Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Take Care of Yourself
• Method 2 of 3: Repair the relationship
• Method 3 of 3: Minimize Damage
• Tips
• Warnings

It’s unpleasant when people dislike you, but it’s a natural part of life that we need to learn to cope with. Learning how to protect yourself from people who cause harm, clear up misunderstandings, and keep things in check can give you a good edge in life. This experience shouldn't upset you too much if you know how to behave in such unpleasant situations.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Take Care of Yourself

1. 1 Decide whether to worry. You don't have to look for a friend in every person that comes your way. If a coworker or someone you are not particularly interested in dislikes you, it can certainly be frustrating, but it's up to you to decide whether or not to try to mend the relationship. Do not waste your time and effort if the person is unpleasant to you, and you do not lose anything by avoiding communication with him.
2. 2 Look at yourself. Have you made a mistake? Does the person have any valid reason for disliking? It might be worthwhile to apologize and try to explain your behavior if you think it might be the cause of your antipathy.
   • Admitting a mistake is different from self-flagellation. Everyone makes mistakes. You need to forgive yourself, even if the other person cannot do it.
3. 3 End the relationship. Don't be afraid to say goodbye to someone who is actively trying to offend you. In these situations, you need to prioritize yourself. Sometimes people collide for different reasons, and there is nothing you can do about it other than avoiding each other, especially if the situation is getting out of hand and you are suffering from it.
   • Sometimes you may want to stay and stand your ground, but it is better to avoid open confrontation - this is also a manifestation of strength. This way you stand up for yourself and tell the abuser that you will not allow yourself to be intimidated.
   • You can just avoid the person whenever possible, for example, if you are employees with him, but you do not have joint tasks. In addition, you can remove the person from friends or unsubscribe on social networks so that you are not tempted to engage in any interaction with him.
4. 4 Let go of your hunger for approval. How important is this person's sympathy to you? Are there other people who really love you? Friends and relatives? Save your nerves, perhaps the problem is in the person himself, not in you.
   • Some people will dislike you out of jealousy. Don't let them upset you with your success.
5. 5 Focus on the positive aspects. If you're upset because someone doesn't like you, do something that will make you feel better. If you love exercising, go to the gym to take a break from negative feelings. If you have friends who truly value you, spend time with them to remind yourself of your worth. No situation can upset you if you do not allow it yourself.
   • If you know the reason for the dislike, ask yourself if this person's sympathy is really important to you. Are you worried about his opinion? He may not like a lot of people, in which case you are not as "special" as you thought.
   • You can also try to reformulate the criticism to make it positive. If someone says that you are always late or constantly ask people for services, think about what you could change in this regard. Also, if you think the person is wrong, remember when you were on time and provided services to others yourself.

Method 2 of 3: Repair the relationship

1. 1 Ask questions. If you need this relationship or want to improve it, then it is worth asking the person why he dislikes you. Perhaps the reason for this is a huge misunderstanding, and you could get valuable information about how the person perceives you (but this does not necessarily mean that this is your true essence).
   • Try to avoid confrontation. Instead of saying, "What's your problem?" Ask, "Did I insult you in some way to deserve such dislike from you?"
2. 2 Don't get defensive. It is easiest to accept the "wedge-by-wedge" tactic, but if someone is dissatisfied with your actions, try to sort out the situation calmly, and not enter into open conflict, so as not to aggravate the situation even more.
   • Don't shout or criticize. It is likely that you will also want to condemn the person who hurt you in response, but being rude will not help resolve the situation. By criticizing this person, you will only intensify the conflict.
   • Take a couple of deep breaths in and out to calm yourself down a bit and not blurt out negative comments in response.
   • It's okay to take a little time out to cool down and then get back to the conversation.
3. 3 Listen to the person. Let the person speak without interrupting. You may not like the thoughts he has presented. But if you want to rebuild a relationship, you need to know what you are dealing with. If you let the person speak, it will be perceived as a sign of respect on your part, and you will be answered in kind. You may receive valuable constructive criticism along the way.
   • You can say: "I understand that there is something in me that you do not like. I am sincerely interested to know the reason for your displeasure and see if we can solve this problem together."
4. 4 Take a break. Sometimes people get on each other's nerves because they spend a lot of time with each other, for example, colleagues or friends of friends. If you are working with this person, do your best to limit contact for a while. If you spend a lot of time with the same people, try meeting other mates. Spending time apart can help people clear their minds, and they may like you more after the break.
5. 5 Let me know how you feel. A great way to correct a misunderstanding is to tell the person about your feelings. Try to do this in a respectful, neutral manner. Perhaps clarifying the situation is all it takes for the person to be on your side rather than harboring dislike for you.
   • Use statements with "I" - this is a good way of expression that does not make the person feel that they are being attacked. You might say, "It hurts me to realize that you dislike me, and I would like to know what I can do to improve the relationship between us."

Method 3 of 3: Minimize Damage

1. 1 Explain to those who are important to you. If someone doesn't like you, they may spread false rumors about you or try to harm you in some other way. If this is an employee, talk to your manager about the disagreement with that person so that he or she is alert to attempts by that employee to sabotage your position at work. If this is a mutual friend, explain your position so that he understands your view of things. Avoid insults towards this person!
2. 2 Don't supply the person with a weapon against you. If someone doesn't like you, they may try to find out your secrets in order to hurt you. Be careful what information you give to your detractors. Do not discuss other people in front of them, because it can be used against you. You will protect yourself if you do not share all your secrets and do not allow the person to use your own words to harm you.If this is a colleague, try not to make mistakes in working with him, as this can turn against you.
   • If this is a former friend, he probably knows a lot that can harm you. If you think he is going to share something that will make you look bad, you can always be the first to talk about the state of affairs to control the presentation of the situation.
3. 3 Don't let the situation get out of hand. Sometimes it's worth apologizing if your actions hurt someone. Even if you think you haven't done anything wrong, it can be helpful to apologize to keep things from getting worse. You can do this for yourself and not for the other person, although it can change the opinion of you to a positive one.
4. 4 Check with your friends. If a person makes you doubt yourself, ask your friends what they think of the situation if they know the person. Opinion from the outside, especially from people you trust, will help you not to adopt someone else's perception and not blame yourself for anything. The dislike of others can create self-doubt in you, so it's important to know how this affects you. Don't let your mental health get hurt by it.
5. 5 Try to win the person's sympathy. Sometimes all it takes to restore a friendship or a working relationship is to show the person your good intentions. This will provide you with many benefits. Kindness reduces stress levels and promotes longer, healthier lives. In addition, being kind to the person despite their dislike for you can inspire them to change their minds about you.
   • But be attentive to people who want to manipulate your kindness. Some people take advantage of those who do not defend themselves against aggressive and manipulative behavior. If they accept your kindness, but in return you get only rudeness, it is better to avoid such people, rather than try to please them.

Tips

• If you are in physical danger, try to get away from the person and call the police.
• Be taller: Stay away from people who don't like you, or try to build relationships.
• Remember, some people may feel disliked by a mistake you made, so talk to them about the problem and don't insult them behind your back.
• If you are treated badly, this does not mean that you should pay back in kind. Be honest and don't forget your manners.

Warnings

• Avoid violent, protracted emotional conflict with the person.
• Don't provoke physical conflict.