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• Steps
• Advice
• Warning

If your friend ever wanted to commit suicide, you would be very worried about that person when you don't know what to say or do. The best you can do is be considerate, supportive, and be with your friends as they get through this tough time. You need to be considerate, take care of, be kind to your friends, and handle the situation with care.

Steps

Part 1 of 2: Support

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   Always be with that person. The best thing you can do for your friend, who has tried to commit suicide, is to always be there to support them. Simple as a hug, a shoulder to lean on, an ear to listen to will also help them move on. Let your friend know that you are available to call or spend time with them. Even if your friend doesn't want to talk about suicide, that's okay. They may not talk as they used to or they may just be quiet. Don't let those things stop you from being with your friends. Maybe that's all they need.
   • You don't need to bring up a suicide attempt, but stay there if your friend wants to talk about it.
   • If your suicide just happened, show your support by asking for help, and let them know that you're glad they're still here.

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   Understanding. It may be difficult for you to understand why your friend attempted suicide. You will probably have different feelings about it such as anger, shame or guilt. But, putting yourself in that person's shoes helps a lot. Try to understand the pain behind suicide, whether it is the pain of depression, the trauma, the despair, the recent losses or the burdens, the overwhelmingness, the sickness. , because of addiction or isolation. Understand that your friend is in great pain, whatever the real reason.
   • You may never fully understand what a person is thinking before they attempt suicide. But, if you care about your friend and suicide just happened recently, you can do your best to understand the pain that person was going through.

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   Listen. Sometimes the best thing you can do for a friend is to simply sit back and listen. Let them express what they want. Don't interrupt or try to "fix" the problem. Don't compare the person's situation with you or anyone else, and remember that for what he or she has been through, no one feels like himself. Listen wholeheartedly, not distracted. This will show the person that you care because you are paying attention.
   • Sometimes, listening is just as important as giving appropriate advice.
   • While you are listening, don't make judgments to find out the cause of your suicide. Instead, focus on how the person is feeling and what they need from you.
   • Your friend will probably always want to talk about suicide. It is also natural for them to want to recall what happened. Be patient and let them speak as much as they want.

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   Ask for help. You can ask for your friend's help in many ways as long as they need it. Listen to your friends and ask them what they need most and volunteer to help. You should also ask about things they deem unnecessary to avoid doing things they don't need or want.
   • For example, if your friend is worried about seeking treatment, you can suggest to see a doctor. Or, if they feel overwhelmed by everything, you can ask to help with dinner, babysitting, help with housework, or simply something that can ease their burden.
   • Help with small things can also make big changes. Don't assume that anything is trivial and doesn't need help.
   • Help can include helping them relax their minds. They may get tired of having to talk about suicide. Ask to take them out to dinner or watch a movie.

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   Learn how to help your friend. If your friend recently tried to commit suicide and you find that he has intentions again, do your best to keep him safe. Know who you can call or reach for help. You can reach out to school counselors, parents, or even call 115 if your friend says they cannot protect themselves.
   • For regions outside the US, visit suicide websites for a phone number or live online chat.
   • Remember that you cannot do this on your own. The person's family members and other friends must also work together to help keep the person away from things that might increase suicide intent.

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   Ask your loved one how to keep the person safe. If the person was hospitalized after the suicide, or is seeing a specialist, they will probably have a safety plan. Ask the person if you can know the plan, and how you can help. If the person does not have a safety plan, you can find an online counselor to help create one.Find out from your friends how to know if they are desperate or overwhelmed and how you can help. Ask them how safe they feel and ask them to tell you what you need to know to intervene.
   • For example, they might say that if they don't get out of bed all day and dodge calls, it's a sign they are in a dark place. This will signal you to call in others for help.

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   Help the person take step by step forward. Your friend should see a specialist or a health care professional, and should consider taking medication. In addition to making sure your friend is recovering from support, you can help him or her make small changes to improve his or her life. The person should not make big changes, but suggest doing small things.
   • For example, if the person feels hopeless about a relationship failure, you can gradually help them forget about it by organizing fun activities and helping them start dating when the time comes. .
   • Or, if your friend is deeply saddened by a stalemate in his career, you can help them start over or talk about going back to school.

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   Make sure you are not alone. Don't think that asking other people (like friends, family, or health care professionals) to help you and the sick person is selfish. That can help you avoid feeling overwhelmed. If you start to feel overwhelmed, tell the person that you need a break, need time alone or with other friends or family to care for yourself. Let them know you want to spend that time recovering and that you'll be back once you feel well. It's also helpful to define boundaries by being clear about what you are willing to do and what you are not willing to do.
   • For example, let your ex know that you would be happy going to dinner together each week, but you won't keep the signs of danger hidden and you will need help to keep them safe.
   • Your ex should not keep you a secret, and it's also important that other trusted people know about suicide.

