Content

• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings
• What do you need

Praising someone can be very difficult. You want to speak out lovingly about the one you've lost, but you don't want to be upset. Of course, you can burst into tears, but you will understand that it is normal that the others present know how much this person meant to you.

Steps

1. 1 Show presence. You don't have to talk at all; just come and give support and that will be enough. You can express compassion without words. Talking is very difficult, especially if you were very close to the deceased.
2. 2 Don't be afraid to cry. The loss of a loved one is always a difficult experience. Crying during your performance will only let you know how great this loss is for you. However, keep in mind that family and other friends are already struggling with their own grief. A few tears and honest emotions are wonderful. But if you can't control them, and you feel about the beginning of a tantrum, apologize and do not complicate the situation with your condition.
3. 3 Introduce youreself. Start with your name and let viewers know how you and the deceased knew each other and what your relationship was.
4. 4 Remember where you are. This is a funeral. They are intended to comfort family and friends and to remember the deceased. You are not the main person here. If you tend to start (or continue) a discussion, feel disrespectful, interrupted, or anything else, just go home. Don't use the funeral to draw public attention to yourself.
5. 5 Share your memories of the life of the deceased. A funeral is very sad, but not bad in a way, because you can be with those who also loved the person and you can share your stories about him or her.
6. 6 Say your last goodbye. It often helps to look at the body, coffin, or into the grave directly, saying a personal goodbye to a loved one who has left. Do not hurry. Some people place flowers on a coffin or grave.
7. 7 Remember the one who left and do something for him. When someone leaves, the best we can do is step into their place. When you do what your loved one would love, remember and rejoice that you can do what he / she would have done if he / she was still here. You can even do it in memory of him / her and it is a beautiful tribute to the person who left and the love you shared with him / her.

Tips

• Keep an eye on the audience (ie, if they are restless, chances are you are speaking too long.) Keep your speech short but sweet. You don't need an hour, especially if there are several people speaking. Speak for up to 10 minutes, maximum, if you are not a family member.
• Refrain from jokes, although you can tell a couple of anecdotes.
• Dress appropriately and remain silent if you are not speaking. Black is the best color for this kind of event.
• Don't ask questions or answer. This is a funeral, not a meeting with celebrities.

Warnings

• Avoid chewing gum at funerals, sighing loudly, drumming with your toes, banging your feet, humming, or singing (if you're nervous). This is annoying and very disrespectful.

What do you need

• Cloth or shawls