Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Think About Your Communication
• Method 2 of 3: Observe his body language
• Method 3 of 3: Chat with your friend
• Tips
• Warnings

How a guy treats you says a lot about how he thinks of you. Does he see you as a potential candidate for the role of his girlfriend? Or does he just see you as a friend? Is he passionate about you, or does he treat you the same way he treats his fellow kids? There are several ways to find out if your friend wants to be your boyfriend. You can look at your communication or his body language, but the best way to know for sure is to simply ask.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Think About Your Communication

1. 1 Listen to how he speaks to you. If he refers to you with some boyish nickname, then he is comfortable with you. In addition, if he calls you the same words that he calls his other boyfriends, most likely he sees you as a close friend, but nothing more. Flirtations and certain words (for example, "cute", "baby" or "pretty") indicate that you are interested in him romantically.
   • Friendly nicknames and appeals include the following: "dude", "man", "bro", "buddy".
   • If a guy is flirting, he can refer to you like this: "baby", "darling", "sweet", "beauty", "doll".
2. 2 Pay attention to what he is talking about. If your topics of conversation are limited only to sports, rude jokes, cars or video games, most likely your communication can only be called friendly. If a guy initiates you into his thoughts, tells his innermost secrets, it means that he opens up to you in a way that he does not open up to his other friends.
   • If a guy is interested in you as a girl, chances are he will compliment your sexuality and your body. If his comments with a sexual connotation are addressed to other women or women in general, this means that he sees you as just a friend.
3. 3 Keep track of how often he first starts communicating with you. If a guy doesn't text you first and doesn't start conversations, chances are you're just a friend to him. But if he constantly writes to you, calls and offers to meet, this is a sign that he wants to get to know you better.
   • If the first thing he does in the morning and the last thing he does before bed is writing to you, then he thinks of you when he is alone. Again, if the guy immediately replies to your messages, chances are he is interested in you.
   • If a guy does not answer you for a long time, it means that he sees only a friend in you.
4. 4 Pay attention to if he asks you about other guys. Perhaps this is how he is trying to figure out if you have someone.If you have mutual male friends, this guy may be worried when you see one of them, and not with him.
   • If a guy is demanding about what you have done with other men, this is a sign of a jealous and controlling nature. If your friend is trying to prevent you from hanging out and having fun with other guys, this behavior should be viewed as a signal of danger and an attempt to set boundaries for you.
5. 5 Think about how often you rest and have fun in private. If you only see a friend in a company, most likely you are trying to figure out whether he likes you or not. Try asking him to spend time together. If a guy agrees, there is still a chance that he sees in you just a friend, but if he does not want to be alone with you, this is a sign that you are not interested in him as a girl. If you often spend time alone, most likely, he really feels something for you.
   • When you stay together, perhaps he touches you in a different way than when you are in the company, maybe he talks to you on deep, serious topics. For example, it could be talking about your past relationship or uncertainty about the future. This is a sign that he trusts you. And such trust can speak of a deeper and closer relationship.
   • If alone with you he communicates in the same way as in the company of friends, this means that you are good friends, but, most likely, this also indicates that he is not interested in a romantic relationship with you.

Method 2 of 3: Observe his body language

1. 1 Try to initiate physical contact. He may be waiting for you to touch him. Sit in front of him, touching him with your leg or shoulder, and watch his reaction. You can even try putting your hand on his shoulder or touching his hand.
   • If he does not respond to you with mutual touches, then he is comfortable with you, and he sees you as a good friend.
   • If he leans forward or hugs you, it could be a sign of romantic interest in you.
   • If a guy is trying to sneak away, chances are he doesn't want physical contact. This could be a sign that he is not romantically interested in you.
2. 2 Pay attention to how far from you he usually keeps. If you are having fun somewhere (together or in a company), try to pay attention to how close he sits to you. If he usually keeps less than an arm's length from you, then he likes to be closer to you, and, most likely, he wants physical contact. Again, if he usually sits next to you in a restaurant, bar or movie, then you are more precious to him than others. Conversely, if he doesn't care where you stand or sit, most likely he sees you as just a friend.
3. 3 Pay attention to how he sits. If his body is pointing towards you, if he has "open" body language (legs open, shoulders extended), he may be showing that he is attracted to you. If he twirls objects in his hands, showing you his hands and palms, if he nods while listening to you, this can also be a sign of sympathy. Conversely, if his body is pointing in the opposite direction from you, if he has "closed" body language (that is, arms and legs crossed), most likely, between you only a friendly platonic relationship.
4. 4 Pay attention to eye contact. If he constantly looks you in the eye, especially when you are in company, it means that you are interesting and attractive to him more than others. If he catches your eye and then modestly looks the other way, this is a sure sign of sympathy.
5. 5 Watch his gestures. If he is actively gesticulating when next to you, then he is interested in what you are talking about. If the guy is actively gesturing when talking to you, if he nods during the conversation, he is trying to attract you. If he rubs his hands together, it could be a sign that he is nervous when he talks to you.Finally, if you notice that his gestures and movements are becoming similar to yours, then his body is giving a signal that this guy is interested in you.

