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Whether you're pregnant or worried about the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy, it's important to understand your options. Abortion is the right choice for some women, but for others, raising a child or sending them to an orphanage is the best option. In order to prevent yourself from having to make an abortion decision, the best thing you can do is be proactive in using effective contraception.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Coping with unwanted pregnancy

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   Know your legal rights. In Vietnam, no one, or even your parents, is allowed to force you to have an abortion when you don't want to. You have a choice, so you shouldn't let anyone push you to make a decision that you are not comfortable with.
   • Forcing a minor to have an abortion is considered child abuse, and this is illegal.
   • If you are being threatened or forced to have an abortion, you should call the police.
   • If you want to have an abortion, you have the right to do so, although some will ask you to notify your parents and / or their consent if you are a minor.

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   Consider raising children. Along with a fear of help and support, raising children will be a wonderful and wonderful experience. For many women, being a mother is the right choice, even if they have an unwanted pregnancy.
   • Talk to the child's father and family to determine who wants to help raise your child. It will be easier to make decisions if you get help from your loved one.
   • Make a plan for how to earn money to support your children.You should think about finding a job or hiring child care while you go to work. In addition, you will also need to consider if you are eligible to participate in any financial aid program. There are quite a few programs in the US that provide food, health care, children's healthcare, and vocational training for low-income mothers.
   • Think about your future goals and see if you can fulfill them while raising children. For example, you can hire childcare so you have time to go to school.

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   Consider sending your child to an orphanage. If you think raising a baby is not the right choice for you, but you don't want an abortion, you can think about allowing someone else to adopt your baby. Many loving families will be happy to raise your children and provide them with a wonderful life.
   • Start contacting an agency that specializes in adoption as soon as you decide to send your child to an orphanage. They will help you find adoptive parents and complete the whole process.
   • In the United States, the laws of giving and adopting a child differs from place to place. You can arrange for someone else to adopt your child without going to a specialist agency. In many other states, children will be sent to an orphanage for a short period of time before being adopted. The amount of time you wait before the adoption process becomes official depends on the region.
   • There are three different types of adoption. In the closed adoption type, you will not know a child's adoptive parents and they will not know about you. Open adoption type, you and the child's adoptive parents will have each other's communication. The “partial” category is when you and the adoptive parent do not know each other's information, but can still contact each other through the adoption agency.

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   Get help. Regardless of the decision you make, you need to know that you're not dealing with a problem alone. This is a very stressful process in life, so seek the help you need to make the right decision.
   • Chat with your parents and the child's father. You need to be aware of the type of support you have. If they don't give you the help you need, seek out a friend or relative for emotional help.
   • Consider calling the pregnant women hotline if you are looking for fair advice. The counselor will explain your options, provide guidance, and refer you to a local center that can help you learn how to be a mother, and arrange for placement in the orphanage. orphan, or abortion.
   • The Women's Health Center and the Pregnancy Support Center are great resources for pregnant women. Some of these institutions offer abortion services, but they will also advise and assist you in sending your baby to others for adoption and in motherhood.
   • Many religious pregnancy centers will force you not to have an abortion, but many others believe in the freedom of childbirth, so you should research them before calling. electricity or go there. The anti-abortion organization will not give you any information over the phone or may tell you about information that is biased to persuade you not to have an abortion.
   • In the US, the National Abortion Federation and Backline.org will tell you about a hotline that provides unbiased information that pregnant women can call to discuss their options, including abortion. They will also refer a fair and reputable wellness center.
   • Even if you are not a religious person, most churches will be more than happy to help you find resources for adoption or talk to you about parenting. Remember that most of the times are opposed to abortion, so you should not go if you are considering abortion.

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   You need to remember abortion is an option. No matter what opinion your friend, family, or religious organization possesses on this matter, it is still a legitimate choice you can make. You have the right to have an abortion if you think this is the right thing in your situation. advertisement

Method 2 of 3: Help someone in crisis

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   Ask the person. If your friend or loved one is dealing with an unwanted pregnancy, be aware that she is going through a very difficult time. Remember to call or visit her often to check if she's okay and find out if she needs your help and support.
   • See if she looks like she is isolating herself. If so, encourage her to spend time with you and with other loved ones who support her. Consider inviting her to something fun to do in a way that will help her stop thinking about her troubles for a short time.

