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Going to a party you don't know anyone else will be a challenge. Start by examining the nature of the party. Initiate conversations one by one, whether with one person or with a group of people. Remember that paying attention to others is an important factor for success in society.

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Method 1 of 3: Party Evaluation

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   Soothe your worries before going to the party. If you're worried about being at a party and you don't know anyone, it's best to calm down before trying to meet other people. Take a deep breath, inhale the air into your abdomen, and exhale slowly through your nose. Repeat this slow, deep breathing for a few times. Make sure you are standing firmly on the floor to feel more secure.
   • Practice positive visualization. For example, picture yourself looking sexy and sophisticated on the dance floor, or someone laughing at your sense of humor.
   • Know that people aren't paying attention to you, so don't be shy. In the end, probably most of the people who attended the party were also worried.
   • Repeat this process any time you feel anxious during a party.

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   Smile at others to appear more confident. You may be panicking, but if you smile, you will look more confident. Even if you don't know anyone, you can increase your social capacity through smiles. Also, if you're nervous, smiling can help improve your mood and reduce stress.
   • People often respond to the person smiling at them with a smile, and this will make you even feel better.
   • Even a gentle smile is enough to relax your facial muscles, and you will look less intimidating to the other guests at the party.
   • When you show confidence, you will begin to feel more confident.

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   Think about the purpose of the party. What kind of party is this? Social interaction will be different depending on why people meet. If you attend a student council party, you will need different social skills from the Christmas party hosted by your mother's church choir.
   • Remember that everyone at the party may not get to know each other.
   • Consider the nature of the party, trying to judge if the other person is likely to introduce themselves first.

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   Learn about the party. Considering the layout of the party will make you feel better if you are not used to it. Determine the location of the bathroom, where food and drinks are displayed, as a way to feel more comfortable.
   • This measure will also help you gauge the number of attendees, and the type of party.
   • There are probably many different types of activities going on in some areas of the party space. In this case, you should start with the area in which you are most comfortable.

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   Observe other guests. Do they sit at the dining table in small groups? Or are there more people walking around? You can imitate what others are doing.
   • For example, if people are dancing, pay attention to whether they are dancing alone or with a partner.
   • Try to stand or sit in the area that makes you feel most comfortable in the room.

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   Think about similarities. If you focus on what is similar to you, you will feel more confident. One of the reasons strangers talk about the weather so often is that it is a common topic among all of us. This is not a bad starting point, however, you should think about other options. For example, you might notice that someone is wearing a T-shirt of your favorite band, which is a good topic to talk about.
   • If you feel awkward, finding similarities with others can help you calm down.
   • Even in a big city or in a country where you don't speak the language well, you will be able to find similarities if you focus your search.

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   Offer to help the host. This is a good way to adjust to the party, especially if you have a social relationship with the person. Asking what you can do with food and drinks will often be appreciated, and provide you with a great way to blend into the party.
   • Even if the host doesn't need help, they may recognize your speechless shyness and offer you something to do, or introduce you to someone else.
   • If you bring food or a bottle of wine to the party, they will immediately form the task for you as soon as you show up.When entering the party, you might ask where you should store them, or where the host wants you to put them.

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   Find the buffet table (buffet). Food becomes a great conversation topic for people who don't know each other. Look for a friendly person at the buffet table, and make a cheerful comment about the food. For example, you could say that you really like one of the dishes or that you are glad the owner has added a vegetarian food option.
   • Asking questions about food is another great chat. You could say, “Everything looks good. What do you think you would choose? ”.
   • You have the ability to continue the story by introducing yourself or making a few follow-up comments. If the person doesn't respond, it will be easier for you to move forward.
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Method 2 of 3: Start a conversation

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   Introduce yourself to other people. Introduce the name, and if your name sounds strange, spell it or spell it in a way that the other person can use to remember your name.
   • If that's the case, add a few more details about why you went to the party. For example, "You are Miss Phuong's daughter", if the person is a friend of your mother, or "I study anthropology", if this is a party of faculties in the university.
   • You can continue by asking for the person's name, but usually people will automatically introduce you without you having to ask.

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   Praise for the beginning of the story. People love to hear the good things that other people say about them. To have a great conversation with someone you just met, say something kind about the jewelry that person is wearing. At almost every party, people take care of their appearance and appreciate being noticed.
   • You can also use a compliment to initiate a conversation by associating it with a question. For example, “That scarf is so beautiful. Where did you buy it? ”.
   • Avoid complimenting your partner on how they look, as this may make them uncomfortable.

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   Allow yourself to be soft. If you don't get to know the people at the party, you can present this. You should talk about it when introducing yourself. For example, “Hello, my name is Minh. Excuse me because I don't know anyone here and everyone looks really nice. ”
   • If the person is an extrovert, they will enjoy chatting with you and introducing you to others in the group.
   • Maybe many people are facing the same situation as you. If you are both new to the group, you can laugh and talk about how difficult it was to be in the situation.

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   Stay away from what is ruining the conversation. Some specific topics will make people awkwardly silent. For example, if you do not know your opponent's political direction well, you should not discuss the political topic or you will accidentally offend them.
   • Don't talk about personal information, whether it's money, sex, illness, or privacy. You should keep them for someone you know well.
   • Making a critical comment would also not be appreciated. For example, saying “She should have known better than anyone else that the color doesn't match her complexion” would not be considered.
   • Never be asked if a woman is pregnant. If it was just because she gained weight, she would feel embarrassed.

