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• Method 1 of 4: Be mature emotionally
• Method 2 of 4: Behave correctly
• Method 3 of 4: Growing up intellectually
• Method 4 of 4: Communicate in an adult way

Teens are often told by their parents or older friends and siblings that they are immature. Therefore, you may wish to grow older and more mature. Usually maturity comes with age; you may not be able to truly grow up without going through a number of different stages of life. Still, you naturally want to appear as mature as possible to others, and you can achieve that in a number of ways. Try to appear more mature by improving your behavior, your emotional responses, your intellectual skills, and the way you communicate.

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Method 1 of 4: Be mature emotionally

1. Don't take your emotions out on others. To appear mature, you must learn to deal with the less pleasant feelings you experience, such as anger, disappointment, or shame. Swearing or yelling at others because you feel so bad will not make you appear more mature. Rather, try to find healthier ways to vent your emotions and express your feelings.
   • First, try to understand why you feel that way. Answer these three questions: what happened before, what do you feel inside your body and how would you describe that feeling?
   • Then decide how you can express this feeling without hurting yourself or others. You could write in your journal, let off some steam by exercising or exercising, or listen to certain music that reflects the emotions you are having at the time.
2. Take responsibility for your behavior. If you do something wrong, it is no use blaming someone else or making an excuse. By blaming others, you can ruin your relationships with others. Moreover, as a person you will never be able to learn and grow if you do not accept the consequences of your behavior.
   • Go for it and take full responsibility if you make a mistake. Do this by immediately admitting that you did something wrong. This can be as simple as saying, "It's not my day" or "Sorry, that was my fault." If you hurt someone, apologize. Then try to figure out how to make it right.
   • For example, if you left the back door open and the cat ran away, admit it. For example, you can say, "I'm sorry. I left the back door open. I will go to the neighbors and ask if they may have seen the cat. "
3. Think before you act. Being an adult means thinking about the consequences of your behavior. Always take a few seconds before doing or saying anything to think about the possible consequences of your words or actions. Reacting impulsively may feel good at the moment, but it can cause you problems in the long run.
   • Before you make a decision or do something, always wait a while to avoid reacting impulsively. First, take a few deep breaths.
   • Ask yourself, "What does my conscience say about this? Am I going to get this, or maybe someone else? How would I feel if someone else did this to me, and what will I feel like when I do this? "
   • For example, a friend of yours asks if you don't want to skip school. You could wait a moment and take a deep breath. Think about why you would do this; maybe you just want to socialize with your friends. Next, think about what could happen if you do it: You could get caught and get in trouble at home and at school.
   • Doing this before every choice you make will help you make wise decisions.
4. Do your best to be grateful. Adults are more likely to respect and admire you when you learn to appreciate the things you have. Try to complain less about what you don't have, and express gratitude more often instead.
   • At the end of each day, write in a notebook or journal three things that went well that day. Then think about those positive events or consequences for a moment. Try to absorb positive feelings about those things.

