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Have you ever chatted with someone or tried to enter a conversation and wondered if that person didn't like talking to you? Maybe the person doesn't want to communicate for reasons ranging from being tired or not wanting you to interrupt their private conversations. But by observing your body language and listening to the pattern of words, you can determine if someone is not trying to talk to you and then make it possible to politely withdraw. the conversation.

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Part 1 of 3: Observing body language and patterns in speech

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   Understand the implications. If you text or use social media, it can be difficult for you to observe the person's body language. But by reading the response cues and knowing how long it will take them to respond, you can judge if they don't want to talk to you.
   • Look for a "seen" sign of a message on websites like Facebook, Instagram, or Whatsapp. If it takes a long time for the person to respond to the message you sent, or if they don't, they may not like to communicate with you.
   • Pay attention to what the person does offline when you message them.
   • Check out the person's response. If they respond with a single word like "yes", "yes", or something like that, there's a chance that they are no longer interested in the conversation or don't want to talk to you.

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   Listen to the person's voice. The tone of voice that other people use in conversation tells you a lot about how they feel. Paying attention to this will help you determine if the other person is paying attention and will suggest an elegant end to the conversation. Ask yourself a few questions about the person's tone of voice:
   • Will they be upset when I say something?
   • Does the person seem tired, slow, or boring to answer?
   • Are they quite happy or excited about their interactions?
   • Does that person seem to be wondering about everything I say?

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   Determine who is leading the conversation. If you suspect that the other person is not interested in communicating with you, determine who is leading the conversation. This is also a sign that the person is not interested and that you need to stop talking.
   • See if you can hear your own voice better than the other's, indicating that the person is no longer interested in the story.
   • Wait a moment to see if they want to say anything more. It could be that they want to talk, but you're overwhelming them.
   • Check to see if you are involved in the conversation if there are more than two people in the group. If not, try saying something and see how the other person responds.

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   Listen to responses. Other people's responses to your responses and words will let you know if they want to talk. The following types of statements may indicate that the other person feels bored or does not want to talk to you:
   • Use sluggish responses like "is that so," "you're right", or "of course."
   • Repeat your "cold today" with the answer "Yes, it's cold".
   • Ignore questions or statements.
   • Answer with a word or a concise sentence that includes a simple "yes" or "no". Gestures like nodding can also be a sign the person doesn't want to talk.

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   Observe eye contact. There is an ancient adage that the eyes are the windows to the soul. Watching the other person's eyes can tell you if they want to communicate. The following signs may indicate that the other person is not excited:
   • Looking down at the floor.
   • Look around the room.
   • Watch watch.
   • Eyes glazed.

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   Pay attention to the position of the body. Just as when someone else's gaze can tell you a lot about their focus on the conversation, so can the body posture. Observe the person's way of standing to see if they are interested in the conversation.
   • Find out if the other person is mimicking your position and directing her body towards you. If not, they may want to end the story.
   • Check to see if the person is facing you. Otherwise, they don't want to continue the conversation.
   • See if the person's feet are facing you, which can also be a sign of whether or not they want to talk.
   • Pay attention to the distance between the two. If the person doesn't come close to you, they may not want to communicate with you.

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   Check your body language. Body language is a great cue about how someone else feels about you or about your conversation. Some examples of body language that might show that a person doesn't want to talk to you include:
   • The body is rigid or motionless.
   • Tense and raise shoulders.
   • Crossed arms over chest.
   • Feel your neck or play with your collar.
   • Fidgeting or stirring.
   • Yawn.
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Part 2 of 3: Please politely withdraw

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   Avoid panicking or getting angry. Sometimes, people simply don't want to talk, be busy, or have problems in their personal lives. Don't panic and be angry with the person. Be sympathetic and politely excuse yourself, this will prevent you and the other person from continuing the awkward conversation.
   • Do your best not to express your feelings to the other person.

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   Use a common excuse. You can use a variety of reasons to end a conversation like going to the toilet or making a phone call. If you see that the other person is not paying attention, you should use the "easy exit" to end the conversation while remaining positive about things. You can say:
   • I'll go get more drinks.
   • I have to take or make an important call.
   • I need to use the restroom.
   • Is not acting and needs fresh air.

