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• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Saying goodbye for a while
• Method 2 of 3: Saying Goodbye for a Long Time
• Method 3 of 3: Saying Goodbye Forever
• Tips

It is often difficult to know how and when to say goodbye, even in informal situations. But saying goodbye in an eloquent, tactful, and appropriate way is a skill that will help you maintain your relationship and let people know that you are paying attention to them. This is much easier than it might seem at times. Read on to learn how to recognize opportunities and anticipate the needs of others when leaving.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Saying goodbye for a while

1. 1 Know when to leave. When you're at any kind of party or meeting, or even talking to someone one-on-one, it can be difficult to get away.Learning how to recognize when to leave will make it much easier to say goodbye for a while.
   • Pay attention when the crowd starts to decrease. If more than half of the people have left, this may be a good opportunity for you to leave as well. Find the owner or your friends, wave to everyone else and leave.
   • Leave when you want. You don't have to wait for a signal. If you are ready to go home or are ready to end the conversation, say: “Well, I'll go, see you later!”.
2. 2 Watch your body language. The abuse of hospitality is rude, but it can often be difficult to tell when to leave. People don't like telling them outright when it's time for guests to leave, so try to keep an eye on the signals.
   • If the host starts to clean up a little or leaves the conversation, collect your friends or your belongings and go out. If someone starts to glance at their watch or otherwise seems restless, then it's time to leave too.
3. 3 Agree to see you again. Even the phrase “I'll see you tomorrow at school” or “Can't wait for our next meeting at Christmas” makes goodbye easy and makes you look forward to the next meeting. If you haven't agreed on when you will see you next time, then goodbye is a great opportunity to do so. Even just saying “See you soon” already implies just that.
   • Agree to meet up for coffee or lunchtime if that makes it easier for you to say goodbye, but don't commit to doing something you don't want to. It's okay to just leave too.
4. 4 Tell the truth. It can be very tempting to come up with a “good excuse” when you're ready to leave. But this is not at all necessary. If you want to leave, just say, "I'm going to go, see you later." There is no need to invent anything more complicated. If you want to end the conversation, then the phrase “Let's talk later” will also be sufficient.

Method 2 of 3: Saying Goodbye for a Long Time

1. 1 Plan a good time to talk before you leave. If someone you know goes abroad for several years or goes to study somewhere far away, then planning the trip can be a stressful and hectic time for that person. Set up a specific time and place to meet and say goodbye. Also, prioritize your goodbyes if you're leaving. Don't make plans to say goodbye to someone you really care about, forgetting to see each other because of this, to say goodbye to someone truly dear.
   • Choose a pleasant place - perhaps at lunch, walking along your favorite street, or doing something together that you both have always enjoyed.
2. 2 Talk about the good things that happened. List funny stories, remember happy moments. Dig deep into the past: remember what you did together, what happened during your friendship, the time you spent together, perhaps even your acquaintance.
   • Don't start saying goodbye right away. Find out the person's attitude towards his or your departure. If a person is not very happy about this trip, then there is no need to ask about it all the time. If a person is looking forward to this trip, then there is no need to exhaust him all the time with how everyone will miss him. If your friends are jealous of your opportunity to work in France, then you shouldn't brag about it all the time.
3. 3 Be open and friendly. It is important to establish the position of the relationship. If you want to keep in touch, let the person know about it. Exchange phone numbers and addresses of residence, e-mail.
   • If you ask for an email address or phone number, it can comfort the person, as you can still communicate, but be very honest. If you have no intention of keeping in touch, do not ask for contact details. A friend who leaves may question your sincerity.
   • Make sure that everyone in your family is aware of your location and state of affairs, and that you are aware of their state of affairs before any of you leave.It is very important not to leave behind the impression that you are simply disappearing or disappearing.
4. 4 When it's time to leave, keep your goodbyes short and sincere. Many people don't like long, drawn-out goodbyes, but make yours personal. If you need to express difficult feelings, consider writing them down for the right person to read about them later. Live, let everything be easy and fun. Give them a hug, tell them what you need, and wish them a happy journey. Don't overuse words.
   • If you are going away for a long period of time and cannot take everything with you, then giving your belongings to important people will be a good gesture and will strengthen the relationship. Have your bandmate play your old guitar while you are away, or give your brother a special book to remind him of you.
5. 5 Follow through. Stay connected if you were planning to stay connected. Chat on Skype or send funny postcards. If you are gradually losing touch with a friend or loved one with whom you sincerely would like not to lose it, then make extra efforts. If you think your friend is getting too busy, try not to get upset. Let everything take its course.
   • Be realistic about your communication expectations. A friend who goes out to study will make new friends and may not have time to talk to you on the phone every week like they did before.

