Author:
Peter Berry
Date Of Creation:
13 February 2021
Update Date:
1 July 2024
Content
It can be difficult to counteract the intense feelings you have for someone - unattainable, inappropriate, or at the wrong time. If you are trying to suppress your feelings for someone, find a sense of satisfaction independent of your life and distance yourself from the person you have feelings for. Once you've found the right person and you're ready, accept and cherish that love.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Feel your satisfaction independently
Focus on personal goals. Put the energy you want to use to build relationships into making yourself better. Make a list of ways in which you can improve yourself, and choose to pursue one that makes you feel happy and proud of yourself. Develop a schedule and / or plan that will help you achieve this goal and keep working.
- Set a goal to advance in your career or improve your academic performance at school.
- Set a goal to exercise your body. For example, stick to going to the gym 4 days a week.
Spend time with family and friends. Everyone needs to be shared and supported by those around them, whether they are single or in a relationship. Do some fun activities with relatives and friends that you enjoy being around to feel connected with others without having to be in a relationship.- Whether you go for a walk with your mom or go bowling with 15 of your classmates, both of these activities work. However, it is better to avoid being with couples and become a “nosedive”, as it makes you feel lonely and / or left out.
Spend time in harmony with nature. You will feel at peace as you breathe in the fresh air and feel the beauty of the surrounding nature such as trees, flowers, mountains and the sea. At least once a week, you should walk alone in the woods or read books on the beach to fill your heart and soul and bring yourself to peace in the present.
Show creativity. You will feel more powerful when you are unleashed with your ideas and knowledge. Creativity in any area of passion will allow you to express yourself, making you feel happier. Sign up for an acting class where you procrastinate or write a few short stories in your spare time if you enjoy writing.
Find a favorite activity that involves safe, healthy physical contact. Body contact produces oxytocin and serotonin, which help you feel love and happiness. Physical contact is common in relationships, but not when you are single. Try activities that involve physical contact, such as massaging, dancing, or spending time with a pet, and doing anything that makes you feel love and joy.
- However, don't seek out your feelings of love and happiness through having sex before you're psychologically ready. Also, don't get others to do this together if they're not ready or agreeing.
Method 2 of 3: Avoid "heatstroke" on someone
Limit your contact with the person you have a crush on. If you keep thinking about a person, the best way to avoid "heatstroke" is to keep distance from them. If you hang out regularly and / or communicate by phone and text message, your emotions will grow and you will think about them more. Stop and do other things and / or don't use the phone for a while.
- If you are a straightforward, open-minded person, or say your thoughts, it's best to make your decisions clear to that person. If that is the case, say "I'm sorry, but I can't go far with this relationship."
Don't use social media. Try not to see the person's Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter. Continuing to watch will keep you thinking about the person and possibly liking them more. If you can't stop yourself, stop using social media entirely so you can focus on other things.
- To not see that person's posts on Facebook, go to their profile page and select "Unfollow". That way, the two of you will still be friends, but that person's posts won't appear on your message board.
- Try turning off Instagram notifications by going to “Settings” on your device, clicking “Notifications”, selecting “Instagram” and turning off “Allow notifications” ).
Reflect on bad past relationships. When your emotions are intense, it is easy to become confused and not see the problem clearly or practically. To avoid "heatstroke", think about past relationships and bad things when things went wrong and did not go as you expected. Don't chew on your past experience, but use it to help you balance.
- Reflecting on my fight with my ex and message myself, “It was a difficult and painful thing, I don't want to face it again. Right now I'm fine and everything is fine.
Get busy. When you have time to sit still, it can be very difficult to stop yourself from thinking about the person. You can only easily avoid "heatstroke" by busy focusing on other things every day. Try helping your parents clean the house or find a new hobby. The less free time you have, the less you will think about your ex. advertisement
Method 3 of 3: Embrace love when you're ready
Let go of past pain and resentment. Even when the right person shows up, it will be difficult to fall in love again because of your past experiences. Love does great things, but it can sometimes be painful, making you feel afraid of a new relationship. Let go of past pain and resentment by forgiving your ex and / or trying to think about the positive consequences of the relationship.
- For example, you might have dated someone who liked to play soccer so you practiced to play with them and now football is your favorite sport, you are also good at and enjoy playing it.
- Try journaling to keep track of your thoughts about this and try to form positive thoughts.
Try to open up more. Opening up can seem intimidating, especially if you've been hurt before. When the time is right, let yourself feel happy and excited to talk and spend time with someone special in your life. First, try telling this person something secret about yourself each week to build strong bonding. Over time, you may gradually move to feeling loved and completely open and honest with the person.
Ignore self-criticism. For some reason, many people often choose to avoid love. If you genuinely care about someone in your life but cannot express your feelings, your thoughts will gradually turn to blame.
- Every time a certain thought comes to mind, like: “Don't believe them; I can't trust anyone ”, or“ They don't love me; They will hurt me again ”, distract the thought by telling yourself“ Those are just words of fear ”, or“ This time it's not like the previous relationship ”.
