Content

• Steps
• Advice
• Warning

The first night you stay at your boyfriend's house will be a pleasant experience, but you may also be a bit worried. If you feel like you and your boyfriend are close enough to spend the night at his house, that's a great signal that your relationship is going well. You just need to be yourself, prepare in advance, and maintain a comfortable conversation when you sleep at his house for the first time.

Steps

Part 1 of 4: Bring essentials

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   Choose a discreet bag. Don't be prepared as if you moved into his house for a week; however, you will need to bring some essential items to use in the morning. You will need to brush your teeth and remove makeup if you have one.
   • Evaluate which items will fit into the handbag you use often. If you use a purse often, you will need to carry something a little bigger or just compose basic essentials.
   • If your boyfriend lives in a remote place and this is an overnight trip to visit him, you can pack more. In general, you'll need everything you would normally use while traveling.

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   Prepare essential gear for your evening routine. Don't let yourself get into the dilemma of asking for a toothbrush, and if you decide not to brush your teeth, it's awkward. Bring any items that you would be uncomfortable without.
   • You may need to bring a makeup remover if you have makeup on. Some women go to bed with makeup on instead of letting their boyfriends see their bare face. However, this is not good for your skin and if he is your boyfriend he will eventually see your bare face.
   • Bring whatever items you need for your hair care. Some women need to tie their hair at night, but they decide not to do so while with their boyfriend. Of course you won't be using a hair curler on this special night, but you may need to bring a comb or conditioner with you.

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   Prepare for the next morning. People usually have a list of things to carry around for the next morning. Think about what you will need for your morning routine and how long you and your boyfriend will be dating before you get home.
   • If you are an early riser, you should bring your phone charger and a book or magazine. That way, if you wake up earlier than him, you can be entertained.
   • You can bring a pair of shoes that are convenient for travel if they fit into your bag, instead of the shoes you left during your date.
   • Don't forget to bring your medication with you if you need to take it regularly. You will not be sure what time you will be home in the morning.

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   Bring “protective gear” if needed. If you are planning on having sex, it is always smart to bring a condom. Don't infer your boyfriend will have a “raincoat” at home. Take the initiative to bring it. If you are not sure whether you will have sex or not, bring some "condoms" in case you need to use them.
   • Condoms are the only birth control method that prevents sexually transmitted diseases.
   • Carrying a lubricating gel or any other “adult toy” is also a good idea.

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   Bring cash. Whenever you plan to spend the night outside, you need to bring cash. If things go wrong or you do not have a plan to go home yet, you will need to use cash in case of a sudden, emergency.
   • You need to bring cash if you suddenly decide to go out for a drink, ice cream, or breakfast. Don't always assume he will pay.

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   Wear flexible clothing. You will probably spend the morning or most of the day with your boyfriend. If you wear tight-fitting clothing or clothing just right for a date night when you go to his house, you may find it annoying to go for a walk at the park the next morning or after breakfast.
   • Your wardrobe should have something that makes you feel sexy but can be easily worn in the morning.

Part 2 of 4: Control your expectations about sex

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   Know what you need. This is the first thing you need to consider when deciding how to spend your first night together. Don't infer for yourself that the first night you sleep at his house means you have to have sex. However, if that's what you're looking for, you need a plan.
   • Doing sex can be a way to bring you closer together and even create a more intimate connection.
   • Sex can also provide an opportunity to discuss issues such as monogamy, situation, sexual health, and possible pregnancy. If you are uncomfortable talking with your boyfriend about these topics, you may not be ready to have a sex life with him.
   • It's fine if you have mixed feelings about the first time you did it. If you're not ready to make a decision right now, that's okay. You need to make sure you can make the right decisions and agree when you do it.

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   Talk to your boyfriend about expectations. This may seem awkward at first, but this conversation is essential. There are many ways you can ask your guy what he wants while you are adorable and even flirt with him.
   • If you want to keep up a flirtatious conversation, ask him how he'll arrange a place to sleep. Say something like, "Do you think we're going to sleep in the same bed or should I bring my own sleeping bag?"
   • If you want to be more frank, you can say, “I know the two of us never spent a night together. I was really excited and I also wanted to talk about everyone's expectations for that night. I'm wondering how you feel about it and do you think we're ready for it. ”
   • If you already know what you want and feel sure, just open up first. Say, "Darling, I'm really happy to sleep over at your house, but I want to tell you first that I'm not ready for sex." Or, "I would love to sleep at your house tonight. I really feel like I'm ready to do it to make our relationship go further ”.

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   Consistent but flexible. If you've made your own decisions, like sex or not, that's fine. However, sometimes certain situations can affect your emotions and you will change your mind in that moment. That is fine. Listen to your instincts.
   • Perhaps you weren't prepared for sex in advance, but now you feel comfortable and eager to try it.
   • You may have a plan for sex, but if you suddenly feel uncomfortable or anxious, it's fine if you change your mind.
   • Make sure your decisions are based on feelings, not pressure from your boyfriend, friends, parents, or any outside pressure.

