Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 2: Discuss the problem
• Method 2 of 2: Ignore the person
• Tips
• Warnings

In life, you inevitably have to deal with unfriendly or rude people. It’s always someone who gets on your nerves, whether it’s a stranger at the grocery store, a roommate, or a colleague at work. Different situations allow for different strategies for dealing with a rude person. If the person has personally insulted or you have to deal with their rudeness on a daily basis, then it is best to discuss the issue directly. If a stranger is rude to you and his act is not worth your time, then you can act wisely and not pay attention to him.

Steps

Method 1 of 2: Discuss the problem

1. 1 Keep calm. The problem will not be solved if you are angry or aggressive.
   • If you are upset or hurt by a rude comment from a person, take a few deep breaths before speaking. The more agitated you are, the less attention will be paid to your words.
   • It's better to take a little time and think about your words in advance than to impulsively yell at the person. If you do not show that a rude comment upset you, then the other person is unlikely to voice objections. Show wisdom by maintaining self-confidence and controlling emotions.
   • There is no need to start a fight or fight. This behavior will only make the situation worse. If you think you might get lost, take a friend with you to watch over you.
2. 2 Be direct. No need to beat around the bush or show passive aggression. Look at the other person, maintain eye contact, and immediately jump into the discussion of the act that upset you. A person cannot learn a lesson if he does not understand his mistake.
   • If a customer at a grocery store walks in front of you out of line, then you don't need to let out a dramatic sigh and roll your eyes. Nobody will notice this. Tell the person directly, “I'm sorry, but you were standing behind me” or “I'm sorry, but the line starts over there.”
3. 3 Use humor. If you find it uncomfortable to tell someone directly about being rude with a serious face, use humor to ease the tension.
   • If a passenger on the subway next to you is loudly chewing a sandwich and littering, then smile and say casually: “Is it really that delicious?”. If you are not understood, then ask: "Could you chew a little quieter?"
   • Humor should be kind, not passive-aggressive or sarcastic. Be friendly and smile. Your remark should sound like a joke, funny to both sides, and not at all like a cocky remark that will serve as the beginning of a quarrel.
4. 4 Be polite. Kindness is the best way to defeat rudeness. Show wisdom and never sink to the level of reciprocal rudeness.
   • Speak in a respectful voice, without arrogance. Smile.
   • Use the words please and thank you. This courtesy is important. For example, say, “Please stop, I find this rude and offensive. I don’t like your behavior” or “There is no place for such [aggressive, rude, offensive] remarks. Thank you.”
   • Often times, a person's rudeness is caused by a specific reason. She can be a cry for help or even an attempt to find an empathic interlocutor. If you know the person well, ask if everything is okay and if you can help with something. Make sure that your words do not sound sarcastic. Say the following: “I've noticed that you have become more [tense, agitated] lately. Everything is good? Is there anything I can help you with? ”.
5. 5 Tune in to a civilized conversation. If you have been personally insulted or said something that you cannot agree with, then politely give your opinion or ask why the other person is behaving this way.
   • Try to understand someone else's point of view: “Your words seem rude and disrespectful to me. What is the reason for such words? ”. This will start a reasonable discussion or discussion. Make sure the conversation doesn't get out of hand.
   • If the conversation “really” turns into a heated argument, and the interlocutor continues to be rude and disrespectful, then it is better to just leave. You have already done everything in your power.
   • It should be understood that some people are unshakably convinced that they are right. It is impossible to agree with everyone and everything, so in some cases your attempts will fail.
6. 6 Speak in the first person, not for your interlocutor. Second-person statements express accusations and blame the listener, which can lead to defensive behavior. Talk about your feelings that have arisen as a result of someone else's behavior.
   • If a relative is constantly talking taunts about your weight, then it is better to say: “I hate hearing from you such comments about my body” instead of “Your rudeness is annoying”.
7. 7 Talk privately. No one will like it if a mistake is pointed out in front of others. If the person has been rude towards you in the presence of other people, then wait for the opportunity to talk face to face.
   • If a friend has made a racist or sexist remark in a group conversation at lunch, wait until the others leave or offer to go to class together and discuss the situation in private. You can also write a message: “Listen, I would like to discuss something. Will you have a free minute after class? ”.
   • If you talk in private, then friends do not need to choose a side of the conflict, which aggravates the situation and can lead to a split in the team.
8. 8 Don't ponder the situation for too long. If you have made a remark to a person about his behavior and the situation has not changed, just accept the fact that you have already tried to mend a relationship with him.
   • You cannot force a person to be polite if he wants to be rude. You don't have to “fix it” at all. Excessive efforts in trying to change other people's behavior usually only backfire. Sometimes it only remains to come to terms with rudeness, realize that it is not your fault, and not try to influence the person.

