Author:
Roger Morrison
Date Of Creation:
19 September 2021
Update Date:
1 July 2024
Content
It can be hard to be in love, especially when you feel like your loved one doesn't even realize you exist! While there is no secret formula for getting your crush's attention, there are certain things you can do to make sure you fall within his or her radar. First of all, you have to make sure that you show the best side of yourself. This means looking your best, being an active and positive person and radiating confidence. In the end, try to put yourself in situations where you can talk to your crush so that he or she can see for themselves how unique and likable you are!
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Method 1 of 3: Get noticed
Spend extra time on your appearance. Take the extra 10 or 15 minutes you need to look your absolute best before you even get close to your crush. Even the smallest things can turn you from an inconspicuous appearance to someone who commands attention. Not only will they notice when you look good, but it can also give you the confidence to approach them. - Make sure your hair is good. Even if you just run the comb through your hair, even that can make a big difference. For girls, straightening the hair or applying curls to the hair can give a boost of self-confidence.
- If you wear makeup, make sure it is applied properly and will last all day.
- Also, make sure you take good care of your entire body, such as getting enough sleep and taking care of your skin to keep you looking fresh and healthy.
Try to look different than usual. Dressing differently from the people around you is a good way to get noticed. This works especially well if you are in an environment where everyone dresses similarly. - If people at your school dress or wear uniforms the same, wear an appealing necklace or some cool sneakers to catch your loved one's attention.
- If you are in a professional work environment, wear something that is appropriate, but slightly different. For example, a shirt with an interesting pattern or a striking headband.
Wear red. If red is your color then go for it. Studies show that both men and women are more attracted to people when they wear something red. Put on a red dress or shirt to get your crush's attention. If you'd rather not wear red, choose another bright color to stand out from the crowd. 
Don't overdo it with your outfit. When you're trying to impress someone, it's easy to overdo it. You want to look nice, but don't forget to wear clothes that are appropriate for the situation. - For example, if you have a crush on someone in your yoga class, don't dress for class as if you were headed to a gala ball.
- Remember that everything is better in moderation. This also applies to perfume and lotions.
Make sure your crush has seen you before. Do your best to sit in the other's field of vision. If you're taking the same classes, try to sit near or in front of them. If you know him or her from the gym, work out nearby. Do this until you are sure your crush has seen you and know you exist! - Be careful not to overdo this. There is a difference between making sure your crush knows you exist and stalking.
Get more involved. Try to be more present in whatever room your flame enters. If you attend the same school as your crush, join a sports club or participate in an extracurricular activity. If you and your crush do the same volunteer work together, work longer hours. By being more involved you will become more visible and come across as a driven person with a goal, both attractive qualities.
Method 2 of 3: Make contact
Get to know your crush's friends. If you're too nervous to talk to your crush, try getting to know his or her friends first. If a friend of yours knows one of your crush's friends, have a chat. If you don't have connections within his / her circle of friends, try to get to know one or two of that group first by talking about things you have in common, such as a class or a project. - You can start a simple conversation such as, "When is the due date for English again?"
- If you end up hanging out with your crush's friends a lot, there is nothing else you can do or you will hang out with him or her at some point. Befriending the friends of the person you are in love with is one way to get into good graces with your crush.
- Do not talk about your loved one with his or her friends. If you start asking questions about your crush right away while you've just met them, it's immediately obvious that you like them. Try to appear as casual as possible.
Flirt non-verbally. If the person's direct approach scares you, there are several things you can do to get them interested and appear interested. - Make eye contact and smile. Eye contact and smiling shows that you are friendly and accessible, but don't overdo it. If your loved one doesn't respond right away the first time, don't stick with it.
- If you're a girl, play around with your hair, especially if it's long enough. Twist your hair around your finger or brush it to one side. Drawing attention to your hair is one way to emphasize the best parts of yourself.
Start a conversation. If you've never talked to your crush before, then it's time to take the plunge. Find a reason to talk to your crush, preferably when there aren't too many people hanging around, so you don't get interrupted. If you don't know him or her well, talk about something related to what's going on around you. - For example, if you're in line to wait for something, ask your crush, `` Hey, do you think this is worth the wait? '' When you're in the cafeteria at work, you could say, Have you tried the cookies Susan brought? They are really good! "
- Asking a question is a great way to start a conversation. For example, if you are in the same class you might ask, "Hey, what homework did we do again?"
- You can also ask for help. Whether it's opening a jar, packing something, carrying a heavy suitcase, or helping with homework; Asking your loved one for help is a great way to start a conversation. It also makes your crush feel good about themselves, which is a great way to make your first contact positive.
