Author:
Virginia Floyd
Date Of Creation:
9 August 2021
Update Date:
1 July 2024
Content
Self-doubt is a big problem for those who experience it and for their loved ones. Fortunately, this article will help you find common ground with such people.
Steps
1 Determine the root cause. Many factors can cause self-doubt to appear. While at first glance the reasons may seem obvious (like a friend with bad skin), in reality there may be many more. The causes of self-doubt can be problems that you were not aware of, such as your situation at home, previous relationships, hidden health problems, or mental health problems. Self-doubt is a complex of problems that is not always easy to solve. Once you understand that self-doubt is a serious problem, you can feel the state of the person experiencing it. - 2 Learn to distinguish between real and false self-doubt. People can fake insecurity to gain attention, sympathy, or manipulation, so be judicious. Nevertheless, self-doubt is often a very real problem that can be caused either by a painful past or by current troubles.
3 Be courteous and unobtrusive. At times, communicating with an insecure person can tire you and irritate you, but this reaction will only exacerbate the problem. 
4 Learn to ignore the manifestations of the problem or redirect the situation in a positive direction. If an insecure person regularly belittles himself, you should either inspire him with compliments or ignore the manifestations of insecurity. Uncertainty should not be encouraged. 
5 Help him. Providing support for an insecure person can be emotionally and morally challenging, but true caring can really give a person confidence. Say that you consider him your friend, love him, accept him for who they are. You don't have to spend all your time with them, just don't act in a way that makes them feel abandoned. Some people with this problem can become good friends. Remember that not all insecure people are bullies or in some other sense angry people, some of them are timid and shy people who, because of their low self-esteem, are constantly nervous and afraid. 
6 If appropriate, talk to the person. If you are good friends, you should be serious about problems. Explain how you can help, but you should not get involved in a relationship in which your needs will be superseded by the needs of an insecure person. 
7 Help him cope with problems. If we are talking about your friend, you can involve him in any of your activities - this will raise his self-esteem. 
8 Don't forget about yourself. Sometimes you should distance yourself from an insecure person - communication with him can be very exhausting. Remember, you have needs too. Don't allow yourself to feel insecure or self-neglected out of a desire to help. Make sure your relationship is healthy. - 9 If the insecure person is a family member or friend, try to help them. If this is a classmate (classmate), acquaintance, or colleague, try to get to know him better. But remember not to waste time with people who drag you down.
Tips
- Do not enter into relationships whose sole purpose is to raise other people's self-esteem. It hurts you, and most likely will not help them - they will understand that you will be there, as long as they want. Don't let them depend on you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
- You should not assume that a person is pretending to be insecure just because you see no reason to do so. Don't think that a person is imitating self-doubt just because you don't see obvious problems in their life.
- Self-doubt can be a serious problem, or a mask when communicating with others to gain attention. It is important to know what kind of uncertainty you are dealing with.
- Uncertainty can be an acquired habit that can be very difficult to get rid of. If you are forced to communicate with an unpleasant person experiencing this kind of problem, try to imagine that this is some kind of mental disorder.
Warnings
- Sometimes, self-doubt can be a symptom of a more serious problem. If you suspect that a person has a serious problem, you are unlikely to be able to cope with it on your own. You should either report the situation to someone who is authoritative in such matters, or stay away from the problem.
