Content

• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings

You have finally met the man or woman of your dreams: long conversations, pleasant pastime, wonderful ... Oh my God! Suddenly, her or his spouse calls and accuses you of destroying their marriage and your dreams are shattered. Unfortunately, for one reason or another, married men and married women go to the left, and if you are not careful, you can end up in a very bad situation. How do you know if your object of attraction is busy or not?

Steps

1. 1 Do not get carried away by women or men who are married. This should be noticeable, although there are many ways for married people to explain their situation. For example, a man may say that he is almost divorced from his wife, or a woman may claim that she is almost divorced. Almost doesn't count. By letting such people into your life, you are letting in a lot of disappointment and, you may even suffer physically.
2. 2 Trust your instincts. If you have a feeling that something is wrong, do not ignore it. There is no smoke without fire.
3. 3 Watch for obvious signs. Of course, a wedding ring should immediately remove all doubts.If we assume that the person is smart enough and, most likely, will take off the wedding ring, then there may be a tan mark on the ring finger. What about a photo of a woman in his wallet or a photo of a man on her desk? The evidence should generate healthy interest and you should ask about it, perhaps even investigate.
4. 4 Consider if your meetings are somehow strange. If a person does not want to give you his phone number, but insists only on calling himself, this is red. It's the same when the chosen one gives only a work phone number. If your meetings are always strictly organized and have strict timelines, this is another bad sign. Are your dates in a different area or in a different city altogether, or in a certain closed place? This should be alarming. Have you ever seen his or her house, or does a person always come to you? Do you even know where he or she lives? In a normal relationship, there should be no such restrictions, so if they are, something is wrong.
5. 5 Monitor your behavior during meetings. If, on a date at a restaurant, he or she retires urgently to talk on the phone, you may ask why. Don't screw yourself up. On the one hand, it might be an important work call, but on the other, it might be his or her spouse. The last option is likely if this happens all the time. It is very strange if a person meets with someone and at the same time avoids him.
6. 6 See how your partner reacts when talking about family or past relationships. As a rule, this is clarified in the course of the conversation, but if you are in doubt, you can tactfully ask directly. If the person is uncomfortable talking about such things, or body language shows that the person is cheating, your suspicions may be justified.
7. 7 Unwillingness to meet in certain places is a red light for you. Most likely, the person does not want acquaintances to see him with you.
8. 8 Take care to get to know the friends of your chosen one. At some point, often soon, you should get to know his or her friends. If you do not know your friends, then they may be hiding you from them. It's the same if you only know one or two friends and spend time with them all the time.
9. 9 Make sure you are satisfied with the answers to your questions. If you ask a person about something strange that is going on, make sure you believe what he or she is saying. If you have doubts, then you may need to end the relationship for a while or conduct an investigation. Lying is not difficult for someone who is cheating on their spouse, so be careful.
10. 10 Come to visit him or her unexpectedly. This assumes that you know where the person lives and also assumes that you have reason to be suspicious. Typically, a home visit will tell you quickly if the person is married.
11. 11 Play detective. A simple Internet search for a person's name can reveal some interesting information, such as a photo of him and his wife at a party. The car can also provide you with some hints. See if your man's car has some feminine things in it.
12. 12 Hire a professional. Relationships are built on trust and it is quite difficult to be credible when you hire a private investigator, but if you really want to know the truth, this may be one way.

Tips

• Don't jump to conclusions. Maybe he says he should go home early. Perhaps he is in a hurry to go home to his wife, but it is also possible that he will just get up early tomorrow. Maybe you will hear her say to the man on the phone: "I love you." It could be her husband, but it could also be her father. Don't be afraid to ask the person directly if you suspect something, but do it tactfully. If you still have doubts, figure it out, but if a person is dear to you, then do not wind yourself up.
• If you feel an imbalance in a relationship, the difference is between what you put into the relationship and what the other person does, it could be because the other person is married and is just having fun with you. There are, of course, many other reasons why you might feel more vulnerable than the person you are dating, but this is worth considering. Consider whether you want to have a relationship with this person at all, regardless of whether he is married or not.

Warnings

• Be very careful, as in this situation you will most likely get hurt.
• Meeting someone who is married is likely to lead to disappointment and heartbreak. If you find out that a person is married and says he is going to get a divorce, keep in mind that this usually never happens. Plus, if the spouse finds out, he or she will be very angry, and you can guess what the consequences will be.