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• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings

It seems like your marriage is falling apart and your spouse said he wants to file for divorce? Perhaps he / she even moved to another location? Perhaps he / she is having an affair with another person? How can you avoid an argument? How do you convince him / her to change his mind and stay? Read our article and find out.

Steps

1. 1 Be confident. Has your spouse fallen in love with a happy and harmonious person who illuminates his / her life every time they meet? Naturally, you do not like that he / she is moving away from you.The more you cling to him / her, need him / her, desperately trying to hold on to the relationship, the more you exhaust yourself, becoming unhappy (since it is obvious that he / she leaves you), thereby pushing him / her away because you are not the person he / she once fell in love with. Be honest with yourself. Would you like to spend the rest of your life with someone who is acting the way you are now? If you are friendly, considerate, and fun to be with, he / she will want to stay with you. He / she will start to feel attracted to you again (slowly but surely). Try to be confident, but don't see yourself arrogant, even if it's not easy for you.
2. 2 Feel your partner's feelings. Try to adjust first to his / her emotional needs and then to material ones. Does your partner want to withdraw all the money from the bank account and buy a sports car? Say “Yes, a luxury car is great. Let's go to the car dealership this weekend, pretend we're rich as hell and take a test drive! " Notice how cleverly you got around the cash withdrawal situation (for now) and focused your attention on his / her feelings. It will bring you closer. Does your partner say you don't pay enough attention to household chores? Say “Yes, I agree, I don’t do as much work as you do. I understand that sometimes you get upset about it. " Notice how you got around the problem of household chores and focused on his / her feelings.
3. 3 Talk about physical and material needs and desires after you hit it off. If you went to a car dealership and had a good time together, talk about how your partner wants to spend money that will be useful to you. If you start to argue and your partner says “You never cared about my needs!”, Walk away from this conversation and tell him / her that more than anything in the world you wish him / her happiness and therefore you married her. Ultimately, neither of you wants to be in debt. Find the right words and tell him / her that you love and appreciate him / her.
4. 4 Talk to your partner about the future. You will not be able to hide the elephant in the room. The problem will not go away on its own. Take time and talk to your partner openly. Prepare for the fact that you may be in pain and give free rein to your feelings. Share your feelings and willingness to accept their feelings. If you love him / her and want by all means to take another chance and stay together, say so, do not be silent. Offer the help of a psychologist or any other help that will make you feel better.
5. 5 Be honest and ask for honesty in return. Tell your partner that even if he / she has no feelings for you, you should at least respect each other. Respect means being honest with each other. If you want to know and think you can handle it emotionally, ask if he / she has an affair with another person. Before asking, think about how you will feel about any of the answers. If your spouse is having an affair, tell me how much it hurts you, even if it goes against common sense. Say that you care about loyalty and that you once vowed to be loyal to one another. Ask him / her to end the romance if you want to rekindle a strong bond with each other.
6. 6 Be open to change. Agree to change your behavior and redefine your communication skills if you think this will help. Make it clear that you will do whatever is up to you, but that you need time to change. Do your best and be sincere. Ask for the same in return.
7. 7 Decide to let your spouse go if all else fails. If your spouse is having an affair and he / she doesn't want to give it up, don't hold on to the past. Try to save your marriage.If your partner doesn't want it, you can't do better. But before you give up, try to keep the relationship, whatever the cost.

Tips

• Listen to your partner. Let him / her express his / her point of view from his / her side. This way, you will understand what the cause of his / her misfortune is and can take action.
• Do not despair. This is a very scary time, but all you can do is try. If, ultimately, nothing comes of it, you shouldn't hate yourself for it. You have done everything that depended on you.

Warnings

• Do not try to mend a relationship if your spouse has physically hurt you, your children, relatives, or showed other signs of physical aggression. Instead, you should seek help. Contact the police, relatives, friends or contact the protection service and tell them about your problem.