Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 4: Get in His Line of Sight
• Method 2 of 4: Show your interest in him
• Method 3 of 4: Be More Direct
• Method 4 of 4: Determine if you will be a good couple
• Tips
• Warnings

Getting a guy to take the first step can be tricky.You can love him as much as your heart desires, but you cannot force him to do anything. You know that you like him, and perhaps he likes you in return. However, are you embarrassed to come up first, or do you just want everything to be according to the old-fashioned tradition, when is it the guy who gets the girl? If that's the case, try taking a few subtle steps and you'll increase your chances of getting a date.

Steps

Method 1 of 4: Get in His Line of Sight

1. 1 Set up "casual" meetings. Think about what he likes (and what not) and where he spends time. Try to arrange a meeting that seems like a coincidence. But don't go too far! Show interest in his hobbies, and perhaps he will notice it.
   • For example, if you know that he enjoys climbing, go to a local gym with a climbing wall at the same time the guy is supposed to be there. You can even tell him that you are here for the first time, and after these words, see if he will help you get comfortable. This way you will be able to flirt and provoke casual physical contact.
   • Find out when he is going to study in the library and on what subject, and then, as if by chance, show up there at the same time with similar material.
2. 2 Get close to his friends. Having mutual friends and appearing in his social circle will increase the likelihood that you will be spending time with each other. His friends will be the best reflection of your positive qualities. He may already know you, but let his friends convince him of your excellence and common interests.
3. 3 Start a conversation with him. He may not start a conversation because he is shy or because he had an unpleasant experience with girls. Whenever you are with him, make sure that all his attention is focused on you and on what unites you. Try a few different approaches to break the ice.
   • "Can you show me how to do that card trick you showed at the party?"
   • "I'm thinking of going to the mall for a bite to eat. Would you like to show me where the best food is?"
   • "Look, you're good at computers. Can you teach me a few tricks?"
4. 4 Chat more with him on social networks. Find it on VKontakte, Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram or other social networks. Like (I like) his posts. Retweet his Twitter posts. Show that your interests are highly intertwined so that he sees you as more than just a friend.
5. 5 Show empathy when he is having a bad day. Help him see in you the person who cares about him. Be a shoulder to lean on when he needs support. Soon you will seem to him to be the one who constantly makes him happy, and this will lead to the fact that you will spend a lot of time alone.
   • Take time to adjust to his schedule. You may need to sacrifice some of your time. By giving the person the opportunity to speak up, you increase your chances of success in your relationship with them.
   • Find out if he has any difficulties with a particular subject. Ask if he wants to study or do homework together.

Method 2 of 4: Show your interest in him

1. 1 Flirt. Flirting will help him know that you like him. More importantly, it will be easier for him to take the first step without fear of rejection. Help him see that friendship can grow into a more serious relationship. Typically, flirting is manifested in body language, gestures, posture, or words.
   • If you are sitting next to each other, seduce him with a look. Look into his eyes and smile. Maintain eye contact a little longer than usual.
   • Copy his movements. Lean closer as he leans over. Smile when he smiles.
   • Lick your lips. Noticing that he is looking at your lips, lick them calmly. Do not overdo it.You should hint, not force.
   • When you catch his eye on you, smile and look down. Then look at him, while smiling flirtatiously all the time.
   • Play with your hair. Both sexes often instinctively start preening when trying to impress.
2. 2 Break the touch barrier. Show that you enjoy being gently touched and that you will not flinch or move away. Let him touch you. If a guy is trying to be a little playful, don't push him away unless he goes beyond your personal comfort level.
   • Hug him back. If the guy wants to hug you, accept it with pleasure, and let him break the hug first.
   • Play with his hair. If you see that one or two strands are knocked out of his hair, stretch out and gently take them to the side.
   • Be careful, otherwise your behavior can turn him off a lot.
3. 3 Compliment him. Find reasons to say something to him that makes him smile or feel confident. Try a few of the following:
   • Shake his hand and say: "Look how small my hand is compared to yours!"
   • Touch his hair and say: "This hairstyle suits you very much."
   • "I can look into your blue eyes for hours."

Method 3 of 4: Be More Direct

1. 1 Make your intentions clear. Some guys are shy or afraid to take the first step. Others just don't notice your signals. Even a shy guy can open up if he realizes that you like him.
   • Take his hand as you walk alongside.
   • Ask him to help with something that you clearly don't need help with. If this is a simple task, he will understand that you were just looking for a reason for him to notice you.
   • Say in his presence: "I would like to find a guy."
   • Tell him a fictional dream where the two of you were a couple.
   • Don't be too frank until he takes action. You need to be obvious, but not desperate.
2. 2 Ask direct questions. If you don't want to take the first step, you may need to open his eyes to the fact that you are a great party. Ask leading questions that will lead him to the desired conclusion.
   • "Do you think I'm beautiful?"
   • "Lucky for my boyfriend, okay?"
   • "I think most guys would be happy to date a girl like me, right?"
3. 3 Be careful when making comments about relationships and love. In trying to be straightforward, there is still a line that should not be crossed. Pressure and aggression can somewhat scare and alienate a person.
   • Don't make him talk about love. Guys are often hesitant to talk about it.
   • Make subtle comments about how great you would look together.
   • Definitely don't mention anything about marriage.
   • Don't say, "I love you." It is unlikely that someone who has not even taken the first step will take it well.

Method 4 of 4: Determine if you will be a good couple

1. 1 Make sure you are compatible. Have lunch together. Spend time talking so your friendship has time to develop. The longer you are friends, the more you will learn about him.
   • Find out if you have common values. If you find that your values ​​are very different, chances are you don't fit together.
   • Find out if he cheated on his ex-girlfriend. Ask how his previous relationship ended. Lack of trust is a sure sign of relationship problems.
2. 2 Be true to yourself. Be yourself. There is no point in building a relationship on deception. Don't pretend to love what you really don't like, otherwise you risk ruining everything when he finds out the truth.
   • Show him something you value, such as your favorite book. Tell us why it is of special value to you.
   • He will appreciate your honesty and the fact that you are not afraid to be yourself.
   • Mention some of your hobbies and see if he approves of them.
3. 3 Make sure of mutual sympathy. Before encouraging him to take the first step, make sure he likes you. And in any case, do not be discouraged. Here are some signs to help you draw your conclusions:
   • If he smiles or teases you a lot, chances are good that he likes you.
   • If he keeps his distance from you, chances are he is not attracted to you.
   • If he constantly asks questions about you, this is a sure sign that he has mutual sympathy for you.
   • Invitations to social events are a great sign of interest.

Tips

• Do not hurry. Give time to him, yourself, and this relationship. Don't rush the process. If you really like it, it's worth the wait.
• Guys are shy when it's time to act, so sometimes it's best to clear things up without actually taking the first step.
• If you flirt with him and he doesn't reciprocate, that doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't like you.
• Try to be good friends with him first. This will help!
• Always be the one to cheer him up on a bad day.
• The fact that he doesn't talk to you doesn't always mean that he doesn't like you. Perhaps he is simply afraid to strike up a conversation with you. Take the initiative.

Warnings

• Never rush things.
• If you think he wants to ask you out, keep those thoughts to yourself! If you tell others, which turns out to be a false alarm, you may find yourself in a very awkward situation.
• Don't be desperate. If you like him, don't go overboard. Restraint is the key to success.
• Don't be obsessed with a guy. He may misunderstand this and think that you are stalking him.