Method 3 of 3: Saying Goodbye Forever

1. 1 Say goodbye now. Delaying a visit to a loved one in the hospital will always be a mistake. The same mistake as waiting for the last days before your friend leaves the country for good. Don't miss your chance to say goodbye and brighten up their last moments. Dying alone in a hospital is horrible. Be there and say what needs to be said. Spend as much time as possible with your loved one. Be with him and support him.
   • Often a dying person wants to hear and will be greatly comforted by one of four special messages: “I love you,” “I forgive you,” “Please forgive me,” or “Thank you.” If any of these seem appropriate, be sure to include them in your parting.
2. 2 Do what you think is necessary. We often get the impression that death or some other goodbye “forever” should be dark and bleak. But follow the example of the departing one. Your task is to be there and calm down if necessary. If laughter is desirable or seems natural, then laugh.
3. 3 Speak the truth selectively. It can be difficult to know how honest one can be with a dying person. If you are visiting an ex-spouse or sister with whom you have not been close, there may be tension trying to surface, or difficult, unresolved emotions in the past. The hospital would not be the best place to let everything out and express your grudge against your father for his absence.
   • If you feel that the truth will hurt the dying person, be aware of this and change the subject. Say, “You don't have to worry about this,” and change the topic.
   • You may want to be overly optimistic and say, “No, there is still a chance. Don't give up ”if your loved one tells you“ I'm dying ”. Don't dwell on something that neither of you is sure of. Change the subject to "How are you feeling today?" or reassure the person by saying, "You look great today."
4. 4 Keep talking. Always speak softly and identify yourself as the person speaking. Even if you are not sure if you are being heard, say what needs to be said. The process of saying goodbye to death works both ways - be sure you won't regret not saying “I love you” the last time. Even if you are not sure if the person hears you, say it and you will know.
5. 5 Be present. Physically and emotionally, be there.It can be difficult not to attach too much importance to the moment: “Is he the last time he says‘ I love you ’?” Every moment can be stressful and exciting. But get out of your own thoughts and try, as much as possible, to experience these moments as they are - as time with a loved one.
   • Often the dying person has some control over the actual moment of death and will wait for solitude to keep those close to them safe from the pain they may experience. Likewise, many family members pledge to be there “until the end”. Be aware of this and try not to place too much emphasis on the exact moment of death. Say goodbye when it seems appropriate.

Tips

• Remember it's okay to cry.
• It would be wise to consider that although the world has opened up before you to give you the opportunity to start over, you can still be connected to where you came from.
• If you are losing someone you love, especially if they are a family member, you shouldn't try not to think about them. Talk about this person with other people who knew and loved him - share funny stories, memories, habits and quotes.
• If the person “disappears” but still comes into view from time to time, but does not contact you, do not blame yourself. Sometimes people need a lot of personal space to solve their inner problems without being pulled back by the past - leave such a person alone and one day he will return.
• Saying goodbye is sometimes much more difficult when you look at separation from your own perspective. If you prefer to see the removal of a person from your life as something unbearable, then you are throwing a heavy burden on the person leaving, forcing him to try to console your loss whenever you have the opportunity to do so.