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• Method 1 of 3: Avoid arguments
• Method 2 of 3: Finding a solution
• Method 3 of 3: Keep your relationship good
• Tips
• Warnings

Sibling arguments are inevitable, even if they can be frustrating. If you and your sibling want to stop arguing, there are a few strategies you can try before, during, and after an argument. You may be family, but with a little effort, you can get along as friends!

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Method 1 of 3: Avoid arguments

1. Put yourself in your sibling if they frustrate you. Before you argue, think about why your sister might be in a bad mood, or ask yourself what you might have done to make your brother angry. Maybe their frustrations are unrelated, or maybe you did something to upset them, but you don't realize it. Understanding how your sibling is feeling will help prevent an argument.
2. Talk to your sibling about what it is that annoys you. Start a conversation so they understand why you are angry or annoyed. Always speak gently and calmly instead of raising your voice. Listen carefully to what your sibling has to say. Also let them talk to you about their feelings.
   • When your sibling says something to you, pay attention, instead of getting distracted by the TV or your cell phone. This will make your sibling feel that you care about what he / she says.
   • Don't bring up things that are guaranteed to lead to a fight, like your brother's grades, or your sister's weird boyfriend.
3. Create a system to avoid repeated battles. Show your sibling that you love them, and then after talking about what is upsetting you, come up with a plan to reduce the number of arguments you have. Brainstorm some healthy solutions together and decide on a few options with your sibling.
   • Maybe you use a system to choose the TV series in turn. It may be best to write down what you have agreed as a kind of contract.
   • If you want to use the bathroom to get ready for school, ask your brother, for example, if he can shower in the evening instead of in the morning. If he doesn't agree, try taking a shower in the evening or getting up 15 minutes earlier.
4. Pause and relax so you don't make the argument worse if they are annoying. Calm yourself down by taking a few deep breaths or counting to 10. This will help keep your cool. If you find yourself on the defensive, your sibling probably will too. Take a time out, relax a bit, and then return to the conversation.
   • Pause for five seconds or five minutes - however long you need.
   • If it helps, designate a cooling-off period and give each other space. Pause your conversation and give each other some space. Work out your emotions individually instead of taking them out on each other.
   • If you have trouble relaxing, listen to music or go for a walk. This will distract you and give you something else to think about so you can calmly come back and talk to your sibling.
   • If you want to do something nice for them and help both of you calm down, take a pet to the couch or another neutral area and talk where there is a calming influence, such as a pet in this case, around the fire. what to dampen.
5. To avoid an argument, ignore unpleasant or rude comments. Siblings bickering, that's part of the game. But if they say something rude or unpleasant, try to ignore it and let it pass you by. Fueling the venom can lead to a fight.
   • Instead of telling your brother he's an idiot, just don't say anything at all.
   • If your sister teases you about your new shoes, just ignore her.
   • If ignoring your sibling doesn't work, say something calmly and neatly like, "Hey, can you please stop doing that?"

