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Knowing how and when to say goodbye can be difficult, even in casual situations. Learning to say goodbye clearly, carefully, and appropriately is a skill that helps you maintain relationships and let people know of your interests. Sometimes it's much easier to say goodbye than it really is. Read more to learn how to recognize opportunities to say goodbye and respond to other people's wishes when you leave.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Say hello temporarily

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   Know when to leave. When you are at any party or gathering, or even when only two people talk to each other, it can be very difficult to leave. Learning how to recognize good opportunities to leave will make it easier to say your goodbye to leaving.
   • Pay attention if everyone seems to be dispersing. If more than half of the people have left, then it is a good time to say goodbye. Find your host or friend, wave at everyone and leave.
   • Leave when you want. You don't have to wait for any special signal. If you are ready to go home or are ready to end the conversation, say "Wow, I have to go home. See you guys later!"

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   Observe body language. Staying for too long is impolite, but often quite hard to tell. People don't like telling you they want you to leave, so try to watch for the signals.
   • If the hostess starts cleaning up or withdraws from the conversation, call your friends or clear up your belongings and leave. If someone started checking their watch, or seemed restless, it was time to leave.

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   Plan to meet again. Even when you say "See you at school tomorrow", or "I can't wait until Christmas to see you again" can help your farewell gently and focus on what's to come. If you don't have a plan, see this as your chance to do so. Even saying "See you later" also shows the same idea.
   • Make a coffee or lunch appointment later in the week if it makes goodbye easier, but don't commit to doing anything you don't want to do. It's okay if you leave.

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   Tell the truth. It is easy for people to use "reasonable excuses" when they are ready to leave. You don't have to. If you want to leave, just say, "I have to go now, see you guys later". There is no need to do any more complicated actions. If you want to quit the conversation you're ready to end, just saying "Talk to you guys" is more than enough. advertisement

Method 2 of 3: Saying Goodbye Long Term

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   Plan a good time to say goodbye before you leave. If someone you know is about to leave a few years abroad, or go to college, it could be a time of stress and chaos while they are planning their trip. Set a certain meeting time and place and say goodbye. Likewise, prioritize saying goodbye if you are the one to leave. Don't make plans with friends who don't really need to say goodbye and forget about dates with your sister.
   • Pick a place that makes sense - be it a dinner, or walking around, or spending time together doing something you both love like watching a game.

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   Talk about the times you've had. Recall the funniest stories, remember the funny stories. Back in the past: the things you did together, things that happened while you were still friends, the time you spent together, even how you met.
   • Don't start saying goodbye as soon as you enter the room. Evaluate the people's attitudes about whether they are leaving or that you must leave. If it's a trip they don't expect, don't spend the entire time asking them questions about the trip. If they're excited, don't spend the entire time disappointing them telling them how much people will miss them. If your friends are jealous of your French job opportunity, don't spend the entire time bragging about it.

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   Be open and friendly. It is important to build a foothold in the relationship. If you want to stay in touch, let them know. Exchange information about email, phone numbers and addresses.
   • Asking for an email address or phone number is more comfortable, so you can talk to them while being honest. If you have no intention of keeping in touch, don't ask for contact details. Doing so may cause the person you are about to travel to wonder about your sincerity.
   • Make sure your family members know where and what the situation is, and that you met them before you or they left. It's important and don't leave an impression on someone that you are retreating or disappearing.

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   When it's time to say goodbye, keep it short and honest. Most people don't like lengthy goodbyes, but do it informally. If you need to express complex emotions, consider writing them in a letter to that person for later reading. When greeting in person, say goodbye happily and gently. Hug them and say what you want to say, good luck on the trip. Don't try to linger too long.
   • If you have to be away for a long time and cannot carry everything, giving away some belongings can be a beautiful gesture and strengthen a relationship. Let your group of friends keep your old guitar while you go, or give your siblings a meaningful book that will make them remember you.

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   Keep contact. Please stay in touch if you plan to do so. Talk over Skype or write funny postcards. If you gradually lose contact with a friend or loved one that you genuinely want information about, try to add. If it's because your friends are too busy, try not to get too sad. Let everything heal naturally.
   • Make realistic expectations of staying in touch. A friend who goes to college will make new friends and won't be able to talk on the phone every week with you.
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Method 3 of 3: Goodbye Forever

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   Say goodbye immediately. Delaying visiting a loved one at a hospital is always a mistake, like waiting until the last days before your friend leaves the country forever and says goodbye. Don't miss the opportunity to say goodbye and leave them with the last happy and happy moment. Being alone in the hospital is a bad situation when you die. Stay in the room and say what to say. Spend as much time as possible with your loved one. Stay by their side and support them.
   • Usually a dying person wants and feels comfortable with one of four specific messages like this: "I love you," "I forgive you", "Please forgive me" or " Thanks". If any words fit right now, carefully include them with your goodbye.

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   Do what feels appropriate. We often get the impression that death or "forever" goodbyes are often sad and not happy at all. But put yourself in the shoes of someone who's about to leave. Your role is to be there with them and comfort them during the time they need someone around. If they want you to laugh, or if it's natural, laugh.

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   Speak the truth selectively. It is difficult to know how the truth will affect a dying person. If you visit an ex-spouse or a sibling who is cold to each other, you will experience tension and complex inner feelings about their departure. The hospital does not seem the right time to release anger and resentment against your dead father.
   • If you feel that the truth might hurt the dying person, realize this and change the subject. Say, "Now I don't need to worry about you" and change the subject.
   • It's also easy for people to be overly optimistic, saying, "No, there's still a chance. Don't give up" if a loved one says, "I'm going to die." There is no need to stress about being both unsure. Change the subject and say "How are you feeling today?" or reassure them by saying, "You look good today."

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   Continue talking. Always speak softly and pay attention to your role as the speaker. Even when you are not sure if you are being heard, say what you need to say. Saying goodbye to a dying person works both parties — make sure you don't regret saying "I love you" for the last time. Even if you're not sure if the person can hear you, just say it and you'll know.

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   Please be present. Being there while being completely mindful. It is very difficult to avoid becoming hypersensitive to the sacredness of that moment: "This is the last time he said, 'I love you', right?" Each moment will be very stressful and emotional. But get out and try, as much as possible to experience this authentic moment: the moment you love.
   • Often, dying people control when death comes to them and will wait until they are left alone to prevent loved ones from experiencing pain. Because of that, many family members want to be there "to the last moment". Be aware of this and try not to pay too much attention to the time when death will come. Say goodbye at the right time.
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Advice

• Remember, it's okay to cry.
• It's best to show that while the world in front of you is preparing for a new start, you can still connect with people in your old place.
• If you lose someone you love, especially a family member, don't try not to think about them. Talk about them with people who also know and love them - share stories, memories, routines, and funny sayings.
• If the person "disappears" but appears within your realm and then fails to contact you, don't blame yourself for it. Sometimes people need a lot of private space to deal with their inner problems without letting the past pull them back - leave them alone and they'll come back someday.
• Saying goodbye often makes it harder to see the separation from your own perspective. Choosing to see a person's passing away from your life as something you have to endure has placed an unbearable burden on the departing person to try to comfort him. loss of yourself, only if you are able to do it.
• If you need to say goodbye to your girlfriend then you are better off hugging her.Never leave without hugging her, or you will have to deal with her anger.