Author:
Florence Bailey
Date Of Creation:
24 March 2021
Update Date:
1 July 2024
Content
A guide on how to find out about the human psyche and learn to be tolerant with them and get along with you. How to get along with an unpleasant coworker and make friends.
Steps
1 Avoid talking to this person for a while. See how they communicate with others. Note to yourself. 
2 Chat with others, no gossip, to see how they feel about the person. You can also just observe how everyone treats this person. 
3 Say hello to the person. You may have heard a conversation on a certain topic. You can just ask a small question (if so, say at work) and see the reaction. As a last resort, just introduce yourself. "Oh, hi, we haven't met yet, I'm Denny" and see what happens next. 
4 If this person is rude and unfriendly, you can smile at them when they try to joke, if no one sees. No matter how unpleasant you think they are, smiling can mean different things. If they are friendly, do the same. Everyone likes to think that others are like them. 
5 Let the person watch you. When they are around, be friendly and show them what "you" really is, what "you" like, but in a way that doesn’t know it’s ostentatious. The same thing that you did before, just the opposite. 
6 Expect. Repeat all steps (especially observation and study) until that person contacts you. He will definitely do it. Then start a conversation about what, based on your observations, will be of interest to both. 
7 If you don't like this person, say as little as possible when they reach out to you. This will help avoid conflict. 
8 If you like the person and want a normal relationship, talk to them as soon as they fit. This usually happens on its own, naturally, and after some time. 
9 Over time, you will become comfortable with this person or learn to avoid them based on your needs. The conversation will become more and more casual each time. Your instincts will tell you which direction to go. 
10 If you've been told a secret, keep it. Nobody likes those who spread gossip and secrets.
Tips
- Perhaps you tend to misunderstand people, keep this in mind. Maybe they're just having a bad day. Let it sit in your head.
- Always smile and be polite. Just because the person you're trying to talk to is rude doesn't mean that you should too.
- Most people are, in principle, pleasant to talk to. They can be rude for personal reasons. Observing them can help you understand why they are behaving this way.
- If you crave to be friends, if you have a good start, you can ask them to do something “friendly” together, starting small. For example, going for a walk with friends or doing a task together at work. Working together creates a good foundation between people.
- This can sometimes be a slow process. If you have a good sense of human nature, the process will go much faster.
Warnings
- If you are having trouble making contact with the person, leave it alone. Sometimes people just don't know how to find a common language.
- If someone insults you or makes fun of you, it’s best not to touch them or talk to someone who can influence their behavior without causing problems between the two of you.
