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Getting someone's attention can be difficult if you are extremely shy. Maybe you want to avoid people while you want to stand out from the crowd. However, this is a very difficult thing to control. If you really want attention, work hard to make yourself stand out, increase your social interactions and change your views on social interactions and shyness. .

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Stand out from the crowd

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   Be yourself. You don't have to wear a fake mask to get someone else's attention. Whether you are introverted or shy is okay. We are all different and not everyone can be open and friendly all the time. Respect and love yourself because of that shyness. Many people believe that being shy is also a cute and attractive feature; Not everyone is fascinated by the people at the center of all the fun.
   • Understand that your shyness can actually increase the positive impression others have on you. In addition, explaining to them that you are working on improving your shyness also gives them a better impression of you and helps you get noticed.

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   Wear outstanding and unique outfits. Dress in a style that shows your personality and the beauty of your soul. Perhaps sometimes we get stuck in our own dress and forget to discover new ways to express ourselves through clothing and jewelry.
   • If you like light colors, you can wear yellow, orange, or pink instead of the basic colors black, brown, blue, navy and white.
   • Try not to overdo it (by applying too much makeup or overly garish and colorful clothes); You want to be noticed by people for who you are, not in a negative way.
   • If it makes you feel more unique or confident, you can try cutting, dyeing or styling your hair.

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   Step out in crowded places. People who are shy often want to lean against a corner or retreat to the back of the room. Don't hide behind anything; Step out into the middle of the room where you can get more attention!
   • If you are concerned that you might feel out of place or feel awkward, reach out to someone you know, stand by and interact with that person.

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   Show positive body language. Communication through gestures and facial expressions also plays a very important role in our communication. Therefore, you need to focus on body language manifestations.
   • Smile and use other positive facial expressions as attention. Reflect on people's feelings; This may indicate that you are understanding.
   • Do not cross arms or cross legs. Crossing your arms or legs shows that you are isolating yourself. It could even be a sign of anger.
   • Instead of shrinking, take up as much space as possible; This shows your confidence and competence.
   • Touching is also a helpful way to stand out and show others that you like them. You can give them a hug, a bang with them, or a shoulder. Make sure everything feels right and that the person doesn't feel uncomfortable when you touch the person.
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Method 2 of 3: Strengthen social relationships

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   Connect with people you know. Trust is an important factor in overcoming shyness in order to stand out and capture people's attention. Instead of being in a situation full of strangers, try practicing getting noticed with people you are comfortable with.
   • Talk to a friend about your shyness and worries about going unnoticed.
   • Let a friend or family member know that you want attention and ask them to give you advice on what you can do.

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   Prepare carefully. Having a plan in place can help you feel less anxious and confident when communicating with others. Think about the interactions you might have in special situations and have what needs to be said or how to deal with them.
   • Consider breaking the silence if you feel anxious about meeting strangers or talking to people you don't know. For example, you can ask about an ongoing event to open up a conversation by saying "Did you see what was on the news last night?" Another option is to talk about a movie or TV show you are watching recently. Maybe you will find something you both love.
   • Always be prepared for any situation.When a teacher / someone calls your name, do not hesitate and evade, strangely that even if you answer incorrectly but confidently people will think it is more normal than if you answered correctly but flooded. cease.

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   Meet new people. The other person won't be able to notice you if you avoid interacting with them. Talking to people you don't know is a very helpful way to get their attention. Being honest gives you a great chance to get noticed and overcome your shyness.
   • Look them in the eye, smile, and say "Hello".
   • Show that you like or are interested in the person. Listen to them and nod or make a gesture that shows you are listening to them.
   • Ask a question and call out their name; People often love to hear their own name.
   • Talk about a topic that they or you are interested in and start chatting

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   Use social media. Communicating over the internet can make you less shy and less noticeable.
   • Facebook is a great way to meet new people, but you shouldn't depend all on Facebook as it can make you even more shy. Don't rely entirely on the internet for social interaction.

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   Pretend to be outgoing. Many shy people find that forcing themselves to be outgoing helps them cope with their shyness. However, this is not something that can be changed overnight.
   • A great way to feel confident is to pretend. Act like you really have confidence in yourself. That will be incredibly effective and at some point, it won't be acting anymore.

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   Avoid self-treatment. Some people may use alcohol or drugs to feel more courageous. This may help you feel confident for a short period of time, but it won't do anything to your shyness or get you noticed in the long run. If you depend on alcohol or other drugs to become more social, it can become a habit or even an addiction and can be difficult to quit.

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   Join an activity group that interests you. You can use the situation in a group to get used to the attention of others.
   • You can try to find relevant groups on the website or forum.
   • Find fitness classes at a local gym like yoga, zumba dance or rock climbing.

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   Seek professional help if needed. If your shyness is overwhelming or leads to high levels of social anxiety, including worrying about being judged negatively by others, you may need professional help.
   • Contact your health insurance company and ask them to provide you with a list of covered health care facilities.
   • If you do not have health insurance, you can look for some local or state organizations that offer free or low cost mental health.
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Method 3 of 3: Change your opinion

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   Change your anxious thoughts. Some shy people often have negative thoughts that make it difficult for them to socialize. For example, "People make me feel unnatural", "I'm not as interesting as others" or "I can't think of a topic when talking to others".
   • Recognize times when you have negative thoughts about interacting with others. Evaluate traits in the thoughts that may cause you anxiety or stress.
   • Think about other things every time you realize you have a negative thought.

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   Help yourself feel secure. Assurance or self-assertion can help you cope with embarrassment in social situations. This will make you less shy and less noticeable.
   • If you are feeling shy or anxious, you can think or tell yourself, "I'm feeling nervous, but I know I can get through this."
   • If you want to be noticed but feel anxious, tell yourself, “I feel embarrassed, but I want people to notice me. I know that I can be the center of the room. I can deal with my worries and get noticed by everyone ”.
   • Whenever you feel insecure, you might think, “I deserve to have friends and loved ones even though I am extremely shy. I am interesting and wonderful ”.

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   Learn essential social skills. In your free time, you can focus on improving your social skills. Learn to smile, ask questions, and listen.
   • You can take a social skills class or take group therapy.
   • The party owners can be a helpful resource for those looking to become more comfortable with public speaking.
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