Author:
Monica Porter
Date Of Creation:
20 March 2021
Update Date:
1 July 2024
Content
Weight gain is a normal human process. In fact, science has shown that most people's weight will automatically decrease on weekdays and increase on weekends. Sometimes, however, weight gain is not just a small fluctuation, and it makes a significant difference in how you look and feel. You may feel anxious about your partner's thoughts about gaining weight, or worry that you won't look attractive to someone who might date you. If your recent weight gain is making you feel insecure, you need to learn how to stop talking negatively to yourself, and build a healthier body image so you can feel comfortable. roof with yourself.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Eliminate negative voices
Recognize the negative effects of self-talk on you. The thoughts that you constantly repeat to yourself throughout the day can have a huge impact on your mood. Unpleasant feelings about weight gain may not be caused by someone else saying something to you, but by telling yourself about your weight.- A practical self-talk would be "I need to finish my homework soon", while a statement that might be meant to be embarrassing or downright self-deprecating would be, "I'm too fat. I need to spend all day at Gym ".
Listen to your self-talk. Once you realize that certain aspects of your inner voice can contribute to body discomfort, it's time to pay more attention. Negative self-talk reinforces this process and makes it happen. The only way to stop it is to become more conscious of it.- Take a few minutes each day to pay attention to your own thoughts, especially your thoughts about your body. Maybe you should pay attention to them when you are changing clothes in front of the mirror or while you are preparing a meal.
- What kind of thoughts about yourself are in your head. Are they making you stronger and feeling more positive, or are they just making you feel worse about yourself?
Challenge these messages. In order to improve your ability to talk to yourself, you need to fight against statements that are not helpful or realistic. Using the saying "I should spend all day at the gym" challenge it by:- Check out the facts: What evidence protects or opposes it?. Since this quote is so extreme, it will be hard to find evidence to support the idea that you should spend all day in the gym. However, you can find evidence that exercising too much can cause injury or exhaustion and make it more difficult to lose weight. Overusing it will not help you lose weight.
- Thinking towards the goal: Does thinking this way help solve the problem?. No, telling yourself what you need to do is a punishment, not a solution. A better way to help yourself solve a problem is to say something like, "Today, I want to try to go to the gym."
Develop a healthier self-affirmation. Instead of constantly criticizing yourself, try to form a more positive, vibrant mindset.
- For example, instead of saying, "I'm too fat. I have to spend all day at the gym" just write down a few words that encourage you to feel more confident about yourself and attach it. on the mirror (in a bag, or in a car). They can be "Strong. Beautiful. Thoughtful". Seeing them while you do other activities during the day will help you develop these qualities instead of restlessness.
Method 2 of 3: Become more active toward your body
Write a list of your self-esteem. You should see it as a collection of personal traits that help bring you warmth and magic. Actively fight insecurity by writing about them and reviewing all the amazing things you and the people around you have said about you.
- They can be your physical trait - "You have very good eyes", or "You always know how to choose your clothes carefully" - or other personal characteristics like a good listener or always. Join helping others when they need it.
- Add a few more suggestions from friends to your own ideas. What some positive traits do they admire about you?
- Read regularly on the list to combat insecurity.
Surround yourself with people who support you. Making an effort to spend time and energy in a relationship has a positive effect on you. Whether they are one or two close friends or a group of supporters, make sure you meet regularly or chat on the phone with someone who makes you feel better about yourself.
Do not trust the mass media. Society's views on what is believed to be the most attractive body shape and size will vary from generation to generation. Decades ago, TV and movies adored the average figure, possessing the same attractive "curves" as Marilyn Monroe. Today, many actresses and models are very tall and thin. You cannot change your body shape, but you can choose not to let the media control your thoughts about beauty.
- Avoid comparing yourself to actresses or models in magazines or on TV. Don't think that you need to live up to these unrealistic, often edited images. Instead, look for someone who has confidence in yourself in your life, no matter what size and body size they might have. See them as your role models.
Become a good friend of your body. Your body is not an enemy. It takes you to school or work. It allows you to hug your mother or run and have fun with your dog. You should be committed to treating it in a better way.
- Treating your body better can begin by letting go of negative thoughts about it. Other ways to be friends of your body include eating a balanced diet, getting active, and participating in activities that allow you to indulge your body, such as a massage or enjoy a good nap. help rejuvenate.
Fight off a drop in sexual confidence. Many factors can affect your libido, but feeling bad about yourself because weight gain will keep you from having sex. Research has even shown that gaining or losing weight can cause hormonal imbalances and damage your libido.
- You can overcome the decrease in desire by feeling more comfortable with yourself naked. Before or after taking a shower, take a moment to walk around the house naked. Intentionally look at yourself in the mirror, paying attention to your entire body instead of your thighs or stomach. Doing this on a regular basis will help eliminate negative self-talk when you're not dressed.
- Another way to feel more confident in sex after gaining weight is to satisfy yourself. Cuddle your whole body with respect that is similar to what your loved one will do. This self-satisfaction exercise will help set your mood and improve your confidence.
Method 3 of 3: Addressing weight gain
Think about the causes of weight gain. How you deal with weight gain depends on what triggers weight gain. You need to think carefully about the reason before you can decide how to act.
- If weight gain is caused by a medical problem, consider seeing your doctor to check or change your medication.
- If you gained weight after recovering from an eating disorder, congratulations.It takes courage to gain weight, while every other part of your body wants to control it. Remember, returning to a healthy weight is an important step in the recovery process - keep going.
- If you gain weight after losing a lot of weight, you should know that dieting will often increase your risk of returning you to your old weight when you return to your regular eating habits. You should develop a long-term, unrestricted plan that coordinates your nutritional needs and physical activity for best results.
Decide if you want to lose weight. Depending on your situation, you may want to lose weight after gaining weight. If you do choose to do this, know that healthy weight loss will take time. Losing weight without gaining it again means you have to build a healthier lifestyle; This is not a short term solution.
- Talk with your doctor or a registered dietitian about creating a weight loss plan that is tailored to your medical history, lifestyle, and goals.
Consider genetic factors. About 25% to 70% of our bodies are predetermined by genes. If you have been a skinny person for a long time and have just gained weight recently, maybe this is also the framework that your parents or grandparents have experienced. Understand that not every body or structure is thin. Focus on health rather than size, and you will find that you feel less insecure about your body.
Find to buy stylish clothes. When gaining weight, people will choose loose clothing to hide their size. This will only make you feel more insecure. Instead, look for clothes that fit your body size and size. Also, consider clothes that emphasize your best features. advertisement
Warning
- This advice is for people who are eager to improve or change themselves. However, if you are suffering from depression, loss of appetite, or other incurable mental illness, it can be difficult to try to improve on your own. You need to talk to your doctor first.