Part 3 of 4: Creating comfortable evenings

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   Enjoying time together. Perhaps you feel anxious about how you should spend your first evening together. However, remember that he values ​​you because it is you. Not only that, but he's definitely as worried as you are. Get rid of the stress by relaxing together and doing things you enjoy while together.
   • Maybe your boyfriend will be confused when you see his home and his room. You should reassure him by telling him anything you like or appreciate where he is. You could say something like, "I really like the poster on the wall" or, "Wow, I live in a great place."
   • If his accommodation is not suitable for a date, you can go for a walk or drive together. Go on a date somewhere else and come home to sleep.

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   Follow the routine before going to bed. You may need to wash your face, brush your hair and brush your teeth, and anything else before going to bed. Of course, you will do more when you are at home, but you should be living properly tonight. That way, you won't be spending all of your time in the bathroom while your boyfriend is wondering what you're up to.
   • You don't need to explain what you're doing in the bathroom. Maybe he was just wondering, and that is normal.
   • If you often wear braids or hairs at night, you may need to get rid of that routine during your first few nights together, as long as you're comfortable.

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   Know in advance that you won't be able to sleep well. The first night you sleep with someone else, your brain maintains a bit of alertness throughout the night as a way to keep you safe. You may wake up when your boyfriend moves or changes his lying position.
   • Don't plan to sleep over at your boyfriend's house for the first time the night before an important day at school or work.
   • Even if you go to bed early, you may still need to make up for it by taking a nap the next day.

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   Wear clothes that you feel comfortable with. If you are not planning to go back to sleep, you may not bring any change of clothes or think you will prepare sleep. Even if you're planning on, you don't know if you should bring your pajamas or something else to change. How you should wear your pajamas depends on how comfortable you feel with your boyfriend and how close you are.
   • If you do sex in some way or are intimate, you may find it comfortable to sleep naked, or just in your underwear.
   • If he lives with his family, you will need to wear discreet pajamas, just in case his parents or siblings will enter the room or you need to go to the bathroom at midnight.
   • You can definitely borrow a T-shirt to sleep on. Many guys find this so adorable.

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   Go to bed when you're ready. When you both go to bed because you are tired, it's time to sleep. If you share a bed with him, you will need to find a comfortable position for you. Here are a few things that may cause you discomfort:
   • If he snores while sleeping, bring earplugs if needed!
   • Either you win the blanket or like different bedroom temperatures.
   • He likes to cuddle but you don't like (or vice versa).

Part 4 of 4: Waking up together

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   Let him sleep. If you wake up first, let your boyfriend sleep a little more. In general, you would probably appreciate the same courtesy. If you wake up first, you can lie in bed and cuddle him or go to the toilet to complete your morning routine so that when he wakes up, you look fresh.
   • If he wakes up first, he'll probably go to the bathroom first to brush his teeth or get himself up before you wake up.

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   Think about how you will spend the morning. Maybe you two want to be together in the morning and even most of the day, but you probably don't. Hopefully you have a plan for that day. But if you don't have a plan, don't assume you'll spend the morning with him.
   • Did you talk about breakfast? If not, suggest something or ask him what he wants to do. You might say, "Would you like to cook breakfast with me?" or, “I want a cup of coffee. Is there any beautiful place around here? "
   • Does either of you have to go to school or work? If you need to go, let him know. You could say something like, "I have to go to work in an hour, but I'll be glad we have morning coffee together, if you want to." You could also say, “Do you have a plan for today? I'm free, but I understand if you're busy with something ”.
   • Of course, your boyfriend should care and respect you, so don't be afraid to tell him if you want to spend the morning together or not. You should sincerely express your feelings in a healthy relationship.

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   Leave something behind if you want. This is a fairly familiar flirting tip. Even though the two of you are in love, it will be fun to make him feel excited. It's also a great way to leave something behind that will remind him of you and make sure the two of you will meet again soon. Here are a few items that you may "happen" to forget:
   • One piece of clothing
   • A piece of jewelry that you always wear
   • Toothbrush or makeup
   • The book you are reading
   • The DVD that the two of you are watching together

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   Show respect if he lives with his family. If he lives with his parents or siblings, you need to respect their presence. Follow all home routines and behave appropriately.
   • If your boyfriend's parents have assigned you to sleep in your own room or bed, follow that rule. You will be in big trouble if they find you are doing something wrong.
   • Avoid showing your affection in front of his family too. Of course you can treat each other sweetly, but avoid kissing or cuddling in front of family members.
   • Dress appropriately when sleeping and walking around the house. For example, you should not go to the shared bathroom while wearing a t-shirt and underwear.

Advice

• Be in a good mood when you sleep over at your boyfriend's house for the first time. Don't try to defy the price or induce sex or flirt with him right away.
• If he lives with his parents or other family members, you need to discuss in advance what you should wear, what specific items you should bring with you, and what sleeping arrangements will be like.

Warning

• Remember that mutual consent is important. Make sure you and your boyfriend talk to each other on your own every time you have physical contact and sex.
• Before you take the initiative to have sex with someone, you need to make sure that he has recently been tested for STIs and is seriously taking into account the sexual health of himself and him.