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   Remember to use friendly body language. Make eye contact with the opponent quickly. A smile will let others know that you want to talk.
   • When other people talk to you, keep an eye on them for at least 70% of the time.
   • Facing the speaker face to face will help them know that you are listening.
   • Don't look too long into the other person's eyes, as this will indicate aggression or excessive flirting. Instead, make eye contact for only 4-5 seconds, before looking away, and then looking back into their eyes.

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   Tell a joke to make the other person feel better. If you don't know everyone at the party, no one has had the opportunity to hear about your favorite funny story. You should share a few happy things that happened to you. This method will make you seem more understanding and friendly.
   • You should avoid telling stories that could offend others. Sometimes, different groups of people see humor differently.
   • If you have a pretty good story, it will help you fill in the gaps when the conversation is quiet. Or you can connect your story to someone else's words, for example: “It reminds me of what happened to me before…”.

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   Be prepared to have a chat. Chatting is sharing common information with others as a way to find out what the two have similarities with. For example, asking questions about your favorite movie is often a good way to find common interests. This simple question about the recent blockbuster will lead you to many other conversations as well.
   • Chatting may or may not help form a deeper conversation, or may not. Gossip is often more focused on the good feelings this process does than on sharing information.
   • You should stick to a non-private, non-controversial topic to keep the story light.

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   Talk about the party or the surroundings. One of the similarities you will have with the other person at the party is that both are present. Perhaps both of you have to fight the traffic to get to the party. You should see this as a means of getting to know others, whether through asking questions, making comments, or making observations.
   • Always remember to give praise often. This is not the right time to complain about not drinking a lot of your favorite drinks, or about your discomfort with the evening meeting.
   • Ask the person how the person knows the host, or if this is their first time meeting this group of people.

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   Become an active listener. When you are worried about not getting to know anyone at the party, it can be difficult to focus on the story ahead. Focus on repeating what the other person has said to make sure you hear them clearly. Use nonverbal cues, like nodding, making eye contact, and directing people toward the other person, to let them know that you are actively listening to what they have to say.
   • Try to avoid interrupting the other person while they are speaking, even if the person is talking about a topic that interests you.
   • Ask open-ended questions about the subject's topic to keep the conversation going.
   • Pay attention to how the conversation feels about the person. In general, party stories tend to be fun and light. If you find that the conversation is getting tense or emotional, you can take a step back.

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    End the story gracefully. Party chats usually start and end quickly, and if you're talking to someone you just met, it's best not to drag the process off.
    • Have a reason to withdraw. This is the moment when you can tell the truth.
    • You can always say, "Tomorrow, I have to get up early", or even "Please forgive me." But I need to come talk to a few ladies. ”
    • You could say something like "Nice to meet you", or "Nice to meet you!". A lot of people like to shake hands, but at some parties it can seem too fussy.
    • If you like, you can add an excuse for interrupting the conversation. For example, you should say, "I don't want to take up all of your nights," or "Maybe I should let you talk to someone else."
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Method 3 of 3: Dealing with the big party

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   Realize that you have to become more assertive. You should speak aloud if you want others to listen. You need to let the other person know you want to talk by moving closer to the person than you'd normally do at a quieter party.
   • Big parties are often more chaotic, and many people are constantly interrupting others, or talk too quickly to be sure they can convey their views.
   • One way to effectively engage in group conversation is to repeat the last phrase the other person said, and add your own thoughts. For example, if someone else shared a story when they arrived in Paris in April, you could repeat something like “Yes, Paris in April is beautiful, and to celebrate graduation, I went to Rome, Great difference place ”.
   • The topics in group chats often change quickly, so you don't have to worry too much about focusing on exactly one topic. Being friendly is a key factor to consider.

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   Immerse yourself in the mood of the party. If you are the type of person who likes to stay at home reading, you will have difficulty adjusting to joining a large group of people. Everyone has their own way to energize themselves at the party. You can listen to music, and try to tune in to the melody. Or, you can think about the scene of some of your favorite movies, and picture yourself as the hero.
   • Even if you're not completely comfortable at the party, trying to act as though you were comfortable will help speed the process up. (This is sometimes called “Pretend until you do it!”).
   • If you find yourself exhausted, ask permission to leave for a short period of time. Resting is a great way for an introvert to recharge and return to the party feeling more alert.

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   Accept that it will be difficult for you to have a quiet conversation. If you really appreciate the focused conversation going on between two people who know each other well, you will have to adjust to the fact that this is not going to happen at a big party. Instead of becoming scowled, it's best to change your expectations.
   • Group chats are usually very broad, with a lot of variation in topic. Its goal is less often than not about exchanging information and ideas, but about sharing great feelings together.
   • Good options for group chats include: short jokes anecdotes, jokes, puns.
   • Topics to avoid include: analyzing a topic in detail, anything that might inadvertently offend another, including political discussions, or discussion of religious beliefs and practices. spear.

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   Start story on the side. In a large group of people, sometimes, you will find that the story happens more easily if you talk about one particular person, than about the whole group. Some side stories will disrupt a large group conversation, which may or may not be completely relevant to the topic the group is discussing.
   • You can talk while others are speaking while joining a large group of people; talking on the sidelines is not rude.
   • Sometimes, the conversation ends abruptly if the group switches to a more interesting topic. You can switch back and forth between the side story and the bigger group conversation.

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   See if you can help others. If you pay attention, you will notice that someone is having difficulty participating in the story. Consider whether you can signal that you are willing to help the person by making eye contact, nodding, or smiling at them.
   • From time to time, you can help someone who is trying to state their point of view. For example, by asking questions that clarify what the person is referring to or re-emphasize what they are saying in a fresh way.
   • If you are good at group chats, make sure you don't become the center of attention excessively. One way to do this is to use your skills to get others involved in the discussion.
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