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It is easy to feel heartbreaking to see couples giving each other cuddling gestures if you are still alone. But in return, this is also a great time to cultivate family and friends relationships, pursue hobbies, strive for career goals and get to know yourself better! If you are struggling with feelings of loneliness, make an effort to build confidence in social settings. It might be difficult at first, but try going out, making new friends, and letting your relationships develop naturally.

Steps

Part 1 of 4: Build a positive attitude

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   Recognize the benefits of being single. Pairing up with someone doesn't make you any better or more successful, so don't think that you are inferior without finding your partner. Instead, think about the positive aspects of being single. You are free to choose where to live, choose what to do, and you do not have a headache because of the stress and annoyance that almost every couple faces.
   • Single life also allows you to put effort into your personal and career goals. So many people who have a couple wish they could freely pursue their own goals without having to give in to each other.

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   Reach out to loved ones when you feel lonely. Call an old friend and make a meeting, ask someone you love to have coffee or lunch, or invite a couple of people over to play a game one night. Couples love is not the only relationship that will make you feel happy. In fact, being single is a great opportunity for you to cultivate relationships that will follow you throughout your life.
   • If you want to release your feelings in your heart, sincerely confess it to your loved ones. Talking about being lonely can be difficult at first, but then you will feel more relieved when you talk to a relative or friend.
   • Leverage technology to stay in touch with the people you love. When you can't meet people, you can talk to them on the phone, contact via email, connect via social networks or video chat.

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   Add a joy to the house. If your house has gloomy colors, create a cheerful and lively living space to repel the feeling of loneliness. Try refreshing the room in bright paint colors, such as bright blues or revitalizing greens.
   • Flowers and trees bring life to life.
   • Open your window blinds and replace dark, thick curtains with light transmittance curtains. Light that spills into your home can help you feel more connected to the outside world.
   • Nice cleaning, reducing clutter. A tidier home can keep you in a better mood.

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   Exercise for at least 30 minutes a day. Regular exercise will help people improve their physical and mental health. Choose activities to get you out of the house. Try walking around the neighborhood, enjoying nature, swimming or taking a yoga class, indoor cycling or martial arts.
   • Walking in the neighborhood is also a way to better understand where you live, and a fitness class is a great opportunity to make new friends.

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   Choose a new pastime. Learning something new can be an enjoyable experience, and through which you can hone new skills. When you join a club or enroll in a class, you also get the chance to meet people who share your interests.
   • For example, you might pursue cooking, gardening, or crafting. Turn your pastimes into social activities by joining clubs or signing up for classes that teach about your favorite topics.
   • Go online to find classes or related clubs, businesses or organizations to find social opportunities. For example, if you are interested in gardening, find out if your local gardening center offers gardening classes.

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   Give yourself rewards that get you out of the house. Shopping for new clothes, getting a new hairstyle or going for a massage are all great ways to pamper yourself. Just finding shops, restaurants and public places is your chance to interact with others.
   • Step outside and reward yourself with a movie, play or a concert. These activities are not exclusive to dating couples; You can fully enjoy yourself.
   • Visit a place you've always wanted to go. The best part is that you won't have to yield to someone or deal with their quirks, such as wanting to stop at a tourist destination that you don't like or don't want to fly.

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   Have a pet. If your lonely house makes you bored every time you return, a four-legged friend can give you unconditional love and help you with loneliness. Plus, your pet can help improve your overall health, such as lower blood pressure, and encourage you to be more active.
   • Your pet can also provide you with more social opportunities. For example, your puppy can be a great conversation partner, and you'll have to get out of the house more to take your dog for a walk.

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   Remember that we all feel lonely sometimes. Don't idealize love or think that dating and marriage is the panacea. Falling in love is sometimes not easy, and even lovers can be lonely.
   • Loneliness is a part of being human, and in a sense it's also a good thing. It moves people to connect, for that reason loneliness is also a part of the foundation of all relationships.
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Part 2 of 4: Build confidence in social interactions

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   Redirects negative and critical thoughts. If your mind starts to come up with thoughts like "I'm not good enough" or "Looks like I have a problem," tell yourself "Stop! These thoughts are not good, and I have the ability to change that way of thinking. " The first step to confidence in social situations is to change the type of thinking that causes insecurity.
   • The habit of blaming yourself too harshly is often caused by misguided thinking. Stop torturing yourself, keep an objective mindset and resist distorted thoughts.
   • Don't dwell on past relationships or think of them as "failures". Accept the fact that you cannot change the past. Get up and take advantage of self-improvement opportunities to become more successful and happy people.

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   Let yourself be weak. You don't have to be perfect to build pure or romantic relationships. In fact, people stick together because they are open and honest about the vulnerable aspects of themselves. Accept your imperfections, work hard to do what you can change, and tolerate yourself.
   • Don't be afraid to be rejected. If your potential relationship is not going well, don't think it's your fault, or something is wrong. Sometimes people do not have harmony, misunderstand or simply be in a bad mood.

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   Take risks in a healthy social environment. You may feel anxious and risky, but you have to meet and interact with others to overcome feelings of loneliness. Get out there and connect with new people. Take it one step at a time, and then every day a little, you will be more comfortable being yourself.
   • Challenge yourself to do new things, converse with new people, and engage in unfamiliar situations. Accept if your coworkers ask you to hang out after work. Talk to the person next to you or the cashier while standing in line at the supermarket.

