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• Part 1 of 3: Show your best self
• Part 2 of 3: Do your best
• Part 3 of 3: Avoid pushing yourself

Wanting to be liked is a natural instinct. Wanting to have a best friend is also something most people long for. The problem is, not everyone knows how to do this. You can increase your chances of people wanting to befriend you by showing your best self, wanting to work for it, and knowing when you put it too hard.

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Part 1 of 3: Show your best self

1. Radiate confidence. People tend to rally behind those who are very confident. Self-confident people are often admired and welcome guests. When you radiate confidence, even if you don't have much of it, you will likely attract more people.
   • The key to effective and engaging self-confidence is not to appear cocky or self-centered. Just walk with your back straight, shoulders back and head high. Look people in the eye and smile when you talk to them.
   • Don't pretend to be better than others by not speaking to them or ignoring them. Make everyone you meet feel great.
2. Don't talk negatively about yourself. As funny as it can be to make yourself the subject of a good joke, don't overdo it. People don't like to hang out with someone who is always talking about themselves - be it positive or negative.
   • For example, within your circle of friends, don't make negative comments such as, "I'm fat" or "I look awful". People like to hang out with people who feel good about themselves because that kind of confidence is infectious.
   • In fact, belittling yourself is a way of saying that you have low self-esteem. So, avoid such language at all costs.
3. Start conversations. You can't expect people to want to get to know you if you don't hang out with anyone. Engage in conversations with people whenever and wherever you can. You never know, you might bump into your new best friend in line at the till.
   • Practice what you will say to someone when you are alone. You can talk about the weather, the local sports team, bizarre celebrity news, or whatever you want. Having a topic prepared can help you feel more confident trying to start a conversation with someone you don't know.
4. Join a social group to meet new people. If you want to meet new people and potential best friends, you have to have new experiences. You are not going to meet anyone if you are not willing to try new things. Finding people who are interested in who you are is a great start to make friends.
   • Join groups or take classes that interest you. This gives you a good chance of finding someone who likes the same things you do. You can also ask your friends and family to meet their friends or talk to people who share the same religious beliefs as you.Very meaningful relationships can start because of shared interests.
5. Be the person you want to be friends with. Is there a particular personality or trait that you find attractive when looking for friends? If so, adopt that property. This doesn't mean you should pretend - just try to incorporate this into your demeanor.
   • For example, if you love people who go out of their way to take care of others, do that yourself. If you admire people who take risks, start taking your own risk. Be spontaneous and get out of your comfort zone. Not only will you likely find that you become happier, but that new friends are naturally drawn to you.

Part 2 of 3: Do your best

1. Be available. A person is not going to be eager to become your best friend if you don't seem willing to put the time and effort into the friendship. Good best friends are there when you need them. Make sure you are there for those around you and spend time with them when you can. By showing that you are really interested in their happiness and well-being, they will see that you are a true friend.
   • This could mean sending text messages to keep in touch, bringing soup when someone isn't feeling well, sacrificing time when people need help, and opening up. This can make you feel vulnerable, but it increases your chances of finding a best friend.
2. Be interested. People generally like to talk about themselves. This doesn't have to be arrogant, it's just how one best relates to others - through their own stories. Find out everything you can about potential friends. Show your interest by asking questions that motivate the other to speak.
   • Ask questions such as, "What do you like most?", "Why did you choose this career path?" Or "Who is the person who influenced you the most"? Asking such questions can help you get to know them on a personal level and can be the start of a good friendship.
3. Spend time together. It's hard to maintain a relationship with someone you don't see. This can also make them feel like they aren't worth your time. Do what you can to share your time with friends and they will see that you think they are worth it.
   • While it's fun to go out and attend events together, you don't always have to do something. Just being in the same room together and chatting about what is happening in your life is often more satisfying.
4. Make people feel good about themselves. Part of a good friend is acting as a supporter. You have the ability to make others feel good about themselves, and this is something you should do for your boyfriend. When you can make others feel more positive and support them, they will likely be grateful for your friendship, which can make it stronger.
5. Be trustworthy. What sets a best friend apart from other friends is your ability to share with them. Best friends have secrets that are kept between them. You can show your ability to be a best friend by being honest with your friends and keeping their secrets.
   • If a friend tells you something, don't share it with anyone else. Unless your friend is in danger, of course, you shouldn't talk about it.
   • Reliable people are also honest. If a friend asks you a serious question, tell the truth, even if it hurts. Suppose a good friend asks, "Do you think I should go a step further with Peter?" Then show your concern by saying, "I think you should wait until you are sure that he really cares about you."

Part 3 of 3: Avoid pushing yourself

1. Do not keep in touch. If your friendship relationship is still developing, you don't want to scare the person off by connecting too much. Texting and calling several times a day is often a bit exaggerated and can lead to the other person not wanting to be friends with you.
   • In the beginning, it is ideal not to contact more than every few days, or when you want to do something together. You will be able to reach out more over time, but only if you've been friends for a while.
   • A good rule of thumb is to start from the other. Respond to texts or calls when the other person texts or calls you. If you haven't heard from the other after a few days, you can get in touch, but only once. Bombarding people with text messages and phone calls will only scare them off.
2. Know when to back off. If you made the mistake of imposing yourself, you may be able to save the friendship by taking a step back. By giving the person space, they may be more inclined to become good friends.
   • If your calls and texts go unanswered, your invitations to spend time together are often declined, or you just feel like something is going wrong, the other person may be taking more distance. You can ask what happened, or try to give the other person more space and see if the friendship works better.
3. Give the friendship time to grow. Like any relationship, this friendship takes time to blossom. Don't expect too much too soon. Once you've found someone you click with, you may want to take the opportunity to spend as much time together as possible. However, your new friend may shy away from this.
   • Take it slow and give your friendship time to develop into something strong and durable.