Author:
Louise Ward
Date Of Creation:
8 February 2021
Update Date:
1 July 2024
Content
Trying to get along with people of different backgrounds, even people you don't like is a good thing, but sometimes letting someone know that you don't like them is better than just pretending. For example, you will need to tell the person trying to reach you that you don't want to date them. You may also need to say that you don't want to befriend someone. You may even want to break up with someone who has been a friend for a long time. In such cases, make it clear that you want them to distance themselves and behave politely to you.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Tell a stranger you don't like them
Be frank. If someone offers to ask for a date or ask for your phone number, the way to say no is to give a simple and straightforward answer. The frank approach can work because you don't let them wait nor create ambiguity, so they may turn to another shade.
- For example, you could use the phrase "I appreciate the invitation very much, but I cannot accept it, thank you."
- You can also say, "No, I don't want to date now."
- Make sure to include the phrase "no" in your answer to show your clarity.
Choose an indirect reply. If you don't want to bluntly reject someone, you can respond in a roundabout way. Respond skillfully indirectly by starting with a compliment for the other party but ending with a denial.- For example, you can explain, "You seem like a good person, but I don't want to date anyone, so I'll say 'no.'"
Try evasion tactics. Another option is to use dodge tactics. That is, you will avoid requests by distracting you from having to respond directly, for example giving a fake phone number to the person so they don't know you are declining.- To give someone a fake phone number, you can come up with a series of numbers, but make sure it doesn't match someone else's phone number. This tactic can be counterproductive if the other person tries to call that number or see you again.
- Another option is to assert you already have a boyfriend or girlfriend. You can also ask your friend to pretend to be your girlfriend; however, using this tactic will keep people away, and this can become a problem when you want to see them again.
Don't say "sorry.’ Apologizing will show that you are feeling sorry for the person, which can make the rejection worse. Besides, there's no reason to apologize. Simply put, you decide not to accept them. advertisement
Method 2 of 3: Tell someone you don't want to be friends with them
Make sure you have to say something. However, sometimes keeping quiet is best for you. If talking to the other person doesn't shake things up, you can leave it alone, even if the person makes you upset.
- For example, telling your manager you don't like them won't do you any good. They hold power at work and can make your career miserable, so telling your manager you don't like them will be against you. You can also get into trouble for not submitting to.
- Also, consider your options if the target person you don't like is a family member or family member. If you see the person regularly, saying that you don't like them will only make the situation more awkward.
- Likewise, if the person is friends with other friends, this can be awkward at gatherings if you say you don't like them.
- Consider whether you are fair in love and hate. Maybe you didn't like someone in the first place and didn't know them well. Try getting to know the person before making a quick assessment.
Be polite. Even if you tell someone you don't need them in life, try not to be overly rude. You can tell someone that you don't like to be friends without being rude, which will also help keep your relationship from breaking down.
- If you are too aggressive, you may have difficulty making friends with others. Rumors will spread quickly.
- Don't be insulting or rude when talking to the person; Be as respectful and calm as possible.
- For example, say, "I can't stand being around you." is quite rude. Instead, try saying, "We're so different and I don't really have a lot of time for making new friends."
Don't give hope to the other party.’ If you don't want to develop friendships with them, they'll find out later. In other words, try to stay out of the conversation and disagree with plans that you don't want to get involved with.
- Also, try not to smile at your partner. You don't have to frown, but smiling will make it easier for you to get close
- This approach can make you cold or cool in the eyes of others, so be very careful.
Try direct speaking. While being blunt is quite ruthless, it can tell you from the start that you don't want to go any further. If you really don't want to see the person anymore, it's better to get it straight; however, this can be counterproductive, especially if this is used in the workplace.
- You could say something like: "I don't think we'd be friends, but nice to meet you."
Be honest with your feelings. If your partner seems eager to move deeper into a relationship you are comfortable with, speak up to the person without criticism. For example, maybe they want a deeper friendship, but you just want to stay familiar.
- You could say something like: "I feel like you want me to give more love to this friendship. That goes beyond the limit I'm willing to give. If you still want to get closer to me. in a few months, will you be willing to talk back to me? "
- Alternatively, you could say, "Thank you for the friend invitation. Looks like you are such a wonderful person. I just don't feel like thank you."
Method 3 of 3: Tell the person you don't want to make friends with
Consider your purpose. Decide what you want out of the situation, and then choose the most appropriate course of action to achieve your goal with minimal stress. If you want to see the person less, then you may not need to tell the person you don't like them. If you want to cut the person out of your life, it's probably best to tell them upright rather than just ignoring them. Ask yourself questions like:
- What I hope happens when I tell the person I don't like them?
- Would I want them to stop bothering me? (Rather I should ask for that.)
- Would I like to see them less? (Maybe I should tell them I can only hang out once a month.)
- Would I want to hurt that person? Will I regret hurting their feelings afterward?
Be kind. Despite the fact that you are rejecting someone, don't act rude. Instead, try to minimize the rudeness so that the other person doesn't feel disgusted or disappointed about you.
- Saying "You're an idiot and I don't like you," for example is not true. Instead you can say, "I know you want to go out more, but I'm not comfortable with that. I feel we're so different."
Treat friends like lovers. If you are trying to tell your best friend that you are getting apart, treat your ex the same way you would your partner. That is, break up with them the way you would with your ex.
- Sitting face-to-face with them is the best option, although you can email or email if that's your only option. State the reasons why you want to stop being friends. Ideally, blaming yourself, such as "I'm no longer the sister of the old days, and I think we're not suitable to be friends anymore."
- Another option is to ask to rest. You may only need a little time to settle it, although taking a break can also be a temporary soothing way to take a longer break.
Avoid. While this may not be the best option, it is still selected. You can just ignore the person's call or avoid talking to them when you see each other. The person may find that you don't want to be friends with them.
- People often use this method to try not to hurt other people's feelings, but sometimes such "missing" can actually be more misleading and hurtful, and only delay further. the inevitable. Your ex will start to worry about you and may not realize that you are trying to end the relationship, so it's best to just be upfront if possible.
- Understand that if you avoid the person, you have to be honest after all. They may wonder if something is wrong or if you are angry or avoid them. Prepare yourself to answer these questions.
- One way to avoid the other person is to make excuses for work, such as, "I love to chat, but I really need to get back to work."
Be realistic. Denying one person is just like being rejected by another person can hurt, especially for an opinionated person. You cannot get out of the situation without being emotionally hurt; however, if friendships really do get bad, then it is time to let go of your hand so you can have healthier, stronger relationships. advertisement