Talk about common interests. As soon as you start talking to your crush, choose topics that you have in common. People are naturally drawn to people they have things in common with, so talking about shared passions is a great way to bond. - For example, if you are both on the school running team, ask your crush if he / she feels good about the next race? "
Ask him or her about himself. By asking a question, you indicate that you find your crush's opinion interesting and that you want to know more about her. Since people like to talk about themselves, it can also be a great way to keep the conversation going. - For example, ask your crush, "So, how long have you been working here?" Or, "What other courses are you taking this semester?"
Be a good listener. After asking your crush questions about herself, you may be worried about what to say next, how to respond to what the other person is saying, what to do if there is a silence in the conversation ... all of this can be solved by listening. It is difficult to listen to someone and also focus on your nervous self - listening carefully will divert your attention away from yourself to the topic you are talking about. - Try to respond with meaningful additional questions or something to show your loved one that you are interested and can listen. If your loved one says she wants to take diving lessons, ask how she got interested in them, or where you can take such lessons, or how long it will take to get a degree.
- Don't take a break in the conversation as an opportunity to shift the focus to yourself. Conversations are a matter of give and take, so you shouldn't be whole Spend time talking about your loved one, but it also shouldn't seem like you're waiting for the other person to catch their breath so you can start talking about yourself.
- Showing that you are a good listener and really interested in what your crush has to say can help the other person feel comfortable.
- If it doesn't make you too nervous, make eye contact with your crush to show that you are listening and engaged. Don't stare - that would be a bit too intense - but try to look the other person straight in the eye every now and then.
- Show that you are listening by nodding or making an affirmative noise (such as "Mmm hmm" or "Yes, exactly").
Compliment your crush. However superficial, humans love flattery. While you are talking, you can compliment the other person on something. A compliment is also often a good way to keep the conversation going, because it sends the conversation in a new direction. - If you know your crush through a sport, you could say, "I've seen you play soccer. You are very good! ”
- You can also just say, "That's a nice shirt," or compliment her on other aspects of her appearance.
- Limit yourself to one compliment to avoid making it look like you're slipping.
Laugh at his or her jokes. Another way to flatter and bond with your loved one is to laugh at his or her jokes. You show that you have a similar sense of humor and that you find the other person funny. Laughing together is a great way to connect and share a moment. - When you smile you can even say something like, "You're so funny!"
- If you want to be extra flirty, just touch your crush's arm while you smile. This creates an extra bond and is a way to bring your loved one closer to you.
Stay connected. Always try to meet the other person and talk to your loved one. Every time you see your loved one in the hall or in the city, just say hello. Pick up previous conversations. If you feel like your lover likes you, flirt some more or even ask them out!
Method 3 of 3: Be yourself
Determine your style. Take a look at your wardrobe. Make sure all your clothes feel like they fit you, not just things you've had for years that you just can't part with. Your clothes are a great way to express yourself and show your personality. If you have a very outspoken style, this can give your crush an idea of who you are and what you stand for, which can make him or her interested in a conversation with you. - If you are a sporty guy, wear a shirt from your favorite team. If you are feminine and cute, embrace this side of yourself by wearing pastels and clothes with lace.
- If you're more of a rebel, wear band shirts and black jeans.
- It's not okay to copy your crush's style. Just because your crush is always looking great, you don't have to look like you're going to a country club when that's not your style at all. You are meant to feel comfortable in your clothes and be yourself.
Dare to speak up. Let your voice be heard when your crush is around. If you are in a class with your crush, join in and answer questions. Give your opinion and feedback at work or at club meetings. Even just try to talk to friends in front of your crush. This will give him / her a better idea of what kind of person you are. - Try your best to be cheerful and happy around your crush. People are naturally drawn to people who appear happy and confident, so do your best to be positive when they are around.
Use social media. Social media is a great way to reach your loved one indirectly. Even if your crush isn't your Facebook friend or doesn't follow your social media, he can still notice your posts or photos through mutual friends. - Try to shape your social media presence in such a way that you look the best you can. Make sure your posts and photos present you as a positive and interesting person.
- Make sure there are no unflattering photos of you or photos of you doing something inappropriate.
Use confident body language. Even if your crush is making you nervous, you still have to do your best to act confidently. Stand up straight with a relaxed smile. Don't cross your arms, look at the floor, or get nervous; otherwise you may appear defensive and nervous. Also always try to turn your body towards the other person when talking to them.
Tips
- Take it easy when you're nervous around your crush. By investing time in your appearance, you can build up enough confidence to take bolder steps.
- Don't think you have to become someone you are not just to get the attention of your crush. Ultimately, it is most beneficial to be yourself.
- Don't be overly flirty. It's better to hold back and talk to him or her like a friend than to appear too pushy.
