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• Method 1 of 3: Saying Yes
• Method 2 of 3: Saying No
• Method 3 of 3: Responding When Not Confident
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You know that the young man is planning to ask you out on a date, or has already. It is difficult to find the right answer, especially if you have never been in a similar situation before! Whether it's a 100% "Yes!" Don't agree with anything that makes you uncomfortable, and remember, it's okay to ask for time to think things over.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Saying Yes

1. 1 Make sure you like this guy. Ask yourself if you are really interested in him or if you are simply flattered by his interest in you. If you have listened to your feelings and are ready to cry out with joy "Yes!", Then do not hesitate to accept the offer. If you are indifferent to him, but you are sorry to disappoint him, think about what will be easier: refuse now or in the future.
2. 2 Find out what he is waiting for. Some guys might take you out on a first date at a park, a disco, or a movie just to hang out with you and get to know each other better. If you're in elementary, middle, or high school, your boyfriend may suggest you date without even making a "date." This could mean that he wants to have lunch together, come home together after school, hold hands, or something more. Someone might invite you as a couple to a school party or other event.
   • Don't be afraid to ask about his intentions. If you like him, but you do not understand what he wants from you, you have every right to find out. If he says something vague, "Would you like to spend time with me?", You might say, "Sure! What do you have to suggest?"
   • If this is a group event, make sure that he invites you exactly as his companion, as a "date". If he invites you along with his friends, this does not necessarily mean that he wants you to be his girlfriend. Perhaps this is a way for him to get to know the friend better or to check if you like him in return before taking the serious step.
3. 3 Say yes. Your specific answer depends on his question. Think about exactly how he invited you to meet and accept the invitation if you feel like it.
   • If he invites you to a certain event, all you have to do is agree to go. If, for example, he invites you to a school ball, just smile and say, "Yes, with pleasure."
4. 4 Refine the details. If a guy asks you out on a first date, make sure you know the time and place. Determine if he will pick you up or plan to meet there. Find out if there will be a lot of people or just the two of you. Make sure that you have no business on this day and at this time, and that you have nothing more serious assigned.
   • You do not need to clarify the details before you agree. It's not about the event, but about the guy wanting to spend time with you. If you want the same thing, just agree to go and find out the details later.
   • Don't be afraid to reschedule the date if something doesn't work out for you. If you want to show him your genuine interest, suggest an alternative. Say, "I'd love to go to the movies with you, but I'm going to a friend's birthday Friday night. Maybe we should go on Saturday?"

Method 2 of 3: Saying No

1. 1 Explain the reasons for the refusal. Be honest. You don't have to make excuses for your decision, just that you just don't find this guy attractive. Or maybe you like him, but for some reason you cannot accept his offer.Perhaps your friend likes him, or your parents forbid you from dating, or you yourself are not ready to enter into a relationship. Whatever the situation, it is very important to be honest with yourself and your young person.
   • If the guy doesn't appeal to you, that's all there is to say. Don't be rude and don't hurt him. Say, "I appreciate our friendship, but I don't see you romantically."
   • If your friend likes him, don't give out the secret without your friend's permission. Just tell the guy that you are not interested in him, and don't give a hint that there is a different reason behind your choice.
   • If your parents won't let you date, be honest with your boyfriend. However, be careful not to give him hope. If you say you like him but you can't date him because of your parents, he probably won't stop.
   • If you feel like you're not ready for a relationship yet, that's okay. You will find the right person in due time, and you will be much better when your heart is fully open. This young man may be the first person to ask you out, but he certainly won't be the last.
2. 2 Be clear and direct. Don't make excuses, don't agree to go out on a date just to be nice. Sure, he'll prefer yes to no, but chances are he'd rather be rejected out of the blue than be the guy who is being dated out of pity.
3. 3 Don't pull the cat by the tail. Just say, "I'm sorry, but I don't like you romantically." You don't need to go into the smallest details, just get to the heart of the matter. Try not to humiliate him with long, lengthy speech.
   • If he asks for specific reasons, feel free to explain why you are not interested in him as a guy. Make sure that this does not escalate into an argument in which he persuades you to go out on a date. Be direct and clear. No compromise.
   • If you are friends with this guy, you can use that as a reason. Say, "I love our friendship, but I'm not romantically attracted to you. Maybe we can leave it as it is?"

Method 3 of 3: Responding When Not Confident

1. 1 Take some time to think. If you're unsure or don't have much dating experience, you may not be able to turn down or agree right away. Say that you need time to think things over, but you will definitely give an answer in the next few days. Try not to keep him in the dark for too long. If he really likes you very much, he will go crazy with anticipation.
   • Tell him something, even if it's a simple explanation, why you can't give a specific answer right now. It takes a lot of courage to ask someone you really like on a date. And the least you can do is give your opinion about it. This is especially important if he wrote you a message or email. If you don't answer, he has no choice but to speculate.
2. 2 Ask family or friends for advice. Ask only those you trust. Describe the situation, explain why you are not sure, weigh the pros or cons of refusing or agreeing. Remember, you don't have to follow someone else's advice, but it can help you sort out your own feelings. If you're ashamed to ask anyone, write a list of pros and cons and decide for yourself.
3. 3 Give your guy a clear answer. Try to answer as close to yes or no as possible, especially if it's conditional. Once you've thought about your decision, meet face to face with the guy and tell him what you have chosen. If you cannot meet, write him a message.
   • You do not need to describe your thinking process, especially if you were in deep doubt. However, if you feel like there is a need for it, it may be easier for the guy to understand why you took a long time to decide.
4. 4 Get to know each other better. There is no need to rush. You don't have to go out with him right away.If he respects you, he will wait patiently until you feel comfortable.
   • Tell him, "I like you, but I would like to get to know you better before entering into a relationship. Let's talk as friends and see what happens."
   • If you want to agree, but are not yet ready for a relationship, you can say, "I want to go on a date with you. I want to hold your hand. I want to kiss you. But I'm not ready for a relationship yet." Give him a light kiss on the cheek to show you really think so.

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