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   Find a natural transition in the conversation. If something is interrupting your story, use it as an opportunity to retreat. This method will help you to exit the conversation in a positive way.
   • Find something in the room that makes you "realize" a problem. For example, you could say “well, I didn't know it was late. I have to go home for my daughter to sleep ”, after looking at your wall clock or watch.
   • See if anyone else can join the conversation so you can quit.
   • Wait for a break in the conversation and use it as a way to transition to the end of the conversation. For example, you could say, "I am very happy to chat with you, but since I have a meeting early I have to go urgently."

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   Show respect for the person's time. It is easier to separate yourself from unhelpful conversation by ending the process in the same way as if it were for the other's sake. Say something like "I don't want to monopolize all your time" to end the story.
   • Say something like, "You must be talking to someone else, so I'll excuse myself."
   • Remember to use your tone of voice and body language as honestly as possible.
   • Avoid using this method too often as it can make you appear dishonest.

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   Ask for the person's business card or contact information. Asking about how to get in touch is a natural sign that the conversation is coming to an end. Look for a kind way to say that you've had a good conversation and want more information.
   • Ask specific questions about the other person's job, course, or interests. You can ask like “I'd love to know more about it. Do you have a business card or information so I can contact you to find out more? ”.
   • Be sure to read the information they give you as this is a sign of respect.
   • Offer to help the person. You can say “I am very happy to chat with you and learn more about your work. If you need my help, just let me know ”.
   • You should use this tactic with someone you don't know well.

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   Complete the conversation. If you become aware that the other person no longer wants to talk to you, find a way to end the conversation by going back to the starting point. Remember to repeat what you have learned and thank them for their time.
   • You need to make the transition in as natural a way as possible. You can ask about something related to the starting point of a conversation to end it.

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   Thank that person for taking the time. Even if you know they don't want to communicate with you and can be rude, behave in the right way and stay positive about things. Be sure to let the person know that you had a good conversation - even if it wasn't - and thank them for their time.
   • You can say, "I'm sorry, but I have to give up. I had a very good conversation with you, Vân, and I want to thank you for your helpful advice ”.
   • Add the person's name to your final statement to show that you respect and remember them.
   • Remember to maintain the positivity of the saying "honey kills".
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Part 3 of 3: Inquire after the conversation

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   Remember that anyone will experience bad days. If you're still not sure if the person doesn't want to talk to you, keep in mind that everyone has bad days. This will help you take the first step in asking the person in question to determine if they have had a bad day or if they really don't want to talk to you.
   • You should get in touch with them after a few days. This way, they'll have time to deal with their problem and stop feeling frustrated with you.

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   Send a friendly message. You can contact the person via text, email, social media, or phone call. You can also drop by their office or classroom. This will open the door to fresh conversation and help you determine the person's attitude in communicating with you.
   • Keep the message short and friendly. Emphasize how much joy you got from your last meeting. For example, you could write something like “I had a pretty good time with you during the conversation the day before. Hope you are okay. Would you like to go for coffee to chat? ".
   • Avoid sending lengthy messages or sending too many messages at once. The response you receive to a simple message like this will tell you a lot about the person's attitude.

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   Determine the person's attitude. Observe how the person responds and how much time they spend reading and responding to the message. From there, you'll be able to pinpoint when the person doesn't want to talk to you.
   • Pay attention to when and what the person's response is. If they just give a brief answer like "sorry, I can't see you", chances are they don't want to communicate with you. If the responses were more friendly and enthusiastic, the person may have had a bad day the last time they met.
   • Use hesitation in the response as a sign that the person doesn't want to talk to you.
   • Avoid sending out more asking messages so that you don't upset the person - and in turn, can be upset.

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   Keep distance. If someone's nonchalant response or out of contact makes you realize they don't want to talk to you, stay away from them. Not only will this upset you and the person, but it can also have other consequences such as a bad reputation.
   • Avoid sending more messages, unfriending, or unfollow them on social media. This will show you clearly that the person doesn't want to talk to you.
   • Allow the person to contact you if desired and decide on how to respond. You may want to consider giving the person more of a chance. Being kind to others won't do you any harm, even if they don't usually treat you well.
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