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Have you ever felt your inner voice telling you that you were not being honest with yourself? Maybe you are cheating yourself into believing your career or relationship is great, even though the truth is not. Or maybe you torture yourself financially, while, you're doing a great job. No matter what it is, being honest with yourself is a great opportunity for you to build skills in your life, rise from challenges, accept yourself, and live true to yourself.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Preparing for a Self-Assessment

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   Form the right mindset. Be open-minded in the self-assessment process as this can be a useful problem-solving tool. You should do this without feeling embarrassed or guilty. You don't have to be brutally honest with yourself. Instead, be kind and polite to yourself while remaining honest.
   • Imagine a friend giving yourself advice. This method will help you avoid being too hard on yourself.

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   Identify the areas in which you want to conduct a self-assessment. You don't have to evaluate every aspect of your life in order to start being honest with yourself. Think about what makes you uncomfortable and what you can change.You can focus on your goals, career, money, family, spirituality, and love.
   • You can also consider how you spend your time. For example, who do you spend your time with? What is the quality of the time you spend with others?
   • You can consider the choices you have made for yourself. For example, what are your goals, your exercise method, your eating, or your work routine?
   • You can consider your performance in the role you choose, such as worker, parent, child, partner, etc. Evaluate your goals and your progress toward them.

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   Become courageous. A good place to start is from issues that you feel comfortable approaching, then moving on to problems that make you less comfortable. As you gain confidence in maintaining your ability to be honest with yourself, you can continue to challenge yourself by approaching topics that you find it difficult to tackle.
   • Do not select a field to be judged on based on your own comfort of the topic. If you move away from what is making you uncomfortable, you may also stay away from the most important one.

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   Make time for yourself. Wake up earlier or later than your family member, or find a quiet place to sit and think. Many people think better when they are doing some other simple task (like doing laundry) or while walking. Find what works for you. advertisement

Part 2 of 3: Conducting a Self-Assessment

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   Write about it. Presenting through words can help you be more specific. You can write in whatever method you feel comfortable with, whether it be in the form of lists, notes, cartoons, drawings, or maps. If you're not good at writing, you can jot down your thoughts in a different way.

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   Be specific and complete. Instead of forming a vague and overly broad assessment, focus on your strengths and on specific areas where you need to work on yourself. This will be of great help when you need to take action. Don't focus solely on areas that need improvement, but also focus on your strengths and skills.
   • For example, instead of recording that you are “too shy”, you could write, “I want to be more assertive so that I can present my point at a meeting at a company meeting when I'm feeling pretty sure. sure of something ”.

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   Start with your strengths. What are you good at? What is your passion? What do others compliment about you or say that you are quite good at? Once you have these things listed, think about ways you can make them better or you can use them to your advantage.
   • Take 10 minutes and complete the following statement with as many different factors as possible: One of my strong points is…

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   Make a list of areas that you need to work on. What do you not like? What didn't work for you? Focusing on what you want to improve on can give you a more objective perspective. Once you have made a list of these factors, you can choose whether you want to improve them or ignore them.
   • Take another 10 minutes to complete the following sentence with as many different factors as possible: Things go badly ...

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   Write about your chances. They can be based on how you use your strength or how you improve yourself. On a personal level, the opportunity isn't simply the potential to make money. Instead, it's something that can either fulfill your needs or help you improve yourself.
   • For example, learning how to play an instrument may not give you financial opportunity, but the sense of contentment of the process should be enough for it to be your chance.

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   Make a list of the factors that are hindering your success. What could ruin your opportunities, destroy your hope, or delay your success? Identifying them will make you perceive them more clearly and make them less intimidating.
   • Many risks are completely out of your control, but you can minimize or anticipate some other risks.

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   Conduct a self-assessment through words. You can place a chair in front of you and visualize you sitting on that chair. Speak out loud what you are hiding. They can also be a positive factor in yourself.
   • If you feel more comfortable chatting with other people, imagine that they are sitting in that chair. You can even get in touch with the person and tell them what you actually said.
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Part 3 of 3: Review and Action Based on Self-Assessment

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   Review your list of strengths, opportunities, and areas where you need to improve. Cross out nonsense or don't seem relevant after you have thought about them more carefully. Replace them with the missing element. Alternatively, you can add an asterisk next to what is true or what you want.

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   Don't give up. Try to combat feelings of hopelessness and depression as you identify areas in which you need improvement. A good way to do this is to reward yourself with small rewards once you've identified areas for improvement and acted on them. Also, when feelings of hopelessness and depression reach you, focus on the “immediate reward” and evaluate what is not painful and easy to correct.
   • Remember that you are not rating your own worthiness, you just need to determine the difference between who you are and your ideal person.

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   Consult friends you trust about how they see you. Seeing yourself around is not easy, and an honest outsider's appreciation can help you judge whether your self-assessment is reasonable.
   • Maintain an objective look. You still haven't won a Nobel Prize. Most of us have never received this award either. You are a human being, and no one, including you, can expect that you will be perfect.

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   Make a plan of action. Create an action plan for areas where you need to improve. For difficult goals, break it down into sub-goals. Make sure you define success in such a way that you can easily determine whether you will succeed or will likely succeed.
   • For example, if you think you have a problem with your weight, you can set a goal like "Lose 45 kg" and break it down into several small steps that can accomplish the goal. Think about every little change you can make and that can then accumulate to help you achieve your big goal. For example, during the first week, you may need to cut back on sugary or carbonated drinks. For the second week, cut back on processed packaged pastries, such as biscuits and donuts, and replace them with healthier foods. Constantly restructure your diet until you start eating healthy foods most of the time.

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   Make a progress chart. Keep a list that reminds you of your new strengths and goals. When you accomplish an action or goal, cross them off your list. If you are having problems, work on identifying the barriers that are preventing you from progressing and focus on what will help you overcome them.
   • For example, if you can't get rid of your gambling craze, think about how you started the detox process and when you failed.You may have found that you tend to get back into your weekend gambling routine when you have nothing else to do, and you can work on a plan to keep yourself busy on the weekends. .

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   Be gentle with yourself and maintain a holistic view. Remember to separate your behavior from your human nature. You are not your own actions and your actions will not be able to determine your self-esteem. When you focus on areas where you need to improve, you may feel as if your whole task is to “improve” yourself. Also, remember to focus on areas where improvement is not needed.
   • For example, if you focus on exercising more, and you've fulfilled all of the goals that you set out for the past month, you can allow yourself a day of rest and going to the movies. instead of jogging. You just need to be careful not to fall back and let go of all your good efforts.
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Advice

• Remember that it's not wrong to write things down. You can choose not to share them, cancel them, fix them, or simply keep them confidential.
• If you don't know where to start, you can take the personality test online (see links below). They won't be able to help you discover yourself, but can give you some insight into your nature to get you started.
• You can always seek expert help no matter what problem you are trying to improve. Being honest with yourself doesn't mean you have to deal with everything alone.