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It can be hard to know if someone is avoiding you. It is likely that the two of you have not met much yet. However, there are a few signs that tell the truth: you may see them, but they don't look at you. Sometimes you leave a message to him / her on Facebook 2 weeks ago but they don't bother responding. Put yourself in that person's shoes, and try to understand why they are avoiding you.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Identify avoidance behavior

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   Notice a sudden disconnection. Pay attention when the person suddenly stops contacting you, even if only occasionally.The person may not even talk to you directly: they only communicate via email, text, and social media. If you view your relationship as friends or romantically, this is a sign that the other person is avoiding you.
   • Consider the possibility that the person is just busy, and really wants to see you. They might send you a text message like: "Sorry I haven't been able to call you back ... I'm too busy with my studies. Let's see each other next week when I have more time." However, if you keep receiving messages like that for weeks after weeks — or even no messages — they can be seen as trying to avoid you.

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   Determine if the person has an excuse not to spend time with you. Maybe they'll blame busy work schedules, or a busy social life, or just something "just happens". If a person persistently finds a reason to delay planning to meet you, chances are they are just avoiding you.
   • Don't be too harsh. Sometimes things just "keep happening", and the person may be overwhelmed by their schedule. Just because the person is shy is an excuse, but that doesn't mean the person doesn't want to spend time with you.

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   Try to make eye contact. If you face the person, try to make eye contact with them. If they are avoiding you, then they won't want to make eye contact. If so, just for a moment - or roll your eyes.

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   Send the person a few messages, and wait for a response. If they simply reply "Yeah! What's wrong?", And they don't respond after a few days, they probably don't want to talk to you. Try again, if you do not hear them respond, do not rush to accuse, just evoke a normal conversation. If they don't reply to this second message, don't try to push the issue forward either. Respect their reasons for avoiding them, and don't give them extra reasons to avoid you.
   • Some messaging platforms show you whether or not the recipient of a message has read it. Take advantage of this feature to see if you are being ignored. If they have read all of your messages but never responded, this indicates that at least the person is not interested in talking. If your message does not show "read" or "seen" status, you can tell if the person is online based on the "Chat" toolbar, or their posting time.
   • Use your understanding of the person's use of technology. If you know this friend doesn't use Facebook regularly, then it makes sense for them not to read your messages. However, if this person regularly uses Facebook, but doesn't reply to your messages, then they are likely avoiding you.

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   Listen for short, inattentive responses. If you are able to initiate a conversation with them, be aware of their short, monotonous response. Maybe they're just trying to deflect the question so it's easy to give up.
   • For example you say: "Hey, we haven't talked in a long time. How are you?" and they just say "okay", and then disappear again. This may indicate that the friend is avoiding.

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   Know how one person is avoiding you in a group. If the person purposefully speaks to everyone except you, they may be avoiding you. Dodging doesn't mean the person doesn't want to spend time with you - it might just mean they don't notice your presence. Try to say something directly to your friend, and see how they respond. If they respond quickly and quickly, and then turn away - or don't respond - they are more likely avoiding you.
   • Compare this behavior in the group to when there are only two of them left. Maybe they just "avoid" you while in the group, or even if it's just the two of them they immediately leave. Try to guess if they do this to other people, or to you alone.
   • Know if the person leaves the room every time you enter. If this happens frequently, it may indicate that the person doesn't want to spend time with you.

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   See if this person respects your opinion. If this person doesn't ask for your opinion in friendly meetings or discussions, this is a sign they are ignoring you. Perhaps she didn't ask your decision or how you feel about it; She also doesn't respond when you give her opinion.

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   Don't tolerate someone who doesn't take you seriously. Consider whether you are a priority in their life. Someone avoids you when they don't want to spend time with you. Perhaps the person is uncomfortable with being attached, and wants you to be content with the "go or go" relationship. Look for details that show you are not a priority:
   • A relationship that does not work out: a relationship that swells with many dramatic obstacles, or stagnates, or hinders you.
   • This person is truly around when they need something from you, including money, attention, sex, or a place to vent. Think about how often you are used this way.
   • They only plan at the last minute. He or she just shows up at the door or texts you late at night without even making an appointment.
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Method 2 of 3: Understanding avoidance

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   Ask yourself why that person is avoiding you. Perhaps the two of them quarreled or exchanged words; maybe you said something offending the person without knowing it; or you make people uncomfortable in some way. Think carefully about your behavior; and try to determine the cause.

