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• To step
• Method 1 of 3: Be open
• Method 2 of 3: Be supportive
• Method 3 of 3: Be loving
• Tips
• Warnings

Being a good girlfriend can be tricky, especially at the beginning of a relationship. Whether you and your new boyfriend are exploring each other or celebrating your five-year anniversary, there are a few more tips to follow if you want to be a good friend and grow your relationship. To be a good friend, you have to be loving and supportive while maintaining your independence. If you want to know how to do it just follow the steps below.

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Method 1 of 3: Be open

1. Don't be too open at first. Relaxing in a relationship is about making sure there is enough room for both of you to get to know each other and trust that you are made for each other. If you try to get out of your relationship too soon to make than it already is, your premature pushiness can scare him away and that what is there as being good, to spoil. Instead, be patient and realize that it takes time to nurture a committed and lasting relationship. If you want to make it last, avoid the following things:
   • Don't force him to name you as a girlfriend after a few dates, as this may make him feel like this isn't his own decision. Be patient and let him make his own decision when to name you as a girlfriend. If you are compatible, it will happen soon enough.
   • Don't start talking about getting married and having children if you haven't even met his friends and parents yet. Raising such issues prematurely can develop tension from the outset and even end an otherwise productive and caring relationship, or even end it.
   • While they say that a man's love goes through the stomach, it doesn't mean you have to prepare a three-course meal for him on your first date. You don't have to prove something like this, you just have to be present and willing to listen, be considerate and share your interests.
2. Be honest. Being honest with your husband is very important, even of the utmost importance, and it is equally important that you are honest with yourself. If you overreact or make a mistake, you can acknowledge and apologize for your mistakes. If you feel vulnerable or upset, you can organize your feelings and put it into words to him in a non-accusatory way.
   • And the most important thing here is that you should be as open as possible about your feelings. For example, if he does or says something that bothers you, be open about how it affects you without blaming or asking him to change.
   • If you set clear lines of communication from the start, you will know sooner rather than too late whether this relationship will last or will turn out to be ineffective.
3. Speak your mind. Don't be afraid to express your wants, needs, and opinions, even if they conflict with his. You must not and must not exist just to please him. Besides, showing yourself as a person with his own needs, wants and approach to life will keep him interested in getting to know and understand you as a person. If you are comfortable expressing your opinion, then he will also feel comfortable expressing his opinion.
   • Just remember to express yourself in a way that doesn't attack someone else's opinion or lifestyle in any way - you can be humble and outspoken at the same time by using assertive strategies and also being considerate of their feelings.
4. Be yourself. Don't create a fake person just to impress him. It might be tempting if you think he prefers a different kind of girl, but most of the time these are just snippets of things said or suggested that probably don't add up. After all, he wants to with anyway you going out, not some imagined form of perfection. And if you're really tempted to change things about yourself because he insists you be thinner, taller, prettier, quieter, or whatever, it's a good indication that you're not compatible.
   • If he actually says such things to you in an irritating, stubborn way, it is not love, but an attempt to control you.
   • Don't pretend you share his interests if you don't. It might be funny or safe to do this initially, but it is extremely painful when he learns that you don't really love what he loves. He could be basing his thoughts about your role in his future on something that isn't true and it will end up hurting both of you.

