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• Method 1 of 5: Examining your self-confidence
• Method 2 of 5: Understanding your personality type
• Method 3 of 5: Assess yourself for your work
• Method 4 of 5: Measure your stress level
• Method 5 of 5: Seek help from others
• Tips

You are constantly changing and growing through your personality and life experience. That's why it's important to take the time now and then to analyze yourself. Self-analyzes help you to investigate where you stand in different aspects of your life. With this information you will be better able to make the necessary adjustments in your life so that you move forward.

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Method 1 of 5: Examining your self-confidence

1. Think about your childhood experiences. Understanding who you are and why you do things is not always easy. Your behavior and self-image are largely driven by unconscious attitudes and beliefs. It's important to dig deep to find out how you really see yourself on the subconscious level. Here are a few questions you might want to ask yourself:
   • Did I feel heard as a child or felt strongly criticized?
   • Was I talked to in a respectful way or was I ignored, criticized, or teased?
   • Did I get enough attention and love or was I neglected?
   • Have I been physically, verbally or sexually assaulted?
   • Have my achievements been recognized?
   • Were my shortcomings and failures accepted or was I reprimanded?
   • Was I always expected to be perfect?
2. Monitor your moods. Keep a diary all day long. If you feel your mood change, write down what you feel. This is the first step in learning to identify what your inner voice is saying to you.
   • This inner voice is not a voice that you hear with your ears. Instead, it is the collection of the thoughts you experience. These thoughts are often so deep in your subconscious that you often don't even recognize them when you have them. Often you just notice a change in your mood.
   • Your inner voice can be either affirmative or undermining. Self-confident people often experience their inner voice as accepting and reassuring. But people with low self-confidence often experience their inner voice as harsh, punitive and critical.
   • Keeping a journal can be tough for some people. Especially if you have to write about trauma that you have not fully processed yet. If you find keeping your journal so difficult that it negatively affects your life during the day or week of writing in your journal, talk to a therapist who can help make journal writing more productive and keep you healthy to keep.
3. Write down what you think. The thoughts you were thinking just before your mood changed are good reflectors of what your inner voice is saying. These thoughts are called automatic thoughts and they often reflect how you see yourself, others and the world. If you write these thoughts down all day, it is easier to see if there is a pattern in it.
   • Automatic thoughts are subconscious and therefore often difficult to define. You can start by asking yourself why you feel this way. Then dig deeper by asking yourself what that thought says about you and why you feel the way you feel.
   • The first few answers are often superficial. Keep asking until you get deeper into your automatic thoughts.
   • For example, if something a co-worker said at work angered you, write down at the beginning, “Andrea said what I did was wrong. That made me angry. She made me look incompetent. ” But after you continue asking, you may come to deeper thoughts and realize that you thought you were less good at something than everyone else.
4. Evaluate your thinking patterns. After you have written down a number of automatic thoughts, you will probably notice that a pattern emerges. Ask yourself what the underlying theme of your thoughts is. Are they healthy and liberating or negative and undermining. Common thinking patterns that arise from negative automatic thoughts are, for example:
   • Think all or nothing. This is when someone thinks that a misstep is making him or her or the whole situation a failure. For example, if you make a mistake on your work and immediately think you are bad at what you do.
   • Disqualify the positive. This is when someone only focuses on what he or she did wrong and forgets or ignores the good that he or she has done. This way, someone can fully focus on the one question he or she got wrong on a test while all other questions were correct.
   • Jumping to conclusions too quickly. This is when you pass judgment without having all the facts. For example, if you see your best friend running away from you in the parking garage and immediately think that he or she is trying to avoid you. Also, your friend may have just been late for an appointment and not seen you.
   • Tagging. This is when someone puts a label on themselves or another without acknowledging the action or behavior. For example, instead of "I could have done that differently" you immediately think "I'm a bad person."
5. Investigate whether you have healthy or low self-confidence. Healthy self-confidence shows that someone thinks he or she is valuable and worthwhile. On the other hand, someone with low self-confidence often has poor self-esteem and needs a lot of approval from others.If you find yourself having a lot of negative thoughts about yourself, you may have low self-confidence. Low self-confidence has a negative impact on your self-image, so it is important that you work on a healthy and balanced self-image. If you're not sure if you have a negative self-image, consider whether these three faces of a negative self-image sound familiar to you:
   • The Victim: This person pretends to be powerless and often waits for others to come and rescue him or her. He or she often uses self-pity or indifference to mask underlying performance anxiety. He or she is often not assertive, may underperform, and rely heavily on others for reassurance.
   • The Scammer: This person acts as if he or she is happy when in fact he or she is burdened with a tremendous fear of failure. This person must always succeed in order to be happy. This often leads to perfectionism, competition, or burnout.
   • The Rebel: This person tries to make others seem less important. Especially people with authority. He or she is often very angry that he or she is not good enough and often focuses on not being hurt by the criticism of others. This can lead him or her to blame others for problems and to turn against authority.

