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• Steps
• Advice
• Warning

Perhaps you do not need to think about raising children with a whip if you live in an ideal world. However, in a few cases, many parents feel it is necessary to beat their children to teach. This article is not intended to encourage or discourage spanking, but is intended to provide parents with practices and guidance for safely spanking, if necessary.

Spanking remains a controversial topic, with most child psychologists opposing this approach to education. But some other psychologists and many parents still see spanking with love and justice as an effective educational measure. In the end, the child's parents are still the ones who decide whether to spank or not, but must follow the customs and laws where they live.

Steps

Part 1 of 2: Thinking and Discussing Spanking

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   Plan ahead. Before declaring spanking, you must be 100% sure that you want to use it. Remember that spanking is the last resort after other forms of punishment (not using a whip or hitting hand) have worn off, such as setting a time limit, detention or taking away some of your child's benefits.
   • Some people actually view spanking as physical abuse. Mental and physical abuse is defined as follows: Any deliberate or threatening act resulting in mental, physical, sexual health, or harm resulting from or likely to to a significant mental, emotional and physical health impairment of the child. Child abuse can result from an intentional act or negligence by an adult. According to a study to demonstrate the negative effects of spanking, some people feel that corporal punishment, even out of love, constitutes a crime of abuse. Therefore, spanking is prohibited in some places by law.

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   Show your child what he did wrong, why it was wrong and how he should do it right. Talk openly and allow the child to ask questions so he or she knows what to do. When spanking, you must always remain calm and absolutely not angry.

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   Choose the right place to hit. A child can feel extremely embarrassed if he or she gets beaten by a parent in front of someone else, especially if it is his friend or brother. From there, feelings of resentment arise and are counterproductive to the child's behavior. If you hit your bare butt, you have to choose an invisible place, which is very important.

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   Once you have made a decision and fully understand the issue, let your child know that he or she will be spanked if done wrong. The baby will probably be angry and a little worried. This is predictable, but you should sympathize with such reactions and take your stance.

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   Ask your child to stay still. You need to let your child know things will get worse if he tries to cover or resist with his hand. If he whines or whines, let him know that he is in vain. However, the baby will often cry from before being beaten, this is a natural reaction so you cannot punish him for this. advertisement

Part 2 of 2: At Spanking

1. Use a whip and never hit with bare hands. You should not use anything else without the whip, as it could be dangerous.
   • Some parents, family or social practices often prefer hitting the bare butt, even when their children are already in their teens. Others still let their children wear pants when hitting. How to fight depends on your thoughts, but consider factors such as: traditional customs (as it affects your child's shame), baby's safety (hitting bare buttocks help you recognize your beating, but less secure), the child's age and shyness to get naked, and the type of pants he's wearing (some fabrics make it more painful or less painful). While spanking can be considered a good form of punishment, be sure not to let the teaching turn into an act of humiliation or tormenting your child. These are the factors you should consider to decide on the right punishment, as it is only you who understands your child best and the customs where you live.

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   Remove the wrist ring when hitting. Wearing a ring can hurt your baby or your own hands. You certainly don't want to be hindered during a whip penalty or anything that could hurt your baby too, so take out all the items in the pockets of your pants so the baby won't get stuck on your lap. If you want to hit the bare butt then pull his pants down on his own or you can let the kid do it himself.

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   Make the baby lie on his stomach on his lap. Sit down and pull your baby on his stomach across his lap, close to his lap.

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   Relax your hands and all limbs, one hand on your back and the other on your buttocks. You must keep the child still and locked his legs.
   • Don't talk while spanking. You should talk to it when you hit it, not talk while hitting.

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   Don't hit too hard. You don't have to use too much force to hit your child, and hitting too hard can be traumatic or traumatic. In fact, the image of punishment with spanking is also educational and no less important than the pain it causes, especially if you hit bare buttocks. Listen to your child's reaction to see if you hit too hard or not.
   • To avoid injury, you should stay away from baby's genitals, coccyx, and kidneys. Watch for the red eel marks on the rump: as soon as its butt is red, stop. Obviously when hitting the bare butt you can definitely not hit the genital area and easily spot the red eels on the butt. Pull up his pants as soon as he is finished, or let him do it himself.

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   Finally reassure the child. Tell him you did it out of love and the punishment is all out of love. Emphasize letting him know if he wants not to be beaten, he must think about his actions and follow your instructions.After spanking you do not apply any additional punishment, but forgive it immediately.

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   Spanking is a good lesson. It sounds strange, but if applied properly, spanking will actually teach the child a valuable lesson that he'll have to be happy with later on. You may feel sad when you hit your kids, but remember you are never a bad parent for that. Because if spanking properly, not for abuse and for good reason, it will be part of your obligation to be a parent.

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   Loving unconditionally. Let your child know you love him no matter what. advertisement

Advice

• Don't hit too often. If you hit your kids often, this method will no longer work, because each child is not the same and because they will be greasy. So never hit often. You should only hit your children a few times a year and when they are young.
• The age from 4-5 is the appropriate period to start teaching children with a whip. Children under 4 years old should not spanking, but only apply when they are older. Even when your child is a teenager, you can still consider adopting that kind of education, but only occasionally. If this doesn't work, you should take other measures like detention or take some of its benefits away.
• Girls and boys, you can do spanking if you need to. If you just hit a guy and not a girl, you might make your son angry at it.
• If possible, let the father beat her son and mother beat her daughter.
• If you want to use a lighter and less embarrassing form to your child, try hitting his hand.

Warning

• Do not hit anywhere except the buttocks, especially do not hit the head or upper waist.
• Do not hit your child when angry.
• If spanking penalties apply at school, the child should not be beaten when he or she has been hit at school. Many parents do this, but it is not fair because they have been punished twice.
• Don't take additional penalties like detention or time limit; enough punishment has been applied!
• Do not hit your child while sitting in a car or driving.
• Do not spank if you are not their parent or guardian, for example if you are a babysitter do not hit.
• Observe the laws that limit or prohibit corporal punishment.
• Be careful when you teach your children by spanking in public, you can be discouraged by others even though it is not illegal to do so. Pay special attention to this when you live in a place where there is no practice of spanking, so you absolutely should not hit your child in public.