Method 3 of 3: Chat with your friend

1. 1 Spend time together. If you want to talk about the status of your relationship, you need to find time when you can spend time alone. Ask him if he is free this weekend or next, and invite him to your place. If he disagrees or tries to find an excuse not to come, this is a sign that he is not romantically interested in you.
2. 2 Do the same things as usual. Don't ambush your friend by attacking him with a sudden question. Do something fun and interesting that you usually enjoy doing together. Play a video game, watch a movie, or discuss a sports game.
3. 3 Ask him if you can chat in private. When you feel like the time is right, pause the game or movie. You can even wait for your friend to start getting home. And then ask if he can stay for 5 minutes and talk. Tell him ahead of time that you don't want to embarrass him, but you need to clear up the confusion in your relationship. At this stage, you don't have to say whether you like it or not.
   • You can try saying, "Hey, do you mind if we have a quick chat? I wanted to talk to you about something. I'm a little confused and confused about the status of our relationship, and so I want to understand what is going on between us."
4. 4 Tell in advance that no matter what, you will remain good friends. These conversations are usually very awkward, so it's important that your friend is as comfortable as possible. Tell him how much you value your friendship with him.
   • You might say, "Our friendship means a lot to me, and I want to make sure we keep it. But at the same time, it's important for me to make sure that we are sincere with each other about our expectations."
5. 5 Ask your friend what he thinks about your relationship. The question itself can be tricky. You might even want to rehearse this conversation with a friend in advance for help. There are many ways to formulate a question.
   • "How do you see our relationship?"
   • "Do you think there is more than just friendship possible between us?"
   • "How do you feel about me?"
6. 6 Give him enough time to respond. He may react shy, embarrassed, or nervous. Give him time to think and listen to his answer. Don't interrupt him. Wait for him to finish talking before you say anything.
7. 7 Treat his answer with understanding. If he says that you are like a sister, friend or "one of my guys" to him, it means that he values ​​your friendship, but does not want anything more. Respond to his answer with dignity. Say that now that you know how he really feels, you are much easier and calmer.
   • Try saying, "I perfectly understand what you are talking about. I also see you as a best friend, and I just wanted to make sure that we remain friends. I am very glad that we were able to discuss this."
   • Your friendship may not be exactly the same as it was before this conversation, and some awkward situations may arise. However, if your friend still wants to befriend you, it means that you are important to him, but not romantically.
8. 8 If a guy confesses his feelings to you, tell him how you feel about him. If he confirms your hunch that he doesn't just like you as a friend, be honest about how you feel about him. If you also have a liking for him, tell him right away.
   • You might say, "I'm glad to hear that. I like you too, and I feel the same way."

Tips

• It is always best to talk about such topics in person. It can be very embarrassing and scary, but being able to talk in person will strengthen your relationship and make it easier for you to communicate after you've figured it out.
• If your friend doesn't like you, try to be friends. Do not bring up this topic and do not pounce on him. You may feel a little sad at first, especially if you have had strong feelings. If you think you can't just be friends with him, gradually stop communicating.
• If he likes you, he can immediately ask you out on a date. But he may need to consider his feelings, and he wants your relationship to develop not so quickly. Or he wants to immediately jump into the pool headlong into a new relationship with you. Talk to him about each other's expectations and feelings. Be honest in your relationship.

Warnings

• If your feelings are struggling and are causing anxiety and depression, you may want to spend less time with each other.
• In general, it's always best to be honest and frank about your feelings, but think about how your friend might feel after this conversation. Write to him the next day and see if he answers. If the guy is avoiding you, give him some time. After a few days, try to resume communication again.