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   Let her know you are willing to help. If you are very close to someone who is facing an unwanted pregnancy, let that person know that you are ready to help them when they decide to raise a baby. When she seems ready, talk to her about the contribution you want to give.
   • If you are the father of the child, you should discuss your plans for the future. Share your views on pregnancy and allow her to state her opinion.
   • If you live with the woman, you should discuss your plans for life and your child care options.
   • Don't push her to make a decision. Just say that you want to discuss these so that she has all the information she needs.

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   Encourage her to seek out a counselor. If the person is still unable to decide what to do with her unborn baby, encourage her to get as much information as possible and talk to a counselor. Talking to an unbiased professional will help her form the best decision for herself.
   • Don't hesitate when she needs help finding resources. She will even want to see a counselor with someone to provide emotional support for her.
   • Regardless of your opinion on abortion, you need to advise someone you love to visit a counseling center that can give them all information about your options, and don't try to influence your preferences. their decisions are based on their own beliefs.

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   Listen to the person's needs. You may want to help your loved one cope with the situation in every way possible. While working instinctively is fine, it's a good idea to consult the person first about what you can do to help them. This will make sure she doesn't feel pressured or prompted.
   • If the person doesn't like to listen to others, respect their own decisions. If she asks for advice, state your point, but be sure to maintain a respectful attitude if she disagrees with you.
   • When she wants to talk, let her talk. You can support her by listening attentively and providing unconditional support.

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   Avoid judgment. You may feel angry, sad, or frustrated because your loved one is in this situation, but don't let that person know. You need to show love and support for them instead of judging their decisions.
   • Remember that she's dealing with a lot of things; The last thing she needs is criticism from someone she loves.
   • If you need to share your feelings about someone's pregnancy, find someone else to talk to. Avoid venting all of your feelings into a pregnant woman, as this will only put them under more stress.
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Method 3 of 3: Prevent unwanted pregnancy

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   Educate yourself. Knowing accurate medical information about sex will reduce the chances of an unwanted pregnancy.You can check out websites like Giaoducgioitinh and Suckhoe24h for more information about birth control, responsibilities, pressure, and the emotional side of the relationship. You will get to know your body better, know how to use a condom the right way, recognize the warning signs that you are being forced and violent, and know how to say "no" to your loved one.
   • Consent should be clear and continuous. You need to agree before engaging in sexual activity, and make sure everything is okay with you. If you don't want or change your mind, say no. If your partner becomes angry, disrespectful, or aggressive when you refuse, this is a red flag.

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   Develop a specific plan. No matter what method you decide to use to prevent an unwanted pregnancy, you need to have a plan in place. Think about what is easiest and most effective for you. It's important to remember that almost every method of contraception requires consistency and use it correctly.
   • Talk to your partner about a contraceptive plan. Let the person know you hope he can take an active part in preventing unwanted pregnancies.
   • Your lover does not agree to participate in your contraceptive plan is unacceptable. If he refuses to use a condom or other birth control, do not have sex with him.

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   Consider abstaining from sex. Abstinence from sex is the only guaranteed way that you won't get pregnant. This is not the right choice for everyone, as it requires a lot of discipline. It is important to consider your own situation, and sex is only allowed when you feel ready to accept the responsibility attached.
   • Remember that it's not just vaginal sex that makes you pregnant. Any time a sperm makes contact with your vagina, you're likely to conceive.
   • Having oral sex will keep you from getting pregnant, but it doesn't stop you from getting sexually transmitted diseases (STIs).
   • Having a backup plan is a good idea if you are abstaining from sex. Many couples are still pregnant when on the method of abstinence, but because they have sex without using any protection. You should consider taking hormonal birth control pills to maintain your ability to prevent pregnancy when your plan to abstain from relationships fails.

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   Use hormonal birth control on a regular basis. Hormonal birth control pills release hormones into the body that help prevent conception. In the US, a doctor's prescription is required for hormonal birth control. This type of contraception can be quite expensive, but some will be covered by insurance.
   • The most common form of hormonal birth control is the oral hormonal contraceptive. Some drugs contain estrogen and progestin, while others contain only progestin. You need to take it every day for it to be effective.
   • The IUD is placed in the vagina for 3 weeks, then removed for 1 week and replaced with a new one. The IUD releases hormones into your body that help prevent fertilization, but be sure to periodically remove and re-insert the ring.
   • The birth control patch is a small, stretchy patch that is attached to the surface of the skin and releases hormones into the body. You will apply the patch for 3 weeks, then remove it for 1 week and replace with a new patch. Similar to the IUD, you need to remember to remove and use the new patch periodically to be able to maintain the effectiveness of contraception.

