Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 1: Break contacts
• Tips
• Warnings

Many women and men around the world face daily spousal and lover violence. Violence can take many forms, from assault to moral humiliation. Regardless of what form of violence is present in your relationship, you need to take immediate steps to protect yourself. In this article, you will find some helpful tips on how to get out of a violent relationship.

Steps

1. 1 Consider if your relationship is violent? Is your relationship ruining your life? Does your partner regularly hit or humiliate you? The first step to freedom is a clear realization that the relationship is poisonous, painful and that something needs to be done immediately.
2. 2 Be aware that violence can take many forms. If you are physically abused by your partner, that's a violent relationship, period. However, there are other forms as well. Moral abuse can include humiliation, manic control, threats, and intimidation.If your partner constantly makes you feel like a useless person, miserable or terrible, this is a violent situation. If you are afraid to fight back because of fear of physical violence or other punishment, you are in a violent relationship, even if your partner has never raised a hand against you.
   • Sexual violence is also possible (both in the form of rape and simple harassment). Your partner must respect your boundaries and not violate them. If you let him do something before, it does not mean that he can do whatever he wants, whenever he wants. Likewise, a long relationship doesn't mean you have to have sex. Respect your personal space and don't let others invade it.
3. 3 Remember: This is not your fault. You are not responsible for the actions of your partner that he or she does not say (s). You do not deserve violence and there is nothing you can do to bring about this violence.
4. 4 Remember: people do not change. If a relationship turns violent, it will stay that way. Your partner will not change and the problem will not be solved. Violence is not generated by wrongdoing; violence is generated by the abuser himself as a consequence of deep emotional and physiological problems. Unfortunately, you cannot come to anything without the help of specialists.
5. 5 Assess the situation. Does your partner threaten you to intimidate and discourage breakup thoughts? Are you financially dependent on him? Are you being blackmailed? In such cases, it is very difficult to leave. Especially if you are still in love with this person.
6. 6 Get ready to leave. Depending on the situation, you may need to prepare before leaving. If the relationship is just starting, you can easily walk away. However, if you are already married, things get more complicated. Make sure you bring the following items so you don't have to return to the scene of violence:
   • Money
   • Numbers of local shelters and / or services for victims of violence.
   • Prescriptions for medicines
   • Documents (especially passport)
   • Clothing and hygiene products
   • Evidence of violence. If you are going to meet in court, you must have strong evidence of violence in order to win the lawsuit.
7. 7 Make plans. If you leave, you will have to start a new life, which can be difficult. Organize the following for yourself and your children:
   • A place to stay
   • Lawyer contact information
   • Bus / train / plane tickets
   • Safe time to leave.
8. 8 Trust your loved one. After you are gone, spend time with your loved ones and loved ones and people. At first, you will feel the urge to forgive your partner and come back. Your partner may apologize and swear that this will never happen again. You may feel sorry for this person. However, at this stage, it is very important not to give up and stick to your decision. The person who hit or insulted you once will do the same again. So, gather your will into a fist and stand your ground. Spend time with friends or family members. Look for new hobbies and interests. Take a dance class or make an appointment with other victims of violence. Whatever you do, talk to your friends a lot. They will help you get through difficult times and provide advice.
9. 9 Move on. In the end, you will develop a relationship built on mutual respect. At first, it will seem to you that you will never meet the person you want. This is wrong. Relax. And over time, you will find someone who will love and care for you. And you will be happy that you managed to get out of the violent relationship.

Method 1 of 1: Break contacts

1. 1 Stop seeing your partner immediately. If you are in an abusive relationship, the most important path to happiness and security is to give up trying to change the person or hope that things will work out. Stop seeing each other as soon as possible. If you live together, it is best to ask friends or family to help you move out and move your belongings.This relationship is over, and from this moment this person has no place in your life.
   • Avoid places where you might accidentally meet. This can inflame a person's inner hostility and lead to disaster.
2. 2 Change locks and passwords. After a breakup, a violent person can be extremely angry. To protect yourself, cut off all the ways and means by which your ex might invade your life. If you live in your own home or apartment, it may be wise to change the locks in case your ex has a duplicate. Depending on the situation, you can also change all passwords to restrict access to your personal information. Passwords to change:
   • Online bank account passwords
   • Social media passwords
   • Email password
   • Job-related passwords
   • Passwords for other financial services
3. 3 Blacklist your ex-partner's phone number, email address, and social media pages. Most of the company provides this service, so you won't have any difficulties. Make sure you do your best to get rid of his / her presence in your life.
   • If threats continue to appear even after being blocked, change your contact information. It is quite difficult and inconvenient to change all the information and entrust only close friends and relatives, but it will protect you from the pursuer.
4. 4 Seek an injunction if required by the laws of your state. If the stalker doesn't give up, go to the law for protection. If you can provide evidence of abuse in court, you can obtain an injunction that will prevent the person from approaching you. Otherwise, he will go to jail.
5. 5 Live your life. It is very difficult to break all ties with your ex, especially if you have had a lot of happy moments together in the past. However, it is always best to get out of the abusive relationship as quickly as possible. Understand that there is nothing you can do to change a person. He needs medical or psychiatric treatment. The best thing you can do is leave and focus on your own life. It is very difficult, but you will feel much better over time.

Tips

• Millions of men and women face violence. Very often these cases are not reported to the police. In addition, many people suffer from moral humiliation and insults when a partner expresses disrespect and even contempt towards this person. This attitude brings heartache. Over time, some men and women experience diminishing or even loss of self-esteem. Words can hurt just as much as assault.
• Physical abuse occurs when a partner raises a hand to you. It can be hitting, pushing, slapping, kicking, spitting in your direction, or inflicting pain with a weapon. Most often, physical abuse leads to death or some kind of injury. Most women do not report what happened to the police. Every second in the world, physical violence is inflicted on a woman. In some countries, harm to women is punishable by law.
• There are signs of physical and mental abuse. When someone starts shouting your name, threatening or insulting, it is moral abuse. Physical abuse is accompanied by physical pain, injury, etc.
• If the person doesn't show you respect, leave. If you are physically hurt, call the police. Break free and run to safety. Run as far as you can. Many people are afraid to leave home, but still life is more valuable than property.

Warnings

• Don't stay close to the person who is abusing you. It is especially dangerous to be with a person who applies physical force to you, as one day it may end in death.If you stay with a person who morally belittles and humiliates you, you risk breaking down, losing your self-esteem, as well as interest and will to live.