Method 2 of 5: Understanding your personality type

1. Take a piece of paper and put it in front of you. Lay it sideways so that the long side faces you. Make sure to put it on a hard surface for easy writing.
2. Draw vertical lines across the paper. Make sure they are equidistant from each other. You are going to write in the gaps between the lines so make sure there is enough space.
3. Write one of the following terms next to the vertical lines: "Extraversion", "Emotional Instability", "Carefulness", "Service", and "Openness to New Experiences". These are the "Big Five" dimensions of personality. Most researchers agree that these 5 dimensions represent the general components of a personality that are important in interpersonal interactions.
   • Keep in mind that these "Big Five" dimensions are not personality types but only parts (dimensions) of a personality. For example, someone can score high on "Service" but low on "Extraversion" (sociality). This person is probably not very social but is also very nice at the same time.
   • The trait "Emotional Stability" is also referred to as "Neuroticism". Neuroticism is at the other end of the Emotional Stability – Instability dimension.
   • For example, "Openness To New Experiences" is also called "Intellect". These terms are interchangeable.
4. See where you are in all five dimensions. People generally fall either high or low on any dimension. Think about where exactly you are. Write "High" or "Low" in each corresponding box on your paper. Here are descriptions of each trait to help you find out where you are:
   • Extraversion reflects a great interest in other people and events. Very outgoing people are often very confident and have no problem exploring undiscovered territory. People who score low on the extroversion scale are called introverts and often prefer quiet environments.
   • Emotional Instability refers to your fear level. People who score high in this regard often feel negative emotions more strongly than people who score low. If you often worry and can get through that, you can put yourself high in this category.
   • Openness to New Experiences is about whether someone is willing to adjust their thinking when they discover new information. If you score high here, you are probably unconventional and a free bird. If you score low here, you are probably more conventional and predictable in your thinking patterns.
   • Carefulness is about how much you think about others when you make a decision. It also reflects how much control you have over yourself. If you score high here, you are likely to be disciplined, well-organized, and functioning well on your own. If you score low here, you are more likely to follow your impulses and thrive in freer and constantly changing environments.
   • Service is about how well you can relate to other people. It also says something about how much someone cares about others. If you score high here, you are probably quite empathetic and can understand people easily and quickly. You are probably often described as nice and sweet. If you score low here, you focus less on emotions when you determine how you behave. There is often a dividing line between the sexes here as women generally score higher here and men usually lower.
5. Think about how these traits affect your personality. People often choose their behavior and environment based on what is comfortable for their personality. This self-assessment can give you a lot of insight into why you do the things you do.
   • People can score high or low in all dimensions. However, 45 different combinations are possible if all possibilities are combined.

Method 3 of 5: Assess yourself for your work

1. Pick a good time. Make sure you have at least an hour to reflect. During this time you will focus on your habits, goals, skills and your overall job performance. With an hour, you also have enough time to review your notes and other information to make a good assessment of yourself.
2. Write down everything you have achieved at work in the past year. Don't be shy and write down all the good things you have done. It is good to be proud of yourself. The biggest goal of assessing yourself is to show your performance. Think of all the projects you have worked on, additional responsibilities you have taken on and all the other ways in which you are valuable to your organization. Where possible, use specific examples for your assessment.
   • Looking through your emails is a good way to see what you've accomplished in this year. Just so you don't forget anything.
   • If there is a place like a log or data on your computer where your work is documented, you can look through it to refresh your memory.
   • Ask yourself questions to help you estimate. For example, you can ask yourself whether your efforts have helped the company further or in what way you took on a leadership role.
3. If you find it difficult to identify your achievements, use the STAR method. This method makes it easier to figure out when exactly you helped your company. You can do this more often in succession and then you have an extensive list of achievements. Here's how the STAR method works:
   • Identify the (S) ituation: briefly describe a situation in which you felt proud of your work performance.
   • Describe the (T) barge you had to perform in this situation.
   • Describe the (A) ction you took to perform the task.
   • Emphasize the (R) es results you achieved through your action.
4. Write down areas in which you would like to develop. It may be tempting to focus only on what you have achieved, but it is important to remain objective in your self-analysis. Look at things where you can be more effective or times when you haven't reached your goal. If you also look at your challenges, you will get a more accurate picture of your work performance.
   • While you use this opportunity to reflect on yourself, it can help to read your supervisor's feedback so that you have some honest feedback on your job performance.
5. Make a list of 5 or 6 goals you want to achieve in the next year. This part of your self-analysis is your action plan and you should focus on things you can do to improve your job performance. Make sure your goals clearly show that you will continue to be of value to your business.