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   Make a conversation by asking questions. If you feel anxious about confusing silence or don't know what to say, just ask questions. Almost everyone likes to talk about themselves, so asking questions is a great way to keep the conversation going.
   • You may ask, "What do you do?" or "Have you seen any good movies recently?"
   • If you are at a party, you can ask, "How do you know the host?"
   • While waiting for class, you can ask your friend sitting next to you, “How did you feel about yesterday's surprise test? It makes me play with it! "

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   Gradually build confidence in social contexts. Set reasonable goals and practice improving confidence in communicating step by step. For example, you could start with a smile and still greet your neighbor while walking down the street.
   • Next time you meet your neighbor, introduce yourself and take a minute to chat. You can talk about what's happening in the neighborhood, tell them their dog is cute, or compliment their garden.
   • When you get closer, you can invite them out for tea or coffee.
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Part 3 of 4: Meeting new friends

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   Join a new social group. Find out if there is a reading club at your local library or book café. If you are particularly interested in certain issues or enjoy working for the good of society, go online to look for local clubs or organizations that work for that purpose.
   • If you have religious beliefs, you might consider joining a place of worship, or joining a meditation or prayer group.

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   Volunteer work for charitable purposes. Volunteering will keep you busy and boost your self-esteem. Moreover, when you volunteer for a noble cause, you also have the opportunity to interact with people who have the same way of thinking as you.
   • For example, you could work at an animal rescue if you love animals, raise awareness in the community about a disease that affects a loved one of you, or advocate for a major goal. that you admire.

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   Join an online community. In addition to internet dating, the internet offers you many ways to connect with others. You can play online games that feature chat, exchange on forums about topics of interest to you and meet people through social networks.
   • Interaction opportunities with people online can help you develop social skills if you are feeling shy about being in real life. The only thing is to remember to stay safe online, and to avoid sharing personal information.

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   Let the relationships form naturally. Don't rush into pure romantic or romantic relationships. Let your connections and the other party develop naturally and don't assume you have to push everything. Be patient and allow time for relationships to build a strong foundation.
   • Better to be alone than to dive into a relationship with someone who doesn't really love you. Love will come to you at the most unexpected times, so be patient and optimistic.
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Part 4 of 4: Dating

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   Create an online dating profile. Try to be yourself when you fill out the application. Talk about positive things like hobbies or things you enjoy instead of making a list of things you dislike or brag about how talented you are. Read everything you write aloud and make sure the words sound like you are talking, not clutter or show off.
   • Set realistic expectations, slow down and listen to your intuition. If you find your crush on someone via email or text, switch to phone chat and plan a date. While you shouldn't push everything, you need to cultivate a connection with someone instead of texting for weeks.
   • Don't assume someone is your "other half", or think you've met your soul mate, especially before your first date. It's easy to idealize someone before actually meeting them, and you should let your emotions develop without the bias.

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   Build your confidence so you have the courage to invite someone out. In addition to online dating sites, you can also meet dating in places like a supermarket, a club or classroom, a party or at the gym. The thought of inviting someone out can be stressful, but practicing to feel more comfortable in basic social situations will help you overcome your shyness.
   • Practice talking to others while you are out, trying to talk to people you like or don't. To make a conversation, you can mention the weather, ask for advice or praise them.
   • You can practice thinking confidently with positive monologues. Instead of thinking, "I'm shy so I can't invite anyone out", tell yourself, "Sometimes I'm really shy, but I'll get through it."

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   Keep a calm and natural attitude when you invite someone out on a date. When you get more comfortable with people, challenge yourself to date with someone. Start talking to get acquainted, and if the conversation goes well, ask if they want to go out for coffee at some point.
   • Let's say you see someone in a coffee shop holding a book by a favorite author. You can say something like "Oh, I liked Nabokov a long time ago", or "I didn't expect someone still read paper books!"
   • During the conversation, you can ask questions like “How many of his books have you read? Which book do you like? Which author do you like best? "
   • If you feel like your head is right, continue the conversation. Feel free to and feel like inviting a friend out. Say something like, “I have to go to work, but I would love to talk to you. Would you like to have some coffee this week and continue the story? ”

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   Start with a short meeting, like a coffee. The first date has to be less pressure, does not last long and you can feel about each other. A coffee or cocktail can help dispel your initial shyness without being as formal or pressured as dinner.
   • Set reasonable expectations, and try not to assume someone is not right for you just because they are not perfect. If you already know for sure that the other person is not right for you, a coffee session will not take up too much time and money.

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   Have a date for the second and the next to continue the conversation. If the first date goes well, you can ask them if they want to go to dinner, walk the park, have a picnic or a zoo. It's important to get to know each other during this stage, so choose activities that don't stop you from talking.
   • Avoid dating ideas like going to the movies or going to bustling bars. Also, you should be alone at this time, so you should also avoid activities with lots of friends. Plan the date with activities that balance your crushes with your crush.

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   Be open and optimistic instead of setting distant expectations. When you meet a "fit" person, it will be easy to fantasize about the future. However, instead of writing down a script for your relationship when it just started, enjoy every moment that unfolds spontaneously.
   • Not all relationships lead to long-term marriage or bonding. Normal, casual dates are fun, and it will help you better understand your partner's needs.
   • Enjoy, and don't pressure yourself with rigid expectations. Remind yourself that love comes at the most unexpected times, and that this life has many things you cannot control.
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Advice

• Take a break from the media or draw negative pictures of single life. If the images of couples on social media constantly torment you, cut down on the time you spend sitting in front of the computer screen. Don't believe TV shows, movies, or other media that describe being single as the most unhappy thing in the world.
• Play with people you love and build your self-esteem. Avoid people who are critical of you all the time.

Warning

• If you feel depressed, lose interest in everyday activities, or feel hopeless about participating in social situations, a therapist can help. Ask your general practitioner to refer you to a mental health professional near where you live.