will help you muster up your courage! 
3 Choose the right time and place. There are inappropriate moments (for example, he is eating noodles with sauce, or she tries on a new pair of shoes), and there are suitable ones. Pick a moment that will promote romance, and wait - the necessary conditions will develop by themselves. Suitable conditions include: - A romantic, sad or scary movie scene in a cinema. Cinemas are simply made for hugs, because they have all the necessary conditions: darkness, a short distance, the possible need to be calmed (or calmed) during a scary or sad moment in the film, the convenience of sitting in an armchair and the inability to look at each other (that is, something that might prevent you from hugging the person calmly). Try not to ruin everything by trying to hug a girl or boy at the wrong time (for example, during a bed or adrenaline-filled scene). Emotional or scary moments are most appropriate.
- During the walk. If you are walking close to each other and talking, you can discreetly hug the girl or guy with your hand. This moment should coincide with a serious discussion of something or with a sympathetic conversation. Talking about politics or too everyday topics will not work. This is best done when you are together admiring the beauty of a species or flowers along the path.
- During a party.If you are sitting next to you, you can easily hug your passion. You can also do this after something important has been announced or a toast has been made. Place your hand gently on the girl's or boy's shoulders as a friendly gesture.
4 Make sure you are close enough to each other so that you do not have to reach out. Hugs should be light and relaxed - you shouldn't strain or hang from your partner. Try to get into a comfortable position and move closer to your crush. Do not try to hug the person if you suspect that you might lose your balance and hang on to the girl or boyfriend. It is best to sit or stand to the side with your shoulders close. 
5 If you're shy, combine your arm movement with another movement to make your gesture seem casual and natural. For example, offer a girl your jacket if it's cold outside, and then leave your hands on her shoulders. Accompany any compliment with a hug. Or you can just go shopping together, and while he or she is looking at something, discreetly hug him or her. 
6 Do everything in a humorous manner. Ask a guy or a girl: "If you were a pirate, on which shoulder would you have a parrot - on this (point to the shoulder closest to you) or on that (point to the shoulder farthest from you)?" When you touch the far shoulder, hold your hand on it, hugging the person. - There is also a more personal option. Ask this: "If you were a Casanova, would you kiss someone on this or that cheek?"
7 Be confident, but don't overdo it. If you feel like the moment is right, listen to yourself and trust that the person you are dating is ready for a hug. If this person screams, pulls your hand, or asks you to remove it, this will mean either that you were in a hurry, or that nothing will ever work out for you. Be polite, remove your hand with a short apology and offer to do something else. You will need to consider this reaction and perhaps even discuss it with your partner.
Method 1 of 1: Classic Yawning and Lowering Your Hand on Your Shoulder
A trick of yawning, coughing, or stretching might work, but the gesture has been used so often in hackneyed comedies that you'll need to present it with humor. We are only talking about it here to give you information if you decide to do this trick.
1 Choose a suitable location. This can be done in a movie, in a bar, or anywhere you sit next to. 
2 Wait for your partner to relax. He or she should be comfortable, cozy, and the atmosphere should be inviting. 
3 Start yawning. Bring your hand to your mouth to hide the yawn. 
4 Then reach up. Raise the hand that is closest to the girl or boyfriend, as if it were part of the whole stretching process. 
5 Lowering your hand down, "accidentally" place it on your partner's shoulder. Ready.
Tips
- If she likes you, you have nothing to fear. Forward!
- Get ready to laugh at what you want to do. If a girl asks if you're trying to hug her, laugh and hug her.
- Do not be afraid if something does not work out - this happens very often.
Warnings
- Don't try to hug anyone if you've just gotten back from the gym, got out of bed after an illness, or just haven't taken a shower for several days. This movement of your hand will fill the entire room with your scent, and you don't need it.
- When trying to hug someone, try to put your hand on your shoulders or shoulder blades. Don't grab the girl or boyfriend by the buttocks - this will be considered harassment, unless you are in a close relationship.