Method 4 of 5: Measure your stress level

1. List recent changes in your life. Changes such as getting married or having a child or being promoted can be good. They can also be less good. Just ask someone who has lost their job or is getting divorced. Remember that all kinds of changes can be stressful as you adjust to your new life. Take a minute and write down any stressful changes you have experienced in the last six months.
2. Think about your standards and values. If the way you live your life doesn't match your values ​​or beliefs, it can cause a lot of stress. For example, if you find ambition and competition important but you feel that you are stuck in a boring job with no growth potential, it can lead to stress because your norms and values ​​do not match your life. When your belief and value system does not match your current life, you can feel stressed and unhappy. Here are some questions you can ask yourself to find out if the difference between your values ​​and your current life is causing a higher stress level:
   • Which norms and values ​​do you find important? Friendliness? Honesty? Good luck? Spend time with your family?
   • Is there a conflict between your behavior and these values? Suppose you care about time with your family. Are you spending enough time with your family or is there anything stopping you from doing so?
   • Is there a conflict between your work, relationships, friendships or other areas of your life and these values? Take the example above. Is your job preventing you from spending time with your family?
3. Evaluate your environment. Where you live, work and spend your time can have a major impact on your stress level. If you are surrounded by crime, crowds, noise, pollution, junk or other unpleasant things in your environment, this can lead to more stress. See to what extent your environment influences your stress level.
4. Think about your personal problems and social factors. Personal problems and social factors can have a major influence on your stress level. Here are some things to keep in mind when examining how these aspects affect your stress level:
   • Finances: Do you have enough money to provide for your basic needs such as housing, food, clothing and transportation?
   • Family: Are there any problems between you and your partner or children or do you need to take care of an older family member?
   • Health: What about the health of you and your loved ones?
5. Monitor your sleep. Too little sleep has a major impact on your life and of course also has an effect on your stress level. Keep track of how many hours you sleep each night. While everyone needs a different amount of sleep, generally speaking, as an adult, getting less than 6 to 8 hours of sleep per night can affect the rest of your life. This can increase your stress level. Here are some of the things that can be affected by too little sleep:
   • Thinking and learning is slower
   • More accidents happen
   • Health problems such as higher risk of diabetes and even death
   • More depression and forgetfulness
   • Lower libido
   • Early aging and weight gain
   • Less good judgment
6. See how you can lower your stress level in these areas. Make a list of things you can do to improve your life. The purpose of self-analysis is, of course, to use reflection to grow.

Method 5 of 5: Seek help from others

1. Visit a therapist or counselor. Some people think that therapy is only necessary when you have problems that seem insurmountable, but that is anything but true. A counselor or therapist can help you with your self-analysis because he or she is a trained, impartial person who understands people's usual stumbling points.
   • People go to a therapist for a variety of reasons. That could be for trauma from their past or for learning to deal with life. There is no bad reason to seek help, it is a sign of strength and good care for yourself when you seek help.
   • A therapist also offers a safe, pleasant environment in which you can explore your own thoughts and feelings. He or she will not judge you or make you feel bad for having certain thoughts. Such an environment can be very good for discovering yourself.
2. Find an expert in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). CBT is a type of psychotherapy that focuses on the relationship between your thoughts, feelings and behavior. For example, a therapist trained in CBT can help you discover negative thinking patterns that cause low self-esteem. A professional CBT therapist can teach you new ways to think and behave that will help you lead a happier, healthier life.
   • CBT has been proven to help with a variety of conditions such as anxiety, depression, or sleep disorders. Even people with chronic pain can be helped by CBT.
3. See if you can find a trauma specialist if you have trauma. If you found out during your self-analysis that you have trauma you need to learn to deal with, it can help if you find a therapist who specializes in trauma. It may take time and effort to work you through trauma from your past, but a trained specialist can help you with it.
   • CBT is a very common treatment method for people with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Other treatment methods include exposure therapy where you have to talk a lot about your trauma and eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) therapy where you focus on physical stimuli while thinking or talking about your traumatic memories.
4. Find someone you feel comfortable with. There are many ways to find a therapist. You can search the internet, ask your doctor or friends for a referral, or just call clinics. The key to successful therapy is realizing that it is a relationship and that you are comfortable with your therapist. You don't have to be comfortable with all of your topics of conversation, but you should feel that your therapist is there to support you. If you don't get along with your therapist after a few sessions, you may want to try another one.
5. Know the difference between different types of therapists. Psychiatrists and psychologists are not the only people who can provide mental health care. There are many mental health specialists who can help you, so know your options. Below are some of those specialists:
   • Psychiatrists are doctors. They diagnose illnesses, prescribe medication and offer therapy. Because they are specialized and well trained, they are very suitable for people with more serious conditions.
   • Psychologists have a degree in psychology. They can diagnose and provide therapy.
   • A social worker is someone who can help you on a local level with a number of issues. They can put you in touch with other emergency services on your turn and help you build relationships in your area.
   • A psychiatric nurse is a nurse who specializes in psychiatric care. They provide therapy and support.
   • Marriage and family therapists specialize in helping with marriages and family problems. They offer therapy.
   • There are other therapists who can help. These may not be able to prescribe medication, but can still help by offering therapy.

Tips

• Regular self-analysis is important so that you can be honest about your strengths and the things in which you can develop further. A self-analysis helps you to set healthier and more effective goals. You will also develop a greater understanding of your core standards and values ​​and the things you believe in by conducting a self-analysis. This allows you to lead a fulfilled life in harmony with those norms and values.
• Your self-analysis may reveal a number of things that you are unsure about. Which is good. The goal is to recognize them so that you can grow through them.
• Make sure your self-analysis is focused on yourself. Don't take it as a time to start blaming others for things.
• There are tests available on the internet to better understand where you are on the Big Five personality dimensions.