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Are you having trouble acknowledging your mistakes? After making a mistake, have you learned a lesson for yourself, or walk on the same track and repeat the old habits? Admitting mistakes can seem like a challenge, especially if you come from a family that loves perfectionism and thinks that the "excellent" individual is someone "who never makes a mistake." Sometimes making mistakes doesn't mean failure; failure is the result of a conscious but unsuccessful attempt; Whereas mistakes can be unintentional. Luckily, you can follow the steps to help you feel more comfortable in admitting your mistakes, while using a number of techniques that help turn them into your advantage.

Steps

Part 1 of 2: Admit Mistakes

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   Give yourself the right to make mistakes. There are many reasons for allowing yourself to make mistakes. Making mistakes is inevitable and part of the person as a whole. It is also a valuable resource enriching your life, helping you to discover new things and open horizons.
   • For example, you want to learn to cook. Start saying to yourself, “This cooking is completely new to me, maybe I will make some mistakes. It'll be fine, it's also part of the process ”.
   • Sometimes the fear of making a mistake - one of the manifestations of perfectionism - can prevent you from trying something new or completing a project because you fear you're not doing well, so you can't. act. Don't let this happen.

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   Acknowledge the power of habit. Sometimes it is the lack of effort and effort that makes the mistake. We cannot exert maximum effort every day in all areas of our lives. Routine chores like driving to work or cooking breakfast can become a routine without your knowledge. This is really useful because it allows us to focus our energies on other things that require more attention. However, sometimes it is the power of the habit that causes the mistake. Understand that it is a part of being human with limited energy and ability to focus.
   • For example, say you drive to work on the same road every day, 5 days a week. On weekends, you are obligated to drive your children to soccer practice, but suddenly you realize when you have developed the habit of "inertial driving" and you went straight to work instead of training ground Soccer. This is a very natural mistake and is the result of habit. Blaming myself for this mistake is in vain. Instead, you need to recognize this carelessness and change it.
   • Research has shown that you can correct a vehicle for this inertia, even without consciously realizing it. Research done on a group of highly skilled typists has shown that when you type in a mistake, your typing speed slows down, even though you are not even aware of what's happening right now. .
   • Research also shows that about 47% of the time we fall into the state of "thinking things", or let our minds wander from the task at hand. Times like that are when you are prone to making a mistake. If you find yourself making frequent mistakes due to "wandering thinking," try some mindfulness exercises to regain your ability to focus on the present.

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   Distinguish between mistakes and errors due to inaction. Mistakes aren't always the result of your hard work. Sometimes mistakes are caused by not taking action yourself. The law in general always distinguishes between erroneous actions (having committed actions that should not be done) and errors of inaction (not doing what should have been done), and errors due to actions are often considered serious. than. Meanwhile, the error of inaction is more common.
   • However, the error of not taking action can also have consequences in your life. For example, if a company does not keep pace with modern technology, its financial position in the future will suffer a negative impact.
   • It is important for you to be aware of these two types of mistakes for yourself as you can both learn from them. Some people try to avoid making mistakes with the motto of doing little, doing little wrong and not taking responsibility, but this makes you make mistakes by not doing and it is not a good lifestyle to strive and thrive. develop yourself.

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   Distinguish between making mistakes and making bad decisions. You need to understand the difference between a mistake and a bad decision. Make mistakes when making small and simple mistakes like viewing the map incorrectly and not finding a way out. Bad decisions are made with more deliberate action, like wandering around and then arriving at a late date inconvenient for others. Making mistakes is easier to sympathize with and correcting the mistakes is not so important. You should see bad decisions as much as mistakes, but you will have to pay more attention to them.

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   Focus on your strengths. Avoid letting yourself sink into your mistakes. Try to balance self-criticism with honoring good work. You need to celebrate what you have done well and that is improving. You won't be able to improve without appreciating the results of your efforts.
   • Cooking may be a new field to you, but you can be very sophisticated at something else. It may be that you are able to tell others what is lacking in taste right after you enjoy it. Recognize this strength of yours.

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   See mistakes as an opportunity. The brain has a mechanism to help detect when we do something wrong. When we make a mistake, the brain sends out a signal. This mechanism is very useful for the learning process. Making mistakes can help us focus more on what we are doing to try to do our best.
   • According to research, experts like doctors may not be able to correct mistakes because they trust their own judgment too much. Take an open view of your mistakes and see them as an opportunity for further growth, even if you're already really good at something.

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   Understand how long it takes to become an expert in a field. Research shows that it takes up to 10 years for you to experience every skill and make many mistakes to be truly good in one area. This holds true for anyone, from a composer like Mozart to a basketball player like Kobe Bryant. Feel free to relax with yourself if you don't succeed at first because that's normal. It takes a lot of effort over a long period of time to achieve greatness in a given field.

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   Change your mind as an experiment. The problem with not allowing yourself to make mistakes is thinking that you must always make the perfect decision in every situation. Instead of pursuing this unrealistic goal, try to change your mind like an experiment. And of course an experiment can be either good or bad, but it takes the pressure off.
   • For example, in cooking, you should take steps with an experimental attitude. Avoid expecting the perfect dish. Instead, see it as an opportunity to experiment and learn more throughout the cooking process. This will help you avoid blaming yourself for doing something wrong, which you are sure to do at some point.

