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The good news is that you've found a girl you really like, and you want her to be your girlfriend. The bad news is that every time you think about asking her out, you start to feel nervous, or even a frown. You keep asking yourself, “What if she refuses me? What if my confession doesn't sound right? " If you follow the simple steps below, your question will surely be answered by her cheering, "Yes, of course!"

Steps

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   Consider why you want to ask her to be your girlfriend. If you've found a girl that makes you feel special and your heart is beating fast and fast, then chances are she will be a great girlfriend. However, asking someone to become a lover leads to a serious commitment and will most likely go to marriage, so it is useless to understand your own motivations before you decide to ask. same important.
   • If she is the right person, she probably has the good qualities that will help your relationship thrive. Here are some signs that she is an ideal girlfriend:
     • You enjoy spending time with her. Every time you are apart, you will count every minute until you see her again.
     • She makes you want to be a better person. Her wit, wit, and work ethic make you want to read more books, work harder, and hone your sense of humor.
     • She is devoted to you. If she proves her loyalty by coming to your band gigs, or bringing chicken porridge until you get sick, chances are she will gradually move into your lover's role.
     • She shares the same interests as you. You two have a lot in common, from your favorite soccer team to your love for marathon. While they don't have to be the same in all tastes, you need to have enough in common to find meaningful ways to spend time together as the relationship develops.
   • If she's not the person you need, or if you want to date for bad reasons, it's better to stay single. Here are some signs that you shouldn't take any further:
     • If she shows interest in other people. If you know that she is dating other people, and has no intention of stopping seeing them, chances are she won't end those out-of-the-line activities once she becomes your girlfriend. However, give her a chance: she may date them a lot, but maybe you are the only person she cares about.
     • You just want to date her because you are lonely, or have a sexual need. "Casual dating" will be the most useful measure in these cases. Having a girlfriend is a serious undertaking, and you should ask her to be your lover because you care about her - no matter what she can do for you.

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   Make sure she likes you. If she sends you vague cues, try spending a little more time together until you are sure of her feelings.
   • Avoid asking too soon! If you are just starting to get to know her and immediately ask her to be your girlfriend, she will refuse because she doesn't know you well enough, and the resulting confusion will reduce your chances So the two of you can come together. Plus, she will probably think you're a little odd (in a bad way).
   • Listen to her words and pay attention to her body language. Do you feel like she wants to be with you? You should be able to grasp this quite clearly if you focus on her actions.
   • Get to know her feelings from your friends. You don't have to be too obvious, but you can still check with her friends to see if she's really interested in you. This can help build your confidence - and avoid awkward situations if she only sees you as friends.

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   Find the right place and time to talk. It's important to think carefully about when and where you will address her.This shows her that you've put the time and effort into planning that special moment, and will increase your chances of getting the response you want.
   • Choose a location that can create the right atmosphere. It's important to choose a place where you have the privacy to speak. Avoid places that are too romantic, like a candlelit dinner, which will make your intentions too obvious and make things even more awkward if you are rejected. Asking while walking in the park or a quiet café would be perfect options.
   • Choose the right time. The evenings will often be more romantic and allow her to focus on you, instead of her busy day work. You can ask her out on a weekend night, but be careful that this may make it feel like a real date.
   • Plan ahead. Be mysterious. Offer to see her a week in advance to let her think about your intentions. This shows her that you are both funny and considerate.

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   Have the right attitude. Approach the evening with a positive attitude. Thinking that the conversation will go well can really help you be successful. If you believe in your future, so will she.
   • Avoid acting anxious. Don't bite your fingernails or cower in awkward silence. Be yourself.

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   Speak out in the best possible way. It is important to convey the offer in the most effective way to demonstrate your purpose.
   • Once you get to know her well, it's time to express your desire for her to be your girlfriend. There are several ways to open the door to suggesting a girl as a lover, and it depends on how people your age will talk about it. For example, "let's get together" is an outdated expression. Here are some time-effective confessions:
   • "Will you be my girlfriend?" Asking her to become your girlfriend would be much more direct and straightforward than "Will you date me?" Most girls will fall for your self-confidence and direct words.
   • Don't be afraid to use creative ways if direct speaking doesn't work for you. You can address her with a letter, write, "Will you become my girlfriend?" on a cake, or find other creative ways to get attention - and her heart.
   • Don't wait too long or she will think you don't like her anymore. Girls will often have their own limits.
   • Avoid asking her to be the "vague girlfriend". This can happen when the two of you have been out for a couple of weeks and have been having a lot of fun together. Then one day the two of you look at each other and you ask, "Hey, are we dating?". The answer will always be No. Often times, things will only get worse when you are not straightforward about your relationship.

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   Respond appropriately. Whether she agrees and gives you a tight hug or a rejection, your actions after you ask them to be able to determine the general attitude of your relationship in the future.
   • If she agrees, let her know how happy you feel to know that you will be spending time together as lovers. Everything is in place and you no longer have to worry about trying to appear sane. Responding to her enthusiasm will show how excited you are about your future!
   • If she turns you down, get her understanding. There are many reasons she might not want to be your girlfriend, like if she is in love with someone else or just sees you as a friend. Whatever the reason, it's important not to criticize her and not to act like you no longer care about her. This will show that you are mature and rational, and will allow you to continue your friendship. Plus, this will also increase the chance that she will reconsider your offer if you ask her in the distant future!
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Advice

• Praise her every day to let her see that you care.
• Be honest about your intentions.
• Speak less and listen more to what she says
• Take her to the movies and let her choose.
• Give her lots of flowers and sweet gifts.
• Always care about her.
• Always have confidence and have a positive attitude when being with her.
• Make sure that you are there for her when she needs comfort, and that you can look after her in difficult times. Make her feel special, as if she were the world to you.
• If you don't have the confidence to say you love her, ask a friend to help you see if she likes you or not.
• Confident, but don't be too presumptuous.