Method 2 of 3: Finding a solution

1. Apologize to your sibling. It's best to apologize during the argument, but at least apologize as soon as you can. Instead of reacting fiercely, you take responsibility for your behavior and apologize. If you did something wrong, apologize for what you did. If you don't feel like you've done something wrong, you can still apologize to calm the situation.
   • You will feel much better after you apologize.
   • If you want to stop arguing, remember that your goal is not to win an argument, but to hang out with each other.
   • Say something like, "Hey brother, I don't want to argue. I'm sorry I was bored and started bothering you "or" Sorry I did. "
2. Use "I" statements to talk about your feelings. Identify what is upsetting you and tell your sibling how you feel. Begin your sentence with "I feel" and list your thoughts and feelings regarding the argument. "I" statements help prevent future arguments by openly discussing your feelings.
   • Say something like, "Sister, I feel really hurt that you argued with me about borrowing your shirt." I asked you properly before I took it. "
   • You can also say, "It pisses me off if you make fun of me even after asking you to stop."
3. Think back to past quarrels and look for recurring patterns of behavior. Think back to your last few fights with your sibling. Are these arguments similar? Can you come up with common themes or feelings? By figuring out how you handled something before, you can get a sense of why the two of you are arguing right now.
   • Remember the last time you and your brother argued over the TV remote. Why does this happen again and again? Because you don't agree on what to watch, or because you want to choose?
   • You may keep arguing with your siblings because neither of you thinks you are wrong, but if you know that you started the fight first, you can stop the fight too.
4. Together, look for a solution in case the argument recurs. Talk about ways to prevent this from happening again, such as making a joke about it or leaving each other alone. Find what works for both of you and commit to trying these solutions.
   • You may be angry with your brother for teasing you and calling you names so that you are defensive every time the two of you talk to each other. Agree together that he will stop swearing and let go of the expectation that he will be mean to you. Then both of you can have fun together.
5. Ask your parents for help if necessary. If you and your sibling keep arguing, or if you can't come to a conclusion, then it's time to get your mom and dad involved. They can introduce the voice of reason and help you talk about the problem. Ask them for help and they can offer you ways to resolve your disagreement.
   • Say something like, "Dad, Karin won't stop changing the channel where I watch cartoons." I asked her nicely to stop, but she doesn't. Can you help?'

Method 3 of 3: Keep your relationship good

1. Respect your sibling's personal space and privacy. You are family, but that doesn't mean you need to know everything about each other's personal lives. Be respectful of personal space, such as bedrooms, diaries, or cell phones.
   • Considering the boundaries of your siblings will show them your love and respect.
   • Don't read their diary or poke around their room when they're not home.
2. Express your emotions and feelings in a healthy way. If you are angry or upset, you are more likely to argue. Work on your emotions in a healthy way instead of taking them out on the people around you.
   • Talk to a friend or parent about what's on your mind. This will take the edge off your feelings so that you don't carry your anger with you the next time you talk to your sibling.
   • If you are really angry with your sibling, try writing a letter instead of yelling at them. This is a safe way to express your true feelings, without perhaps saying harsh things to someone right away. After you write your letter, you can often talk more calmly about your feelings.
3. Do something nice for your sibling to show that you love and care about them. It's easy to forget about your sibling's friendship when you two are always fighting. Show your sibling that you appreciate them by doing something fun for no reason at all. It's easy to take your family for granted.
   • You can also do things together like eat ice cream or have coffee somewhere when you go shopping. Also try things like playing their favorite game or buying a new coloring book or magazine for your sibling.
4. Spend meaningful time together as often as you can. Whether you share a room with your sibling or you both live on the other side of the country, it remains important to spend time together whenever you can. Spend time together that is positive and fun, instead of arguing. This will strengthen your relationship and you will be less likely to argue.
   • Do something that you both enjoy together, such as playing golf, going for a walk in the park, or watching a science fiction movie.
5. Build trust by fulfilling your obligations. If you tell your brother you won't tease him again, don't. Keep your promises, and your siblings will start to trust you. Trust is important to maintain healthy relationships and avoid arguments.
   • If you both agree that you argue because you want to be boss, stop bossing your sibling around and let them make their own decisions.
   • If your sister doesn't trust you because you always shoot her with your Nerf Blaster, shoot a stationary target outside.

Tips

• Be nice to your siblings, even if they aren't nice to you.
• Gain your siblings' trust by giving compliments.
• Realize that everyone reacts very differently to situations. What some people do or say for the "joke" can be very hurtful.
• If you accidentally say something really mean to your sibling, apologize immediately.
• If it is difficult for you to get along as brothers and / or sisters, talk to your father and / or mother about it.

Warnings

• Solve problems with your words, not violence. Speak calmly and neatly, and never hurt your siblings.
• Don't gossip about your sibling or you will lose their trust.