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   Learn how your brain perceives and processes mistakes. The brain actually contains nerve cells that help you observe your own activity, help you detect mistakes and learn from them. However, the brain also has difficulty accepting that it has made a mistake. The brain can correct thoughts in some positive direction to avoid admitting that this is a mistake.That is why you find it difficult to recognize your mistakes as well as admit them. Understanding how your brain accepts and handles mistakes will help you become more aware of some of your real experiences.
   • The brain has two types of responses to mistakes: problem-solving (“Why does this happen? How can we not make mistakes again?”) And closed (“I'm going to ignore mistakes. this ”). Definitely this form of problem-solving to help you learn from your mistakes and correct them in the near future. In general, this form is common in people who have the view that human ability to understand is limitless, and everyone has the ability to develop themselves more. The closed form is common when it comes to believing that your ability to know is limited: you are either good or bad at something, and that is it. This way of thinking prevents you from learning and improving.

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    Understand how society perceives mistakes. We live in a society where everyone is afraid of making mistakes. We are always advised to make as little mistakes as possible from birth. Those who want to move forward must always take this seriously. When I was in high school, I had to do well in order to get a scholarship to go to college. Going to college must do well to graduate with a very high GPA to be proud of. There seems to be no space to make mistakes. Therefore, if you find it difficult to admit mistakes at first, get comfortable with yourself because not all mistakes are caused by you. You have always been strict with yourself.
    • Remind yourself that a belief that never makes a mistake is blind. Making mistakes is the only way we learn. If you don't make (many) mistakes, it's because you already have something in the palm of your hand. If you want to learn and improve, making mistakes is an essential part of the learning process.
    • Remind yourself that perfectionism only guides you and others by unreasonable standards. Making a mistake doesn't mean you will be a "loser" or deny all your efforts. Lower the bar and allow yourself to make mistakes - this is a more effective way to aim for excellence.
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Part 2 of 2: Learn Lessons from Mistakes

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   Correct mistake. Mistakes can give you lessons, but only if you are sure they have been corrected. For example, if you use the wrong ingredients when cooking, be sure to ask your mother or someone who knows the right ingredients for that dish to remember and apply.

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   Keep a journal of your mistakes and successes. It helps to write down how, when and where you made your mistakes in your life. This will help you further understand features that you might not be able to notice at the time of the mistake. Carry a small journal with you and make notes of times when you do something wrong. Review your free time journal and find out if you might have acted differently.
   • For example, if you're trying out a new menu and the results don't go well, take note of how you spoiled them. Think about it another time that night and see if you could cook this in a different way.
   • You should also keep track of your successes. You will be more motivated to keep learning despite your mistakes if you can follow along as you make them and celebrate what you do well. Only a negative focus is not helpful.

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   Focus on the "getting better" goal instead of the "do well" goal. The “do well” goal gives you unrealistic expectations, especially when you've just started something. If you set a “do well” goal, you bet and tell yourself that you want to succeed in order to be a good person. The goal of "getting better", on the other hand, is about improvement. At this point, you don't need meaningless accomplishments to see yourself well. Your goal is progress, not perfection.
   • For example, focus on "getting better" when you learn how different spices affect the taste of food, instead of the "do it well" goal when you want. be the chef immediately.

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   Practice with caution. Time is not the only factor that can help you learn from your mistakes. It helps when you move forward with a specific goal. This explains why you need to define where you are wrong and what the reason is. Being aware of what you are doing wrong and answering why will help create a practice plan and empower yourself.
   • For example, if you are trying to master a basic cooking skill like noodle cooking, practice it over and over until you have precise control over the cooking time. It may take a little while to create your favorite soft pasta, but the more you practice, the more likely you will reach your goal.

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   Thanks to the help. There is no shame in asking for help with something you are not sure about. Putting your ego aside and learning from someone with more experience is a great way to improve, especially if you can't wait to do it.
   • For example, you could ask a chef at your favorite restaurant or a family member who has a lot of cooking experience when you don't know how to handle basic cooking.

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   Believe in your ability. Research shows that people who believe they can learn from mistakes are actually more likely than others to learn from them. Knowing that you can learn from your mistakes is a necessary step for you to really learn.
   • After a mistake like cooking a dish, tell yourself, “I can learn from this. This experience has been very helpful. Now I know how to lower the temperature of the kitchen.

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   Understand that the reason is not the same as an excuse. We are told that we should not justify our mistakes, but it is different from knowing the reason 'of the mistake. If the meal you are cooking is not as good as it should be, you may realize where you went wrong, for example because you didn't follow the recipe correctly or mistakenly seasoned the sugar into salt. That is the reason, not the excuse. Finding the cause of the mistake will help you do better in the near future as it will show where you went wrong. Some other reasons to look out for:
   • Attend an event late because you don't get up early on time.
   • Being named for ruining a project for not asking everything from the start.
   • Failure to take the exam because of refusing to study or for not giving priority to studying.

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   Give yourself time. Sometimes you can learn from a single mistake. However, it is not always the case. In order to learn from our mistakes, we have to make them a few times. It can be difficult to grasp at first, so give yourself time to make the same mistake a few times before you get frustrated. advertisement

Advice

• Forgive yourself if you keep making the same mistakes. It is also normal to have many difficulties in a certain field.

Warning

• Avoid thinking that you are immune to mistakes, even if you are good at something. This thought will only make it harder for you to make a mistake.