Method 2 of 3: Be supportive

1. Show an interest in his interests. Remember what he likes to do and what he likes to talk about. You don't have to pretend you like his hobbies, but at least try to understand why he's such a fan. If he likes a music group, try to understand why. If he just likes to be playful and immature, remember that it could just be his way of letting go of stress. In learning to accept his unique way of being, you will also learn a lot more about yourself and eventually find out if you want to spend the rest of your life with this person.
   • You don't have to show any interest in already his interests. If he loves watching baseball, but you really don't enjoy it, that's fine too.
   • Simply asking about his interests and talking about the things that are important to him can suffice.
2. Learn to work as a team. As in any healthy relationship, you will experience conflicts together, some minor and maybe some major ones. Don't forget to be honest with yourself and try to stop any strong selfishness. A relationship is a matter of teamwork and a symbiotic relationship, not a parasitic relationship, where one party gives and the other just takes without giving back. In a team you can rely on each other, you do not undermine each other and you openly cherish each other in the presence of others.
   • In times of adversity, approaching problems as a team can help you process things in a less emotionally attached way, with both taking responsibility for solving things rather than expecting the other to do it.
   • Avoid having one one-way relationship in which the band revolves around one thing. Keep your relationship strong by bringing variety and diversity into your relationship. Try different and new things together. Relationships are about having fun together, learning together and growing together.
3. Compliment him more than criticize him. If everything you say around him is critical or offensive, he won't look forward to seeing you and will reconsider whether he wants to be with you. On the other hand, you don't always have to agree with him just because he's your boyfriend. Tact is a better strategy in adult relationships, and setting boundaries and making compromises are important relationship strategies to learn and adopt.
   • While you can give valid criticism if it feels right, you should say at least four positive things about him for every negative criticism you give.
   • Don't nag him just because you're in a bad mood or things aren't going perfectly.
4. Learn to compromise. If you want to be a good friend, you need to learn to compromise instead of fighting or being angry the second time you don't get your way. To make good compromises, both of you must be able to discuss a situation calmly and rationally while understanding the other person's perspective. Try to understand where your boyfriend is from, rather than focusing blindly on what you think you need.
   • You don't want to be that girl who always gets her way just because your boyfriend would rather give in than stick with it because you get so angry and upset when things don't go your way.
5. Give each other space. You have to support your friend, but you also have to be able to to be there for him in your mind, even when you're not really there. If you want to be a good girlfriend then you have to make time to do your own thing, spend time with your girlfriends and to see your boyfriend. He needs to know that you are thinking about him and warm to him, even when you are not with him. If you feel insecure and have doubts about the strength of your relationship from the moment you are alone, then you have a problem.
   • You should support your man if he just wants to go out with his guys instead of trying to be an exclusive one men's event to attend. You don't want your boyfriend to get a reputation as that man the sissy, because he takes his girlfriend everywhere.
   • If you feel entitled to all of his time and attention, learn how not to be an obsessive girlfriend. Don't be an overly protective girlfriend, let him out without making him feel like he's being watched.
   • Remember that he doesn't need you for everything and that you are separate people as well as a couple. When he needs space, don't take it personally - recognize it for what it is - his time to rejuvenate and share different interests with others. But make sure he knows you're always there for him.

Method 3 of 3: Be loving

1. Be loving. There are several ways to show your affection, some are more obvious than others and the way you go about this will depend on how openly loving you personally want to be. Affection is close, but it is not the same as intimacy - affection is about openly showing that you care about a person and can be shown any time of the day or night, public or private. Think about how you want to show affection to people you care about, such as holding hands, touching an arm, quick cheek kisses, a hug, caressing the hair, saying words of support, mentioning how wonderful someone is in front of others people, etc.
   • Men sometimes like it when a girl gives them a nickname like “Baby” or “Dearest”. However, try not to overdo this. It can be a big blunder if you tell them “Mr. Teddy bear ”, especially in public. Of all things, good communication is the essential part of any relationship, so make sure he knows how much you care.
   • Regular amorous texts and emails can be a plus, but too much will be overwhelming and you can seem clingy. This sort of thing shows that you really like him and want it to last forever, but don't overdo it because you can scare him.
2. Be seductive. Don't be afraid to be seductive. Most men find it irresistible when a girl is sexy, stylish and confident. Self-confidence means being happy in your own skin, and you will radiate this when you accept yourself and feel safe about your own worth. Don't force yourself to be the most popular, bubbly personality if that's not your style, rather be your best self by taking good care of yourself and trusting that you are worthy of his attention.
3. Give him gifts. When you are in a relationship, it is nice to give each other small gifts. Men love to receive presents and giving him one shows that he means a lot to you. Don't overdo it - just give him a gift when you feel loved and want to let him know how much he means to you. You don't want him to think you're trying to buy his affection.
   • Make him something. A paper flower, an artful heart, something creative that reflects your personality so that when he looks at it, he will think of you and smile. If you're the musical type or play an instrument, feel free to play one or two songs for him (bonus points if you play a song you wrote yourself). Add a private video of your song to YouTube.
4. Don't be jealous. You have to be loving, but not to the point where you turn red the moment he talks to or even calls another girl. Nothing will push your boyfriend off you faster than a friend who is so insecure and can't stand the thought that other women exist in the universe. Your boyfriend will appreciate you even more if you are nice to his female friends instead of talking about how ugly or annoying every girl you see is.
   • When he's out with his friends, don't text him every two seconds to make sure he doesn't talk to other girls. This will only show him how little faith you have in him.