Method 2 of 4: Behave correctly

1. Follow the rules. If you want to behave in a mature manner, you will have to respect the leaders. Wherever you are, at home, at school or at work, you will have to adhere to certain rules set by authoritative persons. Sometimes those rules are meant to protect you and other people, so stick to them.
   • It is very normal that as a teenager you sometimes want to go against the rules. If you want to discuss certain rules with your parents, teachers, or other adults, present your arguments in a respectful manner. That way, an adult is more likely to listen to you.
   • For example, you could say, "Dad, Mom, I am now fifteen, and I think I should be allowed to come home a little later. I am always home on time and I never have any problems. What do you think?'
2. Try to be a leader. One of the best ways to appear more mature is to show that you feel responsible in different areas of your life. Get involved in class, get used to good study habits, and sign up for an extracurricular activity. If you think you have enough time, see if you can be on the board of a club or captain of your team, or take a side job.
3. Show that you are mature by taking responsibility for everything you do. Keep your promises and try to save yourself and manage your own affairs as best you can. If you run into trouble for any reason, be honest and accept all possible consequences of what you have done. By taking responsibility for your actions, you can show your parents and others how mature you are.
   • For example, if your friends invite you to a slumber party, but you already agreed to babysit your younger siblings before that night, politely tell your friends that you can't. That can be difficult, but being an adult means keeping your promises and giving people confidence that you will do what you said.
4. Show that you good manners have. Good manners show you respect others. If you behave properly, adults are more likely to see you as more mature. Good manners include a lot of different behaviors, such as speaking with two words ('yes sir / ma'am'), saying your first and last name when you answer the phone, not interrupting others when speaking, eat with your mouth closed and hold the door open for the person walking behind you.
   • They have probably already explained many of the decency standards mentioned above. Still, to find out more, you might want to ask your parents or other adults something like, "How can I show that I have good manners?"
5. Clean up your mess behind you. An adult does not expect others to follow him or her to clean up his or her mess. If you are a teenager and would like to grow up, start by cleaning up your own mess. That means that after dinner you wash your plate, throw away any leftovers and wipe the table. You also have to put the games, videos and books back in their place after use.
   • Always keep your room tidy by putting dirty clothes in the laundry basket and by putting your clean clothes in drawers or in the closet. Make your bed every morning as soon as you get up. Hang your school bag on a hook behind the door and don't leave it lying on the floor. Place your shoes neatly in a row under your bed or on shelves in your wardrobe so your parents don't trip over them.
   • Make cleaning up easier by setting an egg timer or a stopwatch to 20 minutes once a day and tidy up your room. Put some music on to make the time go faster.
6. Develop smart and healthy habits. An adult teen is able to say "no" to bad behavior. Drinking alcohol, using drugs, lying, stealing, fighting, reckless behavior or destroying someone else's property will only get you in trouble or harm yourself. Therefore, do not use drugs, put on your seat belt in the car and stay away from people who could have a negative influence on you.

Method 3 of 4: Growing up intellectually

1. Know what's going on in the world. Read about the latest news and other important events in the newspaper and consult reliable sources on the Internet. Do not rely on information that ends up on your newsfeed via social media. Do your best to keep up with the news through other sources so you can join the conversation about what's going on in the world around you.
   • Discuss the events you read about with your parents or other adults. For example, you can ask: "Dad, what do you think about Rutte's latest bill?"
   • Consult sources on the internet such as NOS, NU.nl, de Volkskrant, Metro and Trouw. Read the newspaper in the morning and also regularly browse academic or news magazines in the library to see if there are any topics that interest you.
2. Read books. Whether you are reading a book about things that really happened in the world or made up stories, reading can be a great hobby. Reading books not only makes you wiser, but you can also learn a lot of new words. This can help you to understand certain texts better and you can also learn to write better yourself. Moreover, reading can also be very relaxing.
   • Read More Learn to love reading and make it a daily habit. Choose books on topics you find interesting, such as airplanes or ancient Egypt.
3. Use your ability to to think critically. Critical thinking is about the way you solve a problem. For example, you can choose the first option that comes to mind right away, or you can take a moment to look at the problem from different angles before choosing an answer. Being able to think critically can help you better assess the consequences of what you do, better estimate the reliability of information, and learn to think more creatively.
   • An excellent way to learn to think more critically is through board games. Plan a game night with your family and / or with your best friends. Suitable games are, for example Monopoly, Rummikub and Clever.

Method 4 of 4: Communicate in an adult way

1. Make sure you are clear communicates. Many adolescents and teenagers communicate in a way that their teachers and parents often scratch their heads. If you want to appear mature, try to speak in a way that others will understand. When speaking, use whole words, not abbreviations or quick writing. Write complete sentences and pay attention to your spelling.
   • If you'd like to learn how to properly converse with others, ask your parents to practice role-playing with you.
2. Try to listen actively. Many teens think they already know everything, which is why they often don't want to listen to others. A sign of maturity is knowing that you can learn something from everyone. Try to listen rather than talk.
   • A good rule of thumb is to listen primarily to understand what is being said, rather than respond to it. Find out what the other person is trying to say to you. Don't interrupt or rush to say what you think. Wait until the other person has finished talking. Then try to summarize what he or she said.
   • For example, your mother says, "I have to get out of town this weekend and I prefer you not to stay home alone." I think it is better to stay with the Wijnands family. "Then you can answer:" I understand that you would rather not have me here alone. No problem. I can ask if Patricia's parents are okay with me sleeping there. "
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   Don't use slang and do your best not to swear. If you are really alone with your friends, you can of course use slang or other informal expressions. But when talking to adults, try to use and pronounce all words correctly. Don't try to exclude adults by using words or phrases they don't know. Also, try not to swear or swear, as this shows that you have no respect for others.