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Is your family experiencing violence, breakdown or turmoil? Deciding to give up a family is not easy, but in some cases, breaking off is the best way to revive from a traumatic past and protect yourself, your children and your property from future hazards. Depending on your age and circumstances (and where you live in the world), you can take legal action to block access from your family.

Steps

Method 1 of 2: Leaving home as a minor

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   Consider calling Child Protective Services. If you are under 18 years old and feel you are in danger, contact your local Child Protection Service for help. The most important first step is to move to safety. When you are away from home, Child Protective Services will help decide what to do to make sure the family cannot harm you.
   • If you don't know whether to call Child Protective Services, talk about your options to trusted people like teachers, school counselors or friends' parents.
   • Understand that at the age of 18, your parents no longer have the power to make decisions for you. You may not get along well with your parents, but do they put you in real danger? If not, it's best to wait and see. When you turn 18, you'll be able to live the way you want.

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   Determine whether to pursue self-liberation. If you are a minor, the legal way to leave your family is to "free" from them. This means that you will be legally treated as an autonomous adult and the parents will no longer be your legal guardian. In most localities, you must be over 16 years old to seek liberation. This might be the right path for you if the following is true:
   • You are abused by your parents
   • Your parents are not able to take care of you
   • Your parents have immoral behavior towards you.
   • You are financially independent and want the rights as an adult.

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   Become financially independent. The judge will not grant the right to independent living unless you can prove yourself as independent from your parents as an adult. That means you can earn enough money for accommodation, medical bills and all other expenses. When you are allowed to live independently, the parent will no longer be legally responsible for providing money to cover your basic needs.
   • Start by finding a job as soon as possible. Save as much money as possible; Make sure not to spend on things that aren't really necessary.
   • Move out of the house and move into a private apartment. You can also stay with a friend or relative, as long as the person agrees to arrange for you to stay for a long period of time.

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   Approved by parents. The process of leaving the family will be a lot easier when your parents agree to release you from legal liability. If they disagree, you will have to work hard to prove that they are not good parents.

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   Submit the correct documents. You will need to fill out a petition for independent living, which you can get from your local circuit court. You will also need to fill out papers regarding your financial, employment and living situation.
   • If possible, consider getting legal aid when filling out the paperwork. An attorney familiar with local law will be able to guide you through the process to make sure everything is filled out correctly. Find ways to hire a lawyer when you are on a low income.

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   Attend preliminary meetings and court hearings. After submitting your application and other documents to the Court, you will receive an appointment for the preliminary meeting that both you and your parents will attend. Your status will be assessed and if your parents object to your escape, you will have to go to a court hearing to prove they are not the good parents.
   • Your family's situation may be investigated after the preliminary meeting.
   • If you can prove that you can and live as an adult, you will be free to cut off all contact with your parents and family members - that is, successfully giving up.
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Method 2 of 2: Leaving the family as an adult

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   Create a distance between you and your family. If you are experiencing physical violence or feel unbearable, the most important thing to do is go to a safe place where your family cannot hurt you. If you are over 18 years old, your parents and family members have no legal right to decide where you live.
   • If you are still not financially independent, figure out if you can stay with friends or family until you are independent.

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   Out of communication. As an adult, the "abandoning" of a family is primarily about stopping contact with them. Stop calling your family, and stop receiving any calls from them. Do the same with email and other communication channels. Don't give them your address and tell others not to tell them where you are.
   • You may need to change your phone number and email address to make it harder for your family to contact.
   • Consider sending an email about you pausing in communication. Show that you no longer want to stay in touch, that you want them from them, and if they still try to get in touch, you will take legal action.

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   Consider applying for a quarantine order. If you or your children are being abused by your family, you may need to get a restraining order so they can be kept away by law. A restraining order (DVRO) can prevent your family from contacting you or from contacting you within a certain distance.
   • Consider hiring an attorney to guide you through the quarantine order process. The process will vary from locality to locality, and you will have a better chance of getting protective measures if an expert helps you complete your court appearance forms and directions.
   • When quarantine is in effect, call the police immediately if your family members are in violation.

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   Eliminate family from the will. Another way to make sure the family does not influence you or your children is to write it clearly in the will. Hire a lawyer to help you write your will outlining your wishes regarding end of life medical decisions, custody of your children and how you want to dispose of your property. advertisement

Advice

• Free yourself only if you suffer mental or physical health damage and school neglect.
  • This depends on your age
• Get help from grandparents or other elderly relatives who you trust.
• Try to settle this with a counselor.
• Living with your parents is best for you unless they are neglected by them
• Remember, it is extremely important to leave home. You should always have a good reason for making this decision.

What you need

• Money for lawyers