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   Increase your hope. Try to make them feel hopeful for the future. This can prevent future suicidal attempts. Try to get them to think and talk about hope. Ask the dods how hope affects them. You can try the following questions:
   • Who would you call to help you feel full of hope right now?
   • What makes you feel full of hope, such as emotions, pictures, music, colors or objects?
   • How do you strengthen and nurture your hope?
   • What threatens your hope?
   • Try to imagine a picture full of hope. What do you see?
   • When you feel hopeless, where do you tend to regain hope?

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    Visit them. Try to let them know that you still think about them even when you are not together. Ask them if you can ask them how often and how often. You can also ask if they have a good way to ask, like calling, texting, or visiting.
    • When you do, it's not necessary to ask about suicide unless you think they are harming yourself. Instead, just ask them what they are doing or feeling, and if they need any help.

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    Pay attention to danger signs. Don't make the mistake of assuming that your friend won't try to commit suicide again just because they've failed once. Unfortunately, about 10% of people who threaten or attempt suicide eventually end their lives. This doesn't mean you have to observe your friend's every move, but you should be extremely vigilant to make sure your friend does not show signs of danger that may be related to suicide. If you think it will happen again, notify someone and seek help, especially if you notice threats or words about harming or ending your life, good words their writing about death in an unusual way, or about not wanting to "exist". Keep in mind danger signs include:
    • Intent (wanting to die)
    • Drug abuse
    • Incontinence
    • Worry
    • Deadlock
    • Feeling of despair
    • Intent to give up
    • Angry
    • Carefulless
    • Change your mood
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Part 2 of 2: Avoid Dangerous Behavior

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   Don't scold that person for suicide. They need love and support, not the teaching that what is right or wrong. The person may feel shame, guilt, and emotional hurt. Scolding won't help you bond or maintain a friendship.
   • You may feel angry or guilty about the person trying to commit suicide and you may want to ask them why they didn't ask for help. However, interrogation will not work best for that person or for your friendship if the suicide just happened recently.

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   Admit suicide. Don't pretend suicide never happened or ignore it and hope that things will return to normal orbit. You should not completely ignore what happened, even if your friend did not mention it. Try to say good and encouraging things, even if it doesn't convey them all. It's better to say it than to keep quiet.
   • For example, you could say that you feel sorry that the person went through bad things, and ask if you can do anything for them. Whatever you say, make sure the friend knows that you really care about them.
   • Remember that you are in an uncomfortable situation, and that no one knows exactly how to behave when someone around them tries to end their own life.

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   Realize that suicide is a serious problem. Many people think that a suicide is just a way to get attention and the person doesn't really want to end his life. A suicide is a serious situation and it shows that there are potentially complex factors and pain behind it. Avoid telling the person that you think they were doing it just to get the attention. By doing so, you are underestimating the importance of a decision that has to do with a person's life and making your friend feel bad, and feel that you are not taken seriously.
   • Being as much sympathetic as possible is important. If you tell your friend that they were only doing it to get attention, you are not really trying to understand the situation.
   • It may be easier for you to alleviate your friend's problems but this does not help him or her in recovering from suicide.

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   Don't make the person feel guilty. Making the person feel guilty is a heartless thing, even if you really feel hurt or betrayed by suicide. Your friend may have felt guilty and ashamed of worrying about the people around them. Instead of saying things like "Don't you think about your family and friends?" try to sympathize with your friends.
   • Remember that they may still feel hopeless or weak, and what they need most right now is your love and support.

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   Give the person some time. There isn't any quick or easy solution to a suicide. You cannot hope that just by taking the medicine everything will be all right. Thoughts that lead to suicidal thoughts are often very complex, and so is recovery from suicide. While it's important to make sure the person gets the help they need, don't take their problem lightly and think the solution is simple.
   • You will really want to heal your friends and ease their pain. But remember that the person must work hard through the pain. The best you can do is support and help them.
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Advice

• Give the person things to look forward to by organizing activities that make you both happy, like jogging or exercising together, or hanging out at the beach.
• Let the person know that they can cry and that it is okay to have strange emotions. And tell them not to get too deep into it. Please encourage them.
• Don't always feel like you need to do something big - it's enough for you to be with them. Just sit together on a park bench or watch a movie at home.
• Don't be too pitiful. Pity can burden the person and even feel worse.

Warning

• Any relationship with someone who is desperate or has suicidal thoughts can be difficult and painful for a long time.
• No matter how sincere you try to approach someone who has suicidal thoughts, your feelings may be rejected. Don't be resentful because it is very difficult for a desperate person or a suicidal person to take the hand of a new friend.
• Don't make a suicidal person feel cornered or stuck when you first try to talk to them.