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   Find the rules. Examine the cases in which you feel "avoided", and see if there are any common scenarios. Maybe this person is avoiding you at certain times, or when someone shows up; maybe the problem is with you, maybe it is with them. Put together the pieces and try to understand why.
   • Does this person avoid you at certain times, when you do certain things? For example, maybe you start to try drugs, and your friend doesn't want to see you in that situation.
   • Is this person avoiding when you are with someone? Maybe you're not the one they avoid - or maybe they don't like the way you behave around a certain group of people. Maybe your friend is shy or introverted: they like a two-person conversation, but will disappear when you are with a group of friends.
   • Does this person avoid you while trying to work or study? Your friend may enjoy spending time with you in his spare time, but it can be difficult for them to get work done with you around.

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   Think about how you should try to contact them. If you or your partner are still present in your life but never reply to a text message, then they may just not like texting communication. This may be true when they lead a busy or disciplined life - it will be difficult for them to have time to converse deeply by texting while busy working, studying, or training.

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   Consider the aspect of change as an adult. Evaluate if the person has changed since you started avoiding you - and if so, how much has it changed. Maybe they started going out with a new group of friends, maybe they were entangled with new love; They are busy with a new sport or hobby that is not your style. The beautiful thing is when we are close to someone, but people change, and everything falls apart. If you see that the person has taken another path, so should you.
   • Also, consider changing yourself. Maybe this person is behaving as usual, but you are a lot different. Maybe you started hanging out with a new group of friends, or a new habit that bothered your friend, or you simply stopped being with them.
   • Far apart because of maturity, but that doesn't mean you can't get back together. If you feel like you are changing and distant from someone, then this is your choice when you want to let them go or maintain a relationship. However, keep in mind that this process has to come from both sides.
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Method 3 of 3: Facing avoidance

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   Face the person. If you get a feeling that someone is avoiding you, consider skillfully suggesting the problem. You may want to know what you did wrong, or ask the person to avoid you for going through a difficult time.Be respectful and straightforward, and explain exactly what is bothering you.
   • If you're not sure why someone is avoiding you, ask "I didn't mean to bring this up - I feel like you've been avoiding me lately. Did I do anything to make you sad?".
   • If you know the reasons why someone is avoiding you, don't go around. Apologize for what you did, and try to ease the situation. For example, say, "I felt things were a bit awkward between us after last week's fight. I treasure our friendship, and want to talk about it so we can both let it go. that's not worth ruining this friendship. "
   • You can face the person in private, or ask a counselor to follow up on the conversation. Consider how comfortable you are, and choose the situation that you think best solves the problem.

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   Ask your mutual friends for more understanding, but don't talk behind your back. If you have mutual friends, ask someone you trust to assess the situation. Say "Do you know why X is upset with me? I feel like she's avoiding me lately".
   • Don't spread rumors about someone who is avoiding you. If you value your relationship with this person, be careful what you say. If you say negative things behind them, it is likely that those words will reach their ears - which only adds fuel to the fire.

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   Give the person some space. Sometimes, a person needs to go through their own journey before reconnecting with others. In many cases, forcing this connection only pushes the person further. Be patient, open, and continue with your daily life. If this person decides they need you in their lifetime, you will know.
   • Clarify your intentions. Say "Looks like you need your own space right now, so I'll leave you alone. If you want to talk, I'll be happy."
   • Be open. It can be hard to go on with your own life but leave a door open for someone to return. Take a step back to see your relationship better, remember good memories, and let go of any blame.

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   Give up. It can be difficult to leave someone, especially if you've invested your time and energy into them. At some point, you need to accept that there are things that will not return as they once were. This is a maturing and emotionally healthy problem: if you spend hours in the past, questioning what was there and asking questions like, then it will be difficult for you to learn and thrive in the present. in. Please let go.
   • Letting go does not mean forever. That doesn't mean you can't rekindle your friendship. You just don't have to dedicate your precious emotional energy to someone who can't take it right now.
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Advice

• If the person keeps avoiding you for a long time, then it's time to let go. If they don't spend time with you, they just might not be interested in you anymore.
• If they are uncomfortable around you, this may indicate that they are not open to you in your presence.
• If it hurts you to be avoided, ask a mutual friend to understand why he or she is upset with you.