Method 2 of 2: Ignore the person

1. 1 Make your face stony. Show no emotion. Even if you start to get angry, angry, or annoyed, you cannot show that the rudeness has reached the goal.
   • Stay calm and collected. If you are losing your composure, it is best to close your eyes and take a deep breath.
   • Maintain a calm or expressionless look, get out of the situation completely and show that the person is not worth your time.
2. 2 Don't make eye contact. By looking into the eyes, you acknowledge the person's presence and actions. Look away and look into the distance.
   • Try not to look at the floor. This body language is indicative of resignation and insecurity. Look straight and unwavering to build confidence.
3. 3 Turn your body away from the bully. Gestures can say a lot. Turn your shoulders and legs in the opposite direction. Cross your arms over your chest to show that you are closed and disinterested.
4. 4 Walk away. If possible, walk quickly in the opposite direction without looking back. Spread your shoulders and show confidence.
   • If you are embarrassed to leave without saying anything, then give a short answer. This will demonstrate that you heard what was said, but disagree with it. You can just say “Okay” or “Well, I don’t know” and walk away.
   • If a classmate keeps repeating that she got the highest grade in the last exam, then smile and say, “Well done.” After that, turn your attention to more important things.
   • If a person with whom you will certainly have to communicate in the future (for example, a friend or co-worker) is rude to you, then walking away for a few minutes will allow him to calm down.Hopefully, the next time he meets, he will behave differently.
5. 5 Avoid man. Keep your distance from the rude person so that their words don't upset you regularly.
   • If this is a stranger, then there will be no problems, because you may never meet again.
   • If you just can't stand a person, but you have to see each other every day, then try to limit communication to a minimum. Try to switch offices or do something different to see the person less often. This will certainly help.

Tips

• Accept that being rude is a common human quality, and getting along with everyone simply won't work. We can all be illogical. Even we can be rude in some moments!
• Don't take rudeness personally. It is usually associated with a person's personal problems or self-doubt, not with you. Even if it was “on” you, it did not mean at all that you were the “cause”. Do not mistake someone else's rudeness for your wrongdoing; look at the situation objectively.
• Even if the case is related to you, and the rude person insulted you personally, stop and understand that you yourself determine your reaction. Deprive someone else's rudeness of strength, perceiving it exactly as someone else's, and not your problem. Remain firm and confident, don't let words hurt you.
• React with restraint. Show yourself to be a polite person, not a trouble seeker. This will show you maturity and dignity.
• Behave the opposite of being rude: smile, show compassion, and ask how the person is feeling. Sometimes a cry for help becomes rude, and in such cases a person needs your kindness. Radiate positive and don't waste your energy on negative emotions.
• Only share these encounters with your closest friends. It is sometimes helpful to speak out after an emotionally stressful situation, but don't get hung up on it. Greatness lies in not inflating an elephant out of a fly. In addition, there is no need to spread rumors that may reach the brute.
• Monitor the behavior of others. It is very likely that other people also experience this person's rudeness. Notice how others react to being rude and how successful that behavior is. This will help you learn to better cope with the situation.
• If you encounter rudeness at school, do not become a victim, otherwise you will be bullied in the future. Don't be rude in return so you don't run into trouble. Tell your parents about the problem. Be polite and pray for the rude ones. They may realize that they treat you the same way they perceive themselves.

Warnings

• Do not respond rudely to rudeness. This will only show that the person has hurt you. Plus, if you're being rude, how are you different from being rude?
• Don't try to change so that others don't feel superior to you. Rude people often play from a position of strength, trying to frame or change you.
• Try not to aggravate the situation or start a fight. Sometimes it's better to just walk away without convincing or belittling in return.