Tips

• Don't let your friends try to manage your relationship. It's your relationship and nobody else's. Of course they have their opinions, just as you have an opinion about their relationships. But you don't have to listen to every piece of advice from your friends if you don't want to. And realize that sometimes it's about their incompatibility with your boyfriend and that's okay - not everyone has to match perfectly. Just agree to hear them out and ask them in turn to try their best to be able to Hurry up with him.
• Don't be insecure about your appearance. When he goes out with you, he apparently thinks you are attractive.
• Appreciate all the good things in your relationship. Men feel comfortable when there is appreciation. Wouldn't you? Learn to thank him for the things he does, even if it means saying thank you for a ride home. The things he does for you reflect the respect he has for you. Not all women are in good relationships, appreciate yours.
• Never let anyone tell you how to live your life and certainly not a boyfriend. Don't let him pressure you, instead, be open about things, including the effect of any demands he makes on you. On the other hand, don't tell him how to live his life either.
• Let him know when he's right. This is a huge confidence boost, just as admitting your mistakes when you're guilty of something is a great way to smooth out conflict in a relationship. Learn these skills early and you will have the foundation for a strong and equal relationship.
• Get along with his friends and family. These people probably mean a lot to him and getting good advice about you from people he cares about will mean a lot to him. Try to befriend his friends and his siblings. Make sure you are respectful to his parents and make sure they like you. Try to do little things, like be close to his mother or go shopping with his sister.
• Don't try to change him. Just let him know what things you like and if he loves you, he will try to do it next time. If he is very different from the person you envisioned to share your life with, consider finding that person in his place and consider this relationship a learning gift.
• If you're out on a dinner date and he offers to pay, consider declining. By doing this, you show him that you don't just see him for his money. Just remember, if the guy you like is a bit old-fashioned, he can push to pay anyway. In this case, let him be a gentleman or his feelings could be hurt.
• Understand that all relationships are different and that there is no universal way to be a good friend as everyone has different tastes.
• If your boyfriend is acting passively towards you, it doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't love you. It most likely means that he is shy or introverted. Maybe he's never been in a relationship before and just doesn't know how to act. Or maybe he's not the kind of guy to shout it from the rooftops, but he still has deep feelings for you. Talk to him about what's causing his way and be understanding. Maybe he expects you to take more initiative because you have more experience with relationships than he does. Or maybe it's just his way of doing things and you have to get used to it.

Warnings

• Jealousy is a very dangerous emotion. Don't intentionally make him jealous. In the long term, this will ultimately result in the ultimate undermining of confidence.
• Don't be annoying. Being annoying includes constant calls, getting angry when he spends time with his friends, bullying him to spend more time with you, whining, constantly complaining about other people, asking for validation over and over (for example, ending your sentences with: "Don't you think?"), Etc.
• Never flirt with his friends! No matter how hot they are to you, you have to assure him that he is the only man for you. If you feel like flirting with them, it indicates that you're not ready for a monogamous relationship just yet.
• Never lie. Don't just be honest, but also be open about things. Don't leave things unsaid even if it can be difficult, as it can lead to problems later in your relationship. There is such a thing as half-truths - sometimes you have to say something to clear up the ambiguity in the air, otherwise he will think the wrong things.
• It's okay to share things with your friends when you talk about him, but remember to be respectful about him and not share things that are embarrassing, confidential, or rude. (Don't give details about your personal life!) You can keep your girlfriends updated on how your relationship is evolving, but make sure they don't get involved in your relationship unless abuse or other dangerous activities take place, in which case you will give them everything and let them help you leave him. But if you decide that you want to share private information about your relationship, make sure he is aware of it and that he too is allowed to share private information with his friends, but don't let him talk about you as an object .
• Don't run secret tests on your boyfriend to see what he will do. It's demeaning, disrespectful and dishonest. Besides, you wouldn't want him doing this to you either. The same goes for forcing your boyfriend to have sex.
• Don't look into his phone unless he makes it clear it's okay. Expect the same from him.
• Know the difference between constructive criticism and criticism that just blackens someone's character because you prefer them to act as they really are. In the latter case, if you try to change it, it may indicate a strong incompatibility, suggesting that you might be better off looking for someone else.