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   Consider long-term hormonal contraception. If you are concerned that you will forget to take your pill every day or change the patch every month, a long-term hormonal method of contraception will be better for you. With just one visit to your doctor, you will be able to protect yourself from pregnancy for months or even years.
   • Your doctor may inject hormonal birth control pills into your body. The effectiveness of this drug will last 1-3 months and you need to remember to inject the medicine on the right day to avoid pregnancy.
   • The contraceptive implantation is one of the most effective hormonal contraceptives because it works for many years and you won't have to worry about it. A small stick will be implanted under the skin by the doctor in place of your arm. It will release hormones that prevent conception gradually and last for about 3 years.
   • Intrauterine devices (IUDs) are also a fairly effective and long-lasting form of contraception. Your doctor will insert a very small device into your uterus. They release hormones or copper into your body, preventing eggs from attaching to the uterus. This method will help prevent pregnancy for 5 - 10 years, depending on the type.

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   Use condom. Condoms are very simple and effective at preventing pregnancy when used correctly. It also helps prevent sexually transmitted diseases (STIs) if you have sex on a regular basis. You should always remember to use a condom even if you are using another method of birth control.
   • Male condoms are usually made from latex and they hug the "boy" closely to prevent the body's fluid metabolism during sex.
   • In addition, the market also has condoms for women. They are quite similar to male condoms, but will be placed inside the vagina. However, they are not as effective as the male ones.
   • Using condoms along with other methods of contraception will help you increase your risk of pregnancy.

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   Use spermicides. Spermicides are chemicals that help prevent fertilization by destroying sperm. They are sold in drugstores in many forms, including gels and creams. The spermicide is not a very effective birth control method, but it does help to reduce the risk of pregnancy when combined with other methods of birth control.
   • Many condoms contain spermicides for added protection.

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   See more about the "barrier" method of contraception. You can also prevent pregnancy by using a diaphragm or diaphragm, which is placed inside the vagina before sex to prevent sperm from entering the cervix.
   • You should consult your doctor if you can use these types of devices, as each woman's body will be slightly different.
   • Diaphragms and diaphragms often have to be used in combination with spermicides to be effective.

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   Consider sterilization. If you are absolutely certain that you do not want to become pregnant, you can see your doctor to request sterilization surgery. This will prevent you from having a pregnancy for the rest of your life, so you should only do it if you are sure that you have not changed your mind and want to become pregnant in the future.
   • There are two different types of sterilization for women, both of which are conducted outpatient. With the fallopian tube method, the fallopian tubes will be tightened, preventing sperm from contacting the egg. By blocking the fallopian tubes, a device damages the fallopian tubes, causing them to form scar tissue that prevents the eggs from moving through the fallopian tubes. This type of sterilization can take a few months to work.
   • If you have only one sex partner, he can be sterilized with a vasectomy. This outpatient treatment prevents sperm from moving to the penis. It's incredibly effective, though not 100%.

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    Don't forget about emergency contraception. If the regular birth control plan fails, there are still other ways to prevent pregnancy. You must take emergency contraceptive pills within 5 days of having unprotected sex, the sooner you take the pill, the better it will be.
    • There are many types of emergency contraceptive pills on the market, some of which are sold as over-the-counter pills.This is not an abortion drug if you are pregnant; they are just drugs that prevent fertilization.
    • EC pills are available at most pharmacies without a prescription, and you can also find them at your ward or commune health facility.
    • You can also use a copper-wound intrauterine device (IUD) for emergency contraception. You must see a doctor to put the device in the uterus.
    • If you want to find out more information about emergency contraception or where to find them, you can look to your ward, commune, hospital, or pharmacy.
    • Emergency contraception should not be used as the primary method of contraception because they are not as effective as other forms of contraception. For example, if you forget to take your daily birth control pill or the condom is torn, you should consider using emergency contraception.
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Advice

• Remember that no one can make decisions for you. You need to do what you think is the best choice.