Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 2: Talking with a Young Child
• Method 2 of 2: Discussion with an adult child
• Tips
• Warnings

In fact, sharing important information about sex with your children is much easier than you think, and it is very important as it fosters a sense of confidence, loyalty and security in them.

Steps

Method 1 of 2: Talking with a Young Child

1. 1 Remember, chances are, if you don't bring this up earlier, your child will know more about sex than you think after 6 years. Nowadays, many children often know more about sex than their parents.
2. 2 Discuss sex with them several times. It is best to tell your child a little about sex each time. Although you may be attracted to the opportunity to talk about it once and "forget", this behavior can lead your child to believe that sex is somehow a shy topic or taboo, which, of course, will not leave room for open communication. on this topic in the future.
3. 3 Tell your child about the human sexual organs by saying: "This is your penis" or "This is your vagina." (Do not use nicknames like "pipi" or "private parts" because this makes it seem like the real names of the sex organs are "indecent" or "dirty".) Start your child's sexuality education at an early age. Children begin to explore their bodies at an early age. Tell them about their genitals when they show you that they are interested in their body, or start playing (i.e. masturbating) with their genitals. This is totally normal.
4. 4 Talk with your child about the subject of love when he starts elementary school. Your child will definitely tell you that he kissed or hugged someone at school or during recess, so when you hear a story like this, use it as an opportunity to find out if your child likes someone in their class and if they kissed. he's with someone. At the age of 10, children enter the first stage of puberty. They begin to notice that they enjoy touching themselves in certain places.This is a very important stage for your child's continued sexual health. Never criticize your kids for their natural tendencies, as this is just part of healthy puberty. If your child starts talking about other people's genitals (or lack thereof), tactfully correct him.
5. 5 Listen to what your kids are talking about in middle school. Are they interested in the opposite sex? Do their friends date anyone? Ask where they go and what they do. It is very important to listen to your child without getting hysterical. You may have definite opinions about what is going on in their life, but you need to listen carefully to your child. Ask if he wants to know something about the opposite sex or about his own constitution. Explain to him how the intercourse goes. (Most children already know all this information from friends who have older brothers and sisters, but it is important for you to show your child that you are not afraid to talk to him about this topic so that he knows that he can always turn to you for help. )
6. 6 When your child asks you about something about sex, always give him a truthful answer, never lie. If you do not know the correct answer, find it with your child in a medical reference book. Truth is always the best choice. Your child may be offended if you lie to him or hide the truth from him (for example, if you say something like "You were found in a cabbage" or "I'll tell you when you grow up").
7. 7Always ask your child's opinion and also ask him to share any questions or concerns with you.

Method 2 of 2: Discussion with an adult child

1. 1 Expand the range of your conversations as your child grows up. By the time he is in high school, you will need to start talking to your child about his sexual feelings and thoughts. Sexual feelings are completely normal and very often they can be very strong during adolescence. Tell your child how he can enjoy these feelings without being led by them. Discuss the initiation of sexual activity with him; ask what age he considers to be a good starting point for sexual intercourse, what are the necessary requirements for this, in his opinion. Then share with him your opinion and the feelings that you experienced at his age.
2. 2 Show your child a sex education professional book or website. Whatever you think, for 80% of parents, talking about sex remains the most difficult test.
3. 3 Be open. Be aware of your child's social life and make sure your child is comfortable enough to discuss their personal life with you.
4. 4 Emphasize the importance of safe sex. Make sure your child is well aware of the risks of STDs, how they are transmitted and how to prevent these infections.
5. 5 Discuss different methods of contraception with your child. Show your child how to safely put on a condom using a banana or similar object for convenience. If you have a daughter, tell her in detail about all the contraceptive methods available to her.
6. 6 Instill in your child self-confidence. This should be done from a very young age. Make sure they are confident enough to give up sex if they are not ready for it or want it.
7. 7 Show your child that he can turn to you for help and advice at any time, and that you should be the first person to discuss with him such issues as different contraceptive use. Your children shouldn't be afraid of you.

Tips

• Your child should know that no one has the right to touch him without his permission. Teach your child to say no to certain things from a young age, such as inappropriate behavior in relatives, so that your child has enough experience in setting healthy barriers.
• Be open and honest with your baby about what pregnancy is, where delhi comes from and how they are born. You may say, "Pregnancy begins when the baby is born. The baby appears when the man and the woman do something called intercourse (or sex), that is, when the man inserts his penis into the woman's vagina. After maturing, the baby comes out of a woman's vagina, but sometimes it is necessary to cut a woman's belly to get her baby (this is called a caesarean section). " Never lie to your child or make up stories like "You were found in a cabbage" or "A stork brought you."
• When discussing sex with a young child, stick to only biological details. It is best to discuss the emotional aspects of sex with older children, as they will be better prepared for it.
• Adjust your conversations to the age of the child. If he is five years old and he wants to know where children come from, answer in a way that he understands, but do not leave from the answer.
• While you may have religious or cultural values ​​about sex, do not cloud your child's understanding of sex by forcing him to adhere to your values.
  • When the child gets older, or when he asks about it, explain your beliefs to him, but also let him know that other people have different beliefs about this and that he must choose what to believe in him and what values ​​he wants to adhere to.
• Make sure your child knows what it is like to have sex; if he comes to you with uncomfortable questions, try giving him simple answers.
• It is perfectly normal for your child to be embarrassed about talking to you about sex. Sex has always been an uncomfortable topic of conversation, no matter how important it may be.
• At some point, you may need to discuss the subject of homosexuality and other types of sexual orientation with your child. This may be easier for some parents than others. Again, start this conversation with factual information; you can share your views on this topic at other times. Above all, however, emphasize that you will always accept and love your child as he is, and that he does not need to hide anything from you.
• Tell your child about STDs, HIV and AIDS.
• Different parents use different parenting methods, so make sure your child at least learns respect so that he can teach this to his children.
• Continue the conversation about sex throughout your child's growing up. Catch the moments when your child talks about it and use them to start this important conversation with them.
• Advise your child not to have sex until older.

Warnings

• If your child talks to you, he trusts you. Listen carefully to your child and do not judge him / her.
• If your child decides to tell you about inappropriate sexual intercourse, be sure to listen to his story without panic or alienating him. In general, listening is the most important skill for any parent. Don't push your child, just let him talk. You will need to take certain actions depending on your child's complaints, as otherwise, you may lose their trust and respect.
• Do not panic! You can and should be able to talk to your children about sex if you care about their safety and health.
• Never put down or make fun of your child when he asks about sex.