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• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Communicate Openly
• Method 2 of 3: Pursue Your Goals
• Method 3 of 3: Set boundaries

For some women, having relationships with multiple guys is both enjoyable and fulfilling. To do this right, it's important to be honest with both the guys you are dating and with yourself. Always be direct and open about your relationship and its status. Also, be sure to stick to certain boundaries so you don't hurt yourself or others.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Communicate Openly

1. 1 Be honest about your relationship. Don't try to hide the fact that you are dating multiple guys. This makes no sense, as any lie you tell will eventually lead to the fact that one day you will miss. It is much better to communicate directly that you do not want to be in an exclusive relationship right now.
   • On a first date, you might say something like, “I had a lot of fun and I would like to repeat it. I want you to know that I am currently dating a few other guys. Do you mind that? "
   • Treat with understanding and respect if the guy does not want to continue meeting with you. He has the right to decide which relationship to be in.
2. 2 Don't discuss the details of other dates. Being clear about your status is one thing. Telling the first guy about how amazing your date with your second boyfriend went is a whole different story. There is no reason to go into such details, as guys might think that you are trying to make them jealous.
   • Don't treat guys like they're competing to be with you. You are all people who get to know each other better, and you should not play one guy against another.
3. 3 Answer direct questions honestly. Whenever one of your boyfriends asks you a question about your relationship, answer honestly. If you start lying, it will be difficult for you to stop. Once you introduce dishonesty into a relationship, it’s almost impossible to keep it going.
   • If a guy asks a question that makes you uncomfortable, you might say something like, “I'm not very comfortable answering this. I understand if this means that you want to end our meetings. "
4. 4 Don't ignore your partners. It's always important to treat your romantic partners with kindness and respect. Respond to their messages, calls, and emails throughout the day. If you want to end the relationship, say so. Don't ignore the person as it can hurt their feelings. Perhaps he does not understand that you no longer want to see him.
   • To end a relationship with a person, say something like, “I've enjoyed meeting you for the past few weeks, but I don't think we are a good match for each other romantically. I'm going to meet other people and go on new dates, and I hope you do the same. "
5. 5 Assume guys are dating other people too. Unless your partners claim to be in an exceptional relationship, it's safe to say that they, too, are dating multiple women at the same time. If you are not happy with that, make it clear on the first date.
   • It’s unfair to expect guys to do things that you don’t follow, so don’t assume that many will be ready for an exceptional relationship with you if you’re dating other men.

Method 2 of 3: Pursue Your Goals

1. 1 Let your companions know what you want out of dating. Ask yourself why you want to date multiple men and what you want to get out of the relationship right now. Then share these expectations with all partners. Also, don't be silent if you feel your expectations are changing.
   • For example, maybe you want to date multiple guys because you just ended a long relationship and don't want anything serious right now. This is a completely different format of relationship than the search for a future husband.
   • Say something like, “I just don't want to go too far right now, and I'm really not interested in anything long term. Does it suit you?"
2. 2 Use relationships to build self-confidence. Dating new guys can be scary, but practice makes perfect! If you go on a lot of dates, you may find that you are better at communicating with strangers, being direct about your desires, and feeling attractive both inside and out. Take advantage of this frivolous relationship!
3. 3 Find out what you like about your partner. Having a relationship with multiple men will allow you to compare and contrast your experiences with them. Use these comparisons to decide which qualities are most important to you in a partner. This information is especially useful when you are looking for a long-term relationship.
   • For example, let's say you went on two dates last weekend. One guy took the time to ask you about your day and really listened to your answers, and the other didn’t ask you a single question all evening. So you love good listeners!
   SPECIALIST'S ADVICE

   

   Chloe Carmichael, PhD

   
   
   Licensed Clinical Psychologist Chloe Carmichael, PhD is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in New York City. He has over 10 years of experience in psychological counseling, specializing in relationship problems, stress management, self-esteem work and career coaching. She also taught courses at Long Island University and worked as a freelance faculty member at the City University of New York.She received her PhD in Clinical Psychology from Long Island University and completed clinical practice at Lenox Hill and Kings County Hospitals. Accredited by the American Psychological Association and is the author of Nervous Energy: Harness the Power of Your Anxiety.

   Chloe Carmichael, PhD
   Licensed Clinical Psychologist

   Try keeping a date diary to keep track of your preferences. Dr. Chloe Carmichael, Psychologist and Relationship Specialist, says: “People meet many partners these days, and I think this is a great idea if you are single and proactive. However, it is sometimes difficult to keep track of all this, which can lead to instability in both the internal and external world. If you write down each date and how you feel about it in your journal, you will begin to notice patterns that will help you figure out what you like. "

   
   
4. 4 Try to let go of bad relationships quickly. Moreover, if you are dating several guys, there is no reason to force yourself to stay with the person who makes you unhappy! Don't try to work on relationships that are uncomfortable or toxic.
   • While you shouldn't stick to the relationship with the person who is making you unhappy at all costs, you may find yourself willing to let go of people faster when you are dating multiple guys.

Method 3 of 3: Set boundaries

1. 1 Give undivided attention to each partner. To fully enjoy this experience, be sure to relive the moment on every date. Don't think about other guys, work, school, or anything else when you're out on a date. This is not fair to you and your current partner.
2. 2 Follow established rules for intimacy. Decide how you will handle intimacy (and especially sex). Tell the guys openly about the rules. Compliance with these rules will save each side from pain.
   • If you want to have sex with more than one partner, directly inform all the people with whom you have intimate intimacy. This is important for the mental and physical health of each of you.
   • Always practice safe sex, protecting yourself from both STIs and unwanted pregnancies. While birth control such as a pill or an IUD (intrauterine device) can prevent pregnancy, make sure guys wear condoms to protect themselves from sexually transmitted infections. Talk to your doctor or gynecologist for more information or help.
3. 3 Communicate regularly to understand where you are. Have a chat with your partners every couple of weeks. Ask them if they still don't mind you dating a few guys. If someone opposes, this is the right time to end the relationship.
   • You could say something like, “Hi Anton, I know we've only met a few times, but I just wanted to know how things are between us. I still meet other people. And you?"
4. 4 Stop dating other people if you want to devote yourself to one of the guys. If you are hoping to start a monogamous relationship with a person, start it right. Talk to a guy in a long-term relationship with whom you are interested to see if he wants the same. Then contact other guys to let them know that you can no longer see each other.
   • It would be a good idea to get in touch with the guy you are most interested in before letting others know that you want to stop dating them. Otherwise, you can be completely without a relationship!
   • To find out if a guy is ready for an exclusive relationship, say something like, “Hi Nikita, I really enjoyed spending time with you and I would like to continue our relationship.I also don't want to date anyone else. How do you feel about this? "
   • To stop dating other people, say, “Hi! We've had a lot of interesting dates, but I'm going to look for a long-term relationship, and I don't think we are a good match for that. "