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Some familiar ways in life can make you feel safer and more comfortable, but when the waitress spontaneously brings you water before you call, that outrageous idea makes us think about what to do overturn rigid rules to make life new. You have to get out of your comfort zone and inject in your daily routine a little spontaneity, unpredictability and fun.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Understanding Habits

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   Make a list of good habits. Before making a change, you have to identify areas in your life that feel too dry, to find ways to loosen it up. What frameworks do you often repeat?
   • Starting from waking up in the morning. What do you want to do first thing in the morning? When do you start your daily work?
   • Bring a notebook to keep a record of all the things that you find have become a habit. If you walk to work, do you walk the same path every day? How often do you sit in the same place during all classes? Always eat lunch with a certain food? Always order the same thing at a restaurant? Are you always on the same bus route? How do you wear clothes?

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   Identify worries. Often times, repetitive behaviors stemming from deep worries or some narrow beliefs that unknowingly arise. As you begin to realize the causes of these habits, you can consider changing them. Do you feel nervous when you do NOT order the drink you use every time you go to a familiar beverage bar? Or how about choosing to take the bus instead of walking to work? What's so scary about that idea?
   • Write these questions alongside the things you do every day, and be as specific as possible. What worries you about sitting next to a stranger and talking to them? What is stopping you from going to that newly opened restaurant?
   • Ask friends and family for help. Usually your friends understand you better than you do yourself. Ask a simple question, "Am I predictable?". If you suspect that you are, they may have noticed some of your habits that you didn't even notice yourself.

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   Take notes about boring times. Part of that spontaneity is dynamism. During a day, you take notes when you just sit around in the house, don't know exactly what to do, or when you feel bored. What do you choose to do at that time?
   • When writing this list you should also write down your "dream days". Assuming there are sufficient means and opportunities, what would you do at that time? What would make your evenings perfect after work or school?

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   Choose modifiable behaviors. Review your list and choose a habit you want to change. Some habits are great, because they can actually help us to be productive and at ease. But some habits stems from a limited belief or anxiety, they make us lazy, unwilling to try to experience new things.
   • Specifically, you mark the things that make you feel ashamed. If in your opinion a perfect evening involves dancing, but you often stay at home playing games even though you feel ashamed of this, it's a sign of a switchable routine. If you always order coffee with milk because it's the cheapest thing on the menu then why change?
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Part 2 of 3: Breaking Old Habits

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   Start slowly. You should turn these rules up a bit, depending on your list of things to change. Choose a new route to work, bringing your lunch instead of entering a restaurant. Call a friend and ask for a drink on the street instead of going straight home after work. Enter the library instead of the coffee shop. Do you feel better? Are there any worries?

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   Reconnect with people. Often times stiff habits lead to feelings of loneliness. We often have the thought that people are out there having fun while we're stuck indoors. But when you are thinking about planning, it is when you are alone on the road.
   • Invite everyone to do simple things together. If drinking a few beers on the porch is a normal evening, you can change it up by calling in an old high school friend. Just like that, you need to make a plan to do more.

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   Make me more mysterious. Spontaneity also implies meaning that "others are unpredictable about themselves" to create interesting feelings. Next time someone asks about your weekend, you should say something like, "Really tired. What about you?". Confusing answers will make others curious about you and what you do, giving you the opportunity to continue adventuring under that spontaneity.

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   Pursue hobbies. If you have the habit of eating pizza late at night or vegetarian on the weekend, what is stopping you from eating? It's easy to give a reason not to do something. Instead of sitting there worrying that the whim might have been a mistake, or fearing you'll regret not eating pizza after 10:00 pm, then go ahead and eat it.
   • If you regret not acting on those whims, then you need to learn to acknowledge and act on them.

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   Plan immediately. While sitting around talking to friends, it's easy to draw up a vague future plan: "We should go camping sometime" or "We'll see each other for lunch soon. again". Instead of drawing in your head, choose a specific day, an activity, and practice it right away. Don't say "Hope we go out for spring break" but say "Let's buy a plane ticket now".
   • Or, if you are familiar with meticulous planning, you must actively decide NOT to plan. You can say to see someone again, but don't think about anything because you will do it together. Then the two of you meet up in an unfamiliar place in town and explore that place together.

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   Traveling. It is easy to get stuck in daily routine if you are in the same place all the time. Especially when you live in a small town, there aren't many activities for you to do.
   • Take the time to plan your trip, but at the same time allow a few days to come up with new plans. The worst case scenario is that you have to walk in an unfamiliar place and not know where to go for a long day, but then with health benefits.
   • It doesn't have to be expensive. Even going for coffee in a cheap bar in the neighboring town is more enjoyable than a normal Friday evening in the town where you live.
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Part 3 of 3: Say Yes

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   Whenever others ask for something, you should say yes. Saying no means that you always have things that you do every day. Were you invited to a karate class but refused because you didn't like it? Did a friend invite you to go to a new place but you said no, because you doubted it was no fun? If you can remove the word "no" from the vocabulary, a new world will come to you.
   • Saying yes can take you on a new journey. Just think, do you know what you are going to do tomorrow? If you can take on new opportunities anything can happen.

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   Say yes to your own thoughts. We all have many different ideas that echo in our heads, but we must listen to the most exciting, creative, and outgoing thoughts.For example, thoughts like "That Japanese restaurant just opened, let's go in!", Or when you get a ticket to the pottery making class and have the thought, "Maybe I like it". Do not ignore that word in your mind! You need to learn to say yes to yourself.
   • Besides, there are also practical and reasonable thoughts, thoughts that support daily habits and simplicity. You should not let them take the center position, if you find yourself constantly listening to such thoughts, you have to wonder why that voice always overrides other voices.

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   Always awake. We must understand clearly: if someone tells you to jump off the cliff, don't say yes. If you are sure that drinking too much alcohol will make you lose consciousness, don't say yes. Think of it this way: there are situations where saying "yes" is not the right choice. If that is the right choice, you should move on. It's important to tell the difference!
   • Always act for your own benefit. If you don't want to go into that night with that flash of light, don't go. You will regret getting involved. Saying yes doesn't mean you have to force yourself to do something, it's something you enjoy and never wonder about.

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   Evaluate your skills of saying "yes" over time. The philosophy of living an open life leads to great opportunities, but also potential risks. After applying this philosophy of life for a while you need to take a look at the effectiveness of your choices. Maybe you should say yes to only one thing per day, or just say yes to what you do know I won't regret it. How to know how to say "yes" effectively?
   • Find out what seems to be most effective. If you find some new restaurants, cafes or new places to explore in town, focus on that! If you are hanging out with people you shouldn't be with, you can try to decline the invitation next time. Use spontaneity to make life more enjoyable, instead of becoming more difficult and challenging.
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Advice

• You must not overdo it or overdo it. You can act outrageously without having to eat out every night or spend too much money on new clothes. It's really a mental state, and showing "the outburst" has the potential to become a habit as well.
• Learn to trust yourself.