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In the end, you have a date with the girl or boy you've always wanted and you want to make an impression on them. You must be feeling very nervous, but there are many things that help you make sure your appointment goes the way you want.

Steps

Part 1 of 2: Prepare for your appointment

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   Take time to relax. Before your date, you'll feel extremely nervous, anxious, excited, or a mixture of all three. To calm down before your appointment, try something relaxing so that you can forget about your next important event and keep your mood comfortable. Some activities for relaxation include:
   • Exercise or yoga
   • Reading books
   • Watch movies or watch TV
   • Sing your favorite song

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   Prepare a few simple questions that you will use on your first date. If you are worried about what to say during your appointment, you can prepare a few topics to improvise as needed. Topics include family, pets, art, hobbies, and ongoing events. If you can't think of anything, try some common questions like:
   • "What is your wish?"
   • "What is your favorite movie / singer / book?"
   • "If you were allowed to sit first in an event, which event would you choose?"

   

   
   

   Jessica Engle, MFT, MA

   Emotional consultant Jessica Engle is an emotional consultant and psychotherapist living in the San Francisco Bay Area. She founded Bay Area Dating Coach in 2009 after receiving her Master's in Counseling Psychology. Jessica is also a Marriage & Family Therapist and Drama Therapist with over 10 years of experience.

   

   Jessica Engle, MFT, MA
   Emotional consultant

   Think about questions that reveal the person's personality. Jessica Engle, director of the Bay Area Dating Coach, said, "I always advise people to read" The 36 Questions that Lead to Love, "from the New York Times. That post was great .. But overall, let's Come up with questions deeper than gossip, for example "What are your passions?", "Who do you admire?" or "What is a perfect day for me?"

   
   

3. 

   Take a shower and take care of yourself. Before the appointment, you will shower and make sure to clean your body. Then, use some antiperspirant or deodorant, brush your teeth and style your hair. If necessary, slap yourself one more time before your appointment.
   • For men, if you have a beard, remember to shave or trim to make your face look neat and clean.
   • For women, if you want, you can wear light makeup to match the outfit.
   • A little perfume makes a strong impression.

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   Choose beautiful clothes suitable for your appointment. If you go to a luxury restaurant or a similar class, choose delicate clothes such as a charming dress or a dashing suit. If you are going to meet in a comfortable place like a movie theater or entertainment area, you will choose simple but beautiful outfits.
   • Regardless of what outfit you choose to wear, make sure it doesn't make it difficult for you to breathe or move around. The first date is usually about getting to know each other; So, anything that makes you uncomfortable leaves a bad impression.
   • If you go to a place with a lot of walking, keep your heels at home.

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   Wash the car if you will use it during the appointment. If the car is dirty, you can still run, but will leave a bad impression on the person. To avoid that, be sure to wipe the car parts to remove dirt and dirt. Remember to clean the entire saddle and organize everything in the trunk tidy. If your car is too dirty, take it to the car wash.
   • Unfortunately, the footrest or rearview mirror is dropped, you remember to buy and attach it to complete.

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   Choose a small gift for the person to surprise. Giving gifts is an act of making a good first impression, especially if they weren't expecting it! On a formal or traditional date, a bouquet of flowers or a small box of chocolates is the perfect choice. For a casual or unique date, choose a teddy bear or a cookie.
   • The purpose of giving gifts is to show your interest, avoid giving something big or expensive on your first date.
   • If you go to a place that sells small gifts, like a museum or a fair, you can buy them during your appointment.
   • While most people give gifts at the beginning of a date, it's okay to give them in the middle or at the end of a date if you like.
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Part 2 of 2: Enjoying a Great Date

1. 

   Be on time. Regardless of whether you pick up your crush or drive yourself to your appointment, remember to be on time. If possible, arrive a few minutes earlier. Although it doesn't matter if it's a minute or two late, but if you take longer, you will leave a bad impression on the person.
   • If you think you will be late for objective reasons, such as traffic jams, send a text to your crush.

2. 

   Be kind and polite to the person. To make a good first impression, you need to be kind to that person and to the people you meet. Try to think positively throughout the day, and if you feel angry or sad, don't show it. Avoid saying harsh words even though you are only meant to make a joke, as this can make you rude and unkind.
   • You don't have to follow a specific etiquette, just avoid doing things that make you lose your image.
   • If you are at a restaurant, make sure you follow the correct eating and drinking rules on the table. Also, in order not to be perceived as being condescending, you should be polite to the waiter and leave a generous tip.
   • If you go to an area where alcohol is served, don't drink more than your normal intake. Getting drunk is definitely the reason your ex doesn't call you back.

3. 

   Communicate honestly and openly. The first date was about getting to know each other; Therefore, you should try to be sincere and open. The fact that you play the role of another person only leads to more problems later, so you need to be yourself when you talk to that person.
   • While you shouldn't be someone else, topics like sexual needs, past relationships, and life difficulties should be discussed later.
   • Although most of us consider religion and politics to be delicate topics, if you are worried about trouble later on, don't be afraid to mention it.

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   Ask questions about the person's life. To find out if you really are a match with the person, ask the question about what interests you most: themselves. Not only will this help you get to know them better, but it also prevents you from seeming like you always want to be the "belly button of the universe". Make sure you listen to what they say and give you the appropriate response. Here are some interesting questions to ask:
   • What school does he go to and what major?
   • Does the person have siblings, children or pets?
   • What is the person doing?
   • What hobbies does that person have?
   • What movies, TV shows, singers, books and art does the person like?

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   Do not be shy flirting. If all goes well, try flirting to see how the person reacts! Start by giving them some compliments or being skillful at teasing them. If the person responds positively, try shortening the distance by placing your hand on their arm or shoulder. In addition, there are some other simple flirting techniques:
   • Smile at that person.
   • Make eye contact with the person while talking.
   • Laugh when the person jokes, even if it's not really funny.
   • Open your mind so that you can be friendly and approachable.

6. 

   Proposal payment for the appointment. It is sometimes difficult to decide who pays for an appointment. Usually, the invitee is expected to pay, but you should still politely ask for it. If the person dismisses you, you can suggest a "cooperative" and pay for your own share.They may still refuse, but making the offer will show that you have no intention of eating for free.
   • Although men are often expected to pay, such gender disciplines are no longer common with younger generations.

7. 

   End the date with one Kiss if fit. Most early dates are mildly finished, but making your significant other feel great can provide the opportunity for a kiss. If the person seems to want you to kiss, try kissing them. If they elude or seem unwilling to kiss, apologize and keep your distance. To see if your ex is looking forward to the kiss, look for the following signs:
   • They stare at your lips while they are talking.
   • They sometimes touch or bite their lips.
   • They switched to speaking in a softer voice.

8. 

   Stay in touch with the person the next day. If you've had a great date, make sure to call the person the next day. Thank them for taking the time to hang out with you and suggest you want to see them again. If they don't answer the phone, leave a message.
   • While making a phone call is often the best option, you can still stay in touch with the person via text or social media if that's how you normally communicate.
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Warning

• If you make a big mistake on a date, don't try to cover it up. Instead, apologize and show goodwill to fix the mistake.
• Don't complain and talk about something unhappy about something (especially your ex), it will create discomfort for the person next to you.