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• Part 1 of 4: Dealing with haters and jealous people
• Part 2 of 4: Helping people overcome their jealousy
• Part 3 of 4: Understand the origins of jealousy and negativity
• Part 4 of 4: Differentiate jealousy from criticism
• Tips

When people feel inferior or belittled, they often express their feelings in the form of jealousy or hatred. These feelings can lead to uncomfortable situations and make you feel negative about your success. Confronting haters and jealous people directly, as well as applying various strategies to help them overcome their jealousy, will help you cultivate positive relationships.

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Part 1 of 4: Dealing with haters and jealous people

1. Don't try to take it personally. Know that someone's jealousy has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the person. Have faith in yourself. Don't allow a jealous person to falter your confidence or create self-doubt.
   • Keep doing what you are doing and don't let others stop you.
   • Focus on people who support you.
   • Remind yourself that they are jealous of you for doing something right.
2. Ignore jealous and hateful comments. While this is difficult, ignoring mean comments from jealous people will make it clear to them that you have no intention of validating their negative feelings.
3. Face haters directly in your daily life. When ignoring someone is not an option, taking a direct approach to the situation can help resolve the jealous tension. Talk to them about their behavior.
   • "I want a positive working relationship; what can I do to promote such an environment?"
   • "While I appreciate your constructive criticism, I sometimes feel like you're a bit too blunt."
4. Reduce negative contact with that person. If you can switch environments or social groups, it will reduce the jealous person's ability to influence you.
   • Hang out with people who support you so that the hater will be less likely to attack you within a group.
   • When you see the jealous person, be the first to greet politely, then keep walking.
   • Befriend their friends to make them feel like the outsider.
5. Change your routine so that you don't run into the hater again. Take a different path when you go for a walk, use the bathroom in a different hallway, or see if you can change your schedule so that you can take other classes or work in a different shift.
6. Set your limits. There is no need to keep listening to a jealous person expressing his or her grievances all the time. Set boundaries to distance yourself from the person. Create a mental deadline for the time you want to spend with a negative person, then end the conversation and politely apologize.
   • Give yourself 1 minute to talk to them, then walk away saying "I need to check something now."
   • Keep track of negative comments and end the conversation after the third.
7. Let the person know that you cannot appreciate negativity. While you don't want to be rude and upset the person even further, becoming aware of how they make you feel can cause them to change their behavior.
   • "I feel uncomfortable with the way you speak to me."
   • "Your way when we talk makes me feel negative. Can we also talk in a more positive way?"

Part 2 of 4: Helping people overcome their jealousy

1. Rise above the haters and jealous people. It doesn't matter how negative a person is; keep your dealings with them positive. Show them a better way to handle situations by leading by example.
   • Compliment the person for their positive qualities.
   • Be friendly every time you interact with him or her.
   • Offer to help the person improve their skills in the area in which they envy you.
2. Share your personal struggles with them. Some people feel that they are the only ones who have negative experiences. Being open about your own personal pitfalls can help them realize that they are not alone and improve your relationship.
   • Talk about times when you have failed.
   • Discuss tasks that you find difficult.
   • Ask the jealous person to help you out and gain their trust.
3. Help the person improve themselves. Jealousy can stem from a feeling of inferiority. Offer to guide or coach the jealous person to improve their skills in the area in which they are jealous of you to help ease the feelings. Support the other person's efforts so that you don't come across as condescending by implying that you are better than the other person.
4. Offer alternatives. If someone is jealous because of what you have or do, show what alternatives there are. It is not always possible to provide what everyone wants. Be creative in creating alternative options to present to people who are jealous of you. Try to provide multiple options to give them a choice.
5. Avoid posting inflammatory comments or photos on social media. You don't have to stop using social media, just think about how others perceive it to make sure your posts aren't offensive and create jealousy.

Part 3 of 4: Understand the origins of jealousy and negativity

1. Know what jealousy is. People become jealous when they feel that someone else has something they are entitled to. People who are jealous often blame others around them, instead of recognizing the emotion that makes them feel pain.
2. Look for the person's specific source of jealousy. Most jealousy stems from fear - the fear of not being respected or loved can be powerful influences. Try to find out what fear feeds the jealousy to understand where it comes from. The jealousy can have several reasons:
   • Physical objects
   • Personal relationships
   • Professional positions
   • Social status
3. Ask the person on the man / woman what's going on. Approach someone who is jealous or hates you and ask them why. Don't add any more reasons for him to get upset by being rude, but be direct and open for the best results. You could try one of the following suggestions to help them open up:
   • "I've noticed you behave differently around me. Did I do something wrong?"
   • "I want to make sure I didn't upset you in some way; is everything okay?"
   • "You are a wonderful person, and I would like to know if anything has come between us."

Part 4 of 4: Differentiate jealousy from criticism

1. Identify the source of the behavior. Think about who posted the comments that you think are hateful or jealous. If the person is a supervisor or coach, they probably want you to get better, and they're not supposed to slow you down.
2. Observe how the person interacts with others. Some people have medically recognized jealous delusions. These individuals constantly express jealousy and may not mean what they say.
3. Be open to criticism in a positive way. Even if you feel like someone is being too blunt or rude with their comments, you can still accept their comments as constructive criticism. Embrace the suggestions and maintain a positive outlook.

Tips

• Understand that you appear to be doing something right in certain areas to make people jealous; let that motivate you.
• Do not share information with narcissistic people. These people thrive on negative information about you and use it as a tool to manipulate others' opinions of you. Keep a safe distance and don't share anything with them. If they are family members, talk about them to avoid talking about you.
• Remember, haters are just people who are negative about what others have, such as talent or passion, not because of someone's personality.
• You don't have to change! Be yourself!