Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Keep Calm
• Method 2 of 3: Neglect the Situation
• Method 3 of 3: Walk away
• Tips

Avoiding an argument doesn't make you a coward or a weakling. This proves that you have self-esteem and that you are good at controlling your emotions. In the midst of an argument with someone, be it a spouse, friend, parent, or stranger, it might be a good idea to step back from the situation. Keeping calm and knowing how to find a way out will leave you happy with your decision.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Keep Calm

1. 1 Control your emotions. Don't let yourself get caught up in the other person. The more you get angry, the more difficult it will be to get away from the confrontation. Do not forget to control yourself. Try mentally repeating a comforting phrase, such as:
   • "I'll be ok".
   • "Don't get upset about this."
   • "His opinion doesn't matter."
2. 2 Stop for a moment before confronting the other person. Think about what you want to say. If you feel the urge to insult or attack him, take a few deep breaths using the diaphragm, or slowly count to ten. Your goal is to calm your anger so you can think rationally.
   • Taking time to cool off can help you determine if opposition is really that important or necessary to you. You will probably realize that it is not worth it!
3. 3 Share the other person's feelings. Look at the situation through his eyes. If you treat him with understanding, it will not mean that you are condoning his behavior. It's just a way to get an idea of ​​what caused this behavior. Once you understand his point of view, it will be easier for you to let go of your anger and walk away from the fight.
   • For example, if you are having an argument with a coworker who is approaching a deadline, consider how the stressful situation might have affected his behavior.
   • If your loved one is angry about meeting your friends, think about the reason for this frustration instead of calling it recklessness. Perhaps he feels abandoned.

Method 2 of 3: Neglect the Situation

1. 1 Assess the other person's anger level. Look for visible signs of anger, such as clenched fists, tight shoulders, and trembling. You need to know how angry he is so that you can choose the best way to handle the situation.
   • If the person is clearly upset, they may lash out at you both verbally and physically if you try to leave. Perhaps you should listen to him first.
2. 2 Tell the other person that you are worried about them. Disarm him by sincerely sharing your feelings. It can be difficult to tell someone during an argument that you love them or that you care about them, but it can help defuse the situation.
   • For example, you might say, “I love you and I don’t want us to be angry with each other. Let's not fight now. "
3. 3 Please apologize. You shouldn't really think so or believe that he is right. Put your pride aside and say you're sorry to avoid making the situation worse. Sometimes an apology is all a person needs to hear.
   • For example, you might say to the stranger you had a fight with, “I'm sorry. It was my fault and I didn’t want it to turn into a fight. ”
4. 4 Ask the other person if you can both take a short break. Pause the fight so you both have time to calm down. Chances are, the next time you talk, you will find that both of you are thinking more soberly.
   • For example, you might say to a friend you are arguing with, “We're not getting anywhere now. Would you like to cool down and talk about it later? "
   • If your friend is still determined, explain that you want to resolve the issue, but cannot do so until themselves do not start to think soberly. This way, he won't feel like you are throwing a stone into his garden.
5. 5 Joke lightly. Use humor to release tension between you. The person may be too angry to laugh, but a joke can stop the fight from developing further.
   • Don't use sarcasm or joke about the other person. Otherwise, he will decide that you do not take his feelings seriously.
   • If you are having a fight with a friend or loved one, try telling a joke that is understandable and funny only to the two of you.
6. 6 Leave if the fight continues. Don't let the other person use insults and personal language to make you angry. If someone insistently swears with you, and you have already tried to defuse the situation, you better leave. Leave calmly but confidently.
   • The main thing is confidence. If you look hesitant, the person might try to provoke a fight with you. Keep your back straight, bring your shoulders back and raise your head.

Method 3 of 3: Walk away

1. 1 Tell the other person that you are going to leave. Don't run out of the room or leave, interrupting the person halfway through the sentence. You need to calmly get out of the situation without upsetting him even more. Calmly tell him that you are not going to keep fighting.
   • If you are having a fight with your loved one, you can say, “I'm going to walk,” or, “I don't want to swear right now. I'll go to another room. "
   • If you are quarreling with someone you don't know, tell him, “I have to go, have a nice day,” and leave.
   • If you are having an argument with a friend or colleague, be blunt. Say, “I'm leaving. Let's talk about this later. "
2. 2 Go to a safe place. This could be another room in the house, your office at work, or your car if you are in a public place. Block out the other person so you both have a chance to calm down. If he is following you, do not engage in conversation with him. Say politely that you need time to think things over.
   • If at any time you feel that you are in physical danger, call the police.
   • Be careful when walking towards your car. Make sure she's not standing in a deserted area and that you have a clear escape route.
   • Try to be in a public place whenever possible. This way, if the conflict escalates, there will be other people nearby who may be able to help you.
3. 3 Seek help if the person is violent. Do not interact with another person or raise a hand on him, unless you are forced to defend yourself. Always try to get out of the situation first. If you are having trouble and you are in a public place, try to get the attention of someone around you. If you are at home and the conflict turns into assault, try leaving or locking yourself in the room. Please call the police immediately.
   • If you are in a public place such as a store or park, look for people who can help you. Get their attention with noise or shouts for help.
   • If you are in a bar or club and someone is trying to get into a fight with you, get the bartender's attention or ask a friend to find a security guard.
4. 4 Analyze the fight. Identify what sparked the controversy and reflect on everything that was said. Clear your mind and deal with everything in your head. If necessary, you can write this down. This will help you figure out what went wrong and where.
   • If you learn from an argument, you can prevent another one in the future.
   • For example, if you've had a fight with your loved one, take the time to think about the underlying issues in your relationship that triggered the fight.

Tips

• Don't let your ego keep fighting.Remember that avoiding an argument is not shameful, and it is not a sign of weakness. On the contrary, it will show that you are a strong and self-controlled person.
• Sometimes it's best to put pride aside and apologize to the person to defuse the situation.