Content

• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings

"Life is a banquet, and most poor suckers are starving to death!" - Auntie Mame

Finding your own happiness starts and ends with you. Read on to find out how to have more joy in life.

Steps

1. 1 Listen to derogatory phrases. Is it something insignificant like "I hate this color that is on you", or a rude comment like, "You're lazy!"? Small unfounded comments, like a fly stinging a horse; they should be brushed aside, but rude comments need more attention.
2. 2 Ask yourself if these rude comments are correct. "Am I lazy?" If you find out that the answer is no, put that comment out of your head (until it becomes a habit, then you can avoid this person, talk to him about it or, if necessary, tell your boss / teacher).
3. 3 Ask your trusted friend if he thinks the comment is true, or you can ask people why they made that comment and ask them for examples. Good friends will be constructive and will help you in whatever way they can.
4. 4 Work on this if you think the person has insulted you on business. Nobody is perfect, but by being active you will improve this particular aspect of yourself. Too meek? Work on it! Become more confident or take a public speaking course. Are you out of shape? Grab your suit and go to the gym. You don't have to do this for every little thing, but working on the big things that get in your way will help you improve yourself and improve your worldview.
5. 5 Learn to ignore useless comments. These may just be completely untrue opinions that are only meant to offend you. Try to remember that people often insult others out of anger or jealousy. Some people enjoy harming others, and whatever they say should be sidelined for you.
6. 6 Laugh at yourself. If it doesn't really matter to you, it shouldn't be a problem for others. But remember, don't laugh at what really hurts your self-worth. It just makes other people feel like they can laugh at you too.

Tips

• Find out who you are and what you want. When you are comfortable in your own body, self-love comes naturally.
• Remember, it all starts with knowing and loving yourself. Until you do this, don't be surprised if only a few people like you.
• When you know who you are and what you like, you will begin to attract like-minded people. "The fisherman sees the fisherman from afar" is NOT just a proverb.
• Having like-minded people and friends who will support you will help you ignore nonsense.
• Make a list of the things that you are good at or that you like about yourself. For example, "I have a nice smile" or "I'm a good runner." Having a list of all your good qualities will make you feel worthy.
• You may need to spend more time alone to get to know yourself. Ask yourself: “What do you want?”, “What makes you happy?”, “What do you dislike?”, “What are you willing to do to please yourself?”. Journaling is highly recommended.
• Good luck on your journey to joy!

Warnings

• There are people who simply get excited about their mediocrity and tend to be jealous of kind-hearted, friendly, and / or happy people. Stay as far away from them as possible.
• There are people who take pleasure in hurting other people's feelings, even only through comments like "You look terrible today." Just because you are kind and loving does not necessarily mean that everyone around you is the same. Learn to distinguish between these two types of people and don't treat everyone like your friends. When they finally hurt you, you will be disappointed because you did not expect this from them, and this can affect your emotional state. Stay away from such people, and NEVER be insolent to them in response to such comments. You could stop arguing with them, or even break off years of friendship with them.