Content

• To step
• Part 1 of 3: Avoiding triggers
• Part 2 of 3: Staying busy
• Part 3 of 3: Talking about sex
• Tips
• Warnings

Thinking about sex is, on the one hand, completely natural. We are hormonal, sexual beings driven by the need to reproduce our genes.However, sometimes our sexual thoughts can take over. This can make it difficult for us to concentrate and complete simple tasks. It is possible to limit these urges and desires so that they become no more than background noise and your daily life no longer suffers from them. Read on to learn how to stop thinking about sex.

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Part 1 of 3: Avoiding triggers

1. Know your triggers. If a certain person, time, or emotion makes your mind wander to sex, learn to recognize these triggers. List your triggers. You may always think about sex:
   • During a particular class, such as gym.
   • In the bus.
   • When you wake up in the morning.
   • If you should actually study or sleep.
   • When you are with someone of the opposite and / or the same sex.
   • When you are at work.
2. Avoid these triggers by anticipating them. You can't afford to avoid math class because you always think about sex during those hours. If you find yourself getting bored during the Pythagorean Theorem, and your thoughts want to enter pornographic territory, you can cut your mind off there.
   • Take notes when you start thinking about sex when you're bored. Keeping your pen moving should focus on the conversation, not what's going on in your head.
3. Make it more difficult to watch pornography. Thinking about sex all the time and / or an unhealthy dependence on porn can get out of hand, resulting in more and more sexual thoughts. In this way it becomes very difficult to keep yourself out of the grip of the sexual thoughts. Get rid of all your porn and avoid viewing erotic content.
   • If you have a firewall on your computer, enable parental controls. That way you cannot accidentally stumble upon pornography.
4. Replace your triggers with other things. If you can't help but think about sex when you meet someone, think of three specific things you want to ask them when you see them again. Take control, and don't allow sexual thoughts, by thinking about other things. Soon this control will become self-evident.
   • If you always think about sex on bus rides, set different goals on these rides. Finish some homework, start in a book, or talk to a friend.
   • You can try to cool yourself down by thinking about non-sexual things before your mind starts to wander into sexual matters. Just don't punish yourself by associating sex with tofu or dirty socks. It's okay to think about sex now and then.
5. Make yourself a promise. Set some minimal goals to limit your sexual thoughts: this way, your sexual thoughts will not interfere with your daily activities.
   • If you need to be reminded of your promise, wear a piece of jewelry or a simple piece of string around your wrist so as not to forget the promise to yourself.
6. Don't get fat. Thinking about sex is a big part of puberty and adolescence. You don't have to be ashamed of it. The only way sexual thoughts can be problematic is if they stop you from focusing on things you do want to think about.

Part 2 of 3: Staying busy

1. Be creative. Convert your sex drive into creative energy. Use the time you normally spend thinking about sexual thoughts in a creative hobby, such as writing, painting, or making music. If it's something you really enjoy, then this hobby can get you satiated by something else.
2. Distract yourself by exercising / playing sports. If you are not the creative hobby type, try sports / training. If you exercise enough, you probably won't be able to concentrate much on anything else.
   • Another option is to get lost in a compelling book or an exciting movie. Or take part in a team sport. While outdoor activities probably won't completely eradicate your sexual thoughts, it will help you to think about things other than sex.
3. Fill your inactivity by scheduling things in advance. Everyone needs time to relax, but if you have hours of nothing to do then you give your head the chance to act out sexual scenarios. Plan your day with activities and events. Leave a little time at the end of the day to relax and reflect, but not so much that you get bored.
4. Develop a healthy sex life. If you are sexually active, communicate with your partner to maintain a healthy sexual relationship that will leave you both satisfied. If you think about sex more than desired, even if you "don't already," it could be because of a lack or frustration in your current sex life. Talk openly and honestly with your partner about your sex life.
   • If you are in a relationship, use your sex drive as a means of acting in a loving and caring manner. Rather than being sexual, be more romantic and build your emotional intimacy.
   • If you are not sexually active (and even if you are), develop a healthy relationship with masturbation. There is nothing to feel guilty about, especially if it helps you keep your sexual thoughts and urges in check. Abstinence can make it even worse. If you are constantly thinking about finding a sexual partner, go on dates regularly and keep yourself satisfied. In this way you clear your head and allow yourself to focus on important things. Make sure, however, that this does not become a new addiction.

Part 3 of 3: Talking about sex

1. Talk to your partner. If you feel like you think about sex more than you would like in your relationship, bring it up. The person you're having sex with also has something to crumble, and also has an interest in your problem.
2. Talk to your parents. While it may look like dinosaurs during your teens, your parents have had to deal with this too. Having a conversation with a parent can put you at ease, and may be the solution. Sexual thoughts can be perceived as problematic in many teens. Talking about it can help.
   • Also consider talking to an older sibling if you are too uncomfortable talking to your parents.
3. Discuss your problem with a close friend. As scary as this may sound, it is one of the most effective ways to solve your problem. If you're lucky enough to know someone who won't judge you right away, and someone who understands your purpose (and can forgive you, if the situation calls for it), talk to them at least once every day about how you feel. Have an honest conversation when you feel like you are about to think about certain things you would rather not think about.
4. Talk to a religious counselor or therapist. If you are struggling with your sexual urges because of a particular religion, talk to a pastor / rabbi / imam / etc. It's a common problem, and don't be embarrassed to bring it up.
   • It can also be wise to talk to a therapist or psychologist. They can help you recognize and deal with obsessive thoughts (sexual or otherwise).
   • If you think your sexual thoughts are due to a sex addiction, seek help from a certified sex therapist or sex therapist to get your symptoms properly treated. Never let an obsession develop into dangerous or destructive behavior.

Tips

• Don't worry too much about sexual thoughts. Remember that everyone else thinks about sex too. Most importantly, you can get on with your day-to-day life without something silly like sex getting in the way.
• If you are a woman, certain birth control pills can increase sex drive. Ask your doctor if you can switch to a less androgenic formula (androgens are related to testosterone (testosterone increases libido in both men and women)).

Warnings

• In very severe cases, a sex obsession can be overcome through therapy and medication. Talk to your doctor if you think your sexual thoughts are out of control.