Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 4: Stop Communication
• Method 2 of 4: Get Rid of Painful Feelings
• Method 3 of 4: Lead a Social Life
• Method 4 of 4: Think Future
• Tips
• Warnings

Parting with a loved one is always a painful process. Each person experiences a breakup in their own way, and each has to find for himself how to cope with the pain and move on. There are many ways to overcome the painful consequences of a breakup. Find the most suitable way out of this situation for yourself. And remember, it takes time to deal with pain. So please be patient!

Steps

Method 1 of 4: Stop Communication

1. 1 Maintain your distance. Break the relationship with your ex-girlfriend completely. The more often you see her, the stronger your pain will be. Make the necessary adjustments to your schedule so you don't see your ex.
   • Avoid places your ex-girlfriend often visits. Don't go to her favorite restaurants, cafes, or shops.
   • Also, do not go to companies and events where she may be present. Otherwise, memories may flood you, which can lead to depression and bad mood. If both you and your ex have received an invitation to the party, tell the person who invited you that you are busy. It's better to skip the party than fight the frustration and pain later.
2. 2 Get rid of all the things that might remind you of this girl. Remove all of her belongings from your room. Get rid of everything that reminds you of her. The girl's clothes will remind you of her and the pain she has caused you, so take them all away.
3. 3 Stop communicating. Forbid yourself to communicate with the girl who hurt you. Don't call her or text her. Of course, there is a chance that you will want to hear her voice, but remember that by your actions you will again open the door of pain and frustration. The more often you communicate, the more difficult it will be for you to forget her.
   • Remove her from your friends on social networks. If you do not do this, you will indirectly continue to communicate with her. This can lead to relationship nostalgia. If you think this will be a rude gesture on your part, change your news feed so that its news is not displayed. Also, remove her number from your contact list.
4. 4 Don't hang out with her friends. If you have mutual friends, try to communicate with them as little as possible. Spend time with people who don't know your ex.
   • Chat with the friends you spent time with before you started dating this girl. They will not interfere with your relationship. They can also help you recover from a breakup.

Method 2 of 4: Get Rid of Painful Feelings

1. 1 Allow yourself to feel sad. If you don't stop yourself from feeling angry and frustrated, it will be easier for you to let go of negative feelings, and you will more quickly forget the girl who hurt you.
2. 2 Set time boundaries. Decide for yourself how long you will be sad. After a certain period of time, forbid yourself to be sad and try to return to life. Stick to the set time frame.
   • Give yourself one week. During this week, you may cry, get angry, listen to sad music, or do something that will help you return to your normal life later. After a week, try to get rid of the painful feelings.
   • Don't worry if you still think about this girl. If you forbid yourself to do this, you will think about her even more. In psychology, this phenomenon is called the "white monkey effect." If you notice that you are thinking of your ex, accept the thought and then let it go.
3. 3 Talk to a loved one. Talk to a relative or friend about your feelings. By expressing what is in your heart, it will be easier for you to get rid of your pain.
   • Trust what's in your heart to your diary. If you want to stop thinking about the girl who hurt you, write down the thoughts about her in your journal. This will make it easier for you not to think about her.
   • After you've talked to a loved one or expressed your thoughts in a journal, forbid yourself to talk about this girl. If someone asks you about her, move the conversation to another topic.

Method 3 of 4: Lead a Social Life

1. 1 Go on dates. If you want to quickly recover from your breakup, find yourself a new girlfriend. If you think you are ready for a new relationship, go for it!
   • During your first few dates, try not to mention your ex. Over time, you will be able to talk about it. However, while memories are still fresh, do not discuss your past relationship.
2. 2 Lead an active social life. Even if you are not ready to build new relationships, do not miss the opportunity to connect with friends. Stay socially active.
   • Of course, after breaking up, you may want to be alone. However, do not isolate yourself from society for long. Otherwise, you will not be able to quickly recover from the breakup.
3. 3 Find new ways to stay socially active. It will be difficult for you to forget about your ex if you continue to do what you did with her. Find new hobbies and friends who share your interests.
   • Spend time in restaurants and cafes you haven’t been to before. You will be able to meet new people. There are probably many places where you have never been while dating a girl.
   • Choose a new activity for yourself that will help you find friends. An interesting activity and new friends will help you distract from thoughts related to the past. You can break the bond that holds you back with your ex-girlfriend.

Method 4 of 4: Think Future

1. 1 Set a new goal for yourself. Focus on reaching a new goal. If you feel like you miss your ex, try to focus all your thoughts on reaching a new goal.
   • Studies have shown that a person who has obsessive thoughts about their ex-girlfriend activates the same part of the brain that is responsible for the development of an irresistible urge to use drugs or alcohol. Find something more productive.
2. 2 Start going to the gym. Exercise reduces stress levels. Maintaining friendships can relieve the negative effects of stress.
3. 3 Focus on yourself. Since you have no one to care about yet, you can turn your full attention to yourself. Satisfy your needs and desires. Take care of yourself.
   • Set goals related to work or education. You may have a wonderful opportunity for a promotion or academic improvement.
4. 4 Find a new hobby. If you've always dreamed of doing something new, like learning the secrets of cooking or mastering a new sport, now is the time to make your dreams come true. You can distract yourself from sad thoughts.
5. 5 Look to the future. Remember that over time, your pain will go away. See this situation as a temporary period in your life.
   • Be prepared to change your mindset if you want to forget about the girl who hurt you. Maintain a positive attitude and constantly remind yourself that you can overcome everything. Perhaps now you feel that this is an insurmountable task. However, if you think about it this way, it can actually be difficult for you to forget your ex.

Tips

• While it is well known that strong emotions often create particularly vivid memories, remember that such memories are not always accurate. Most likely, the most pleasant moments of your relationship come to your mind.
• It takes time and patience to forget your ex. Sometimes it can take months and years to cope with your feelings. Think about the future.

Warnings

• Some people, after breaking up, begin to abuse alcohol, take psychotropic drugs without a doctor's prescription, or engage in self-harm. If you feel that you cannot handle the situation on your own, seek professional help.
• You don't need to chase your ex, her friends, or family members. This is fraught with serious consequences. If you are constantly haunted by the idea of ​​how to harm, humiliate, or otherwise take revenge on your ex-girlfriend, consult with a therapist.