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Guilt is a common human emotion that anyone must experience at some point. However, for many people, intense or prolonged feelings of guilt or shame can result in great pain. Relevant guilt is guilt over an action, decision, or misconduct for which you are responsible, and can have a negative effect on others. These are the types of healthy emotions that can motivate you to correct your mistakes, create a social bond, and a sense of shared responsibility. In contrast, disproportionate guilt is a sin where the responsibility is not yours, such as the behavior and well-being of others, and factors beyond your control, such as consequences. of almost any situation. This type of guilt can lead us to indulge in feelings of failure, resulting in shame and resentment. Whether your mistake stems from past misconduct or unexpectedly arises, there are steps you can take to address this emotion.

Steps

Method 1 of 2: Coping with Correspondence Sin

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   Recognize the type of guilt you are having and its purpose. Guilt is a helpful emotion when it helps us develop and learn from behavior that offends or hurts ourselves or others. When guilt stems from an act of hurting others or having a negative effect that we were completely able to prevent, we are receiving the signal to change our behavior (or otherwise, we risk getting the consequences). The "commensurate" type of guilt can be a guide that helps us to redirect our behavior and correct our feelings against what is possible and unacceptable.
   • For example, if your guilt comes from spreading rumors about a co-worker so you can get a promotion instead of that person, you are experiencing guilt. proportional. If you are simply being promoted because you qualify and still feel guiltyYou are facing sin inconsistent.

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   Forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself, like forgiving others, is a difficult process. Important steps in forgiving yourself include:
   • Recognize real pain without exaggerating or understatement about what happened.
   • Address the degree of harm for which you are responsible - perhaps there are some actions you might have done differently, but you are not entirely responsible for everything. Overestimating your responsibilities can prolong the feeling of guilt more than necessary.
   • Understand your emotional state during the time of the harmful action.
   • Talk to someone who has been negatively affected by your behavior. A sincere apology will be of great help. It is important that you and the other person know that you are aware of the harm you have caused and that you understand what you will be doing (if any) in addition to apologizing.

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   Fix the error or change as soon as possible. Immersing in guilt rather than taking the necessary action to correct or atone is how we punish ourselves. Unfortunately, this behavior will only make you feel too ashamed to take action that might help you. Corrective change means getting rid of your ego and believing that others will be grateful for handling the source of sin.
   • If apologizing is your way of making amends, avoid justifying the actions you did or pointing out parts of the situation where the responsibility was not yours. Just acknowledge the other person's pain without Distract by inserting an explanation or trying to reconsider the details of the situation.
     • It would be easier to apologize for a painful momentary act. But when the behavior has been going on for a while, such as ignoring your loved one's grief over your relationship over the years, you'll need to be more honest and humble.

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   Write diary. Journaling about the details, feelings, and memories of the situation can help you learn about yourself and your actions. Trying to improve your behavior in the future can be a great way to alleviate your guilt. Your diary page can answer the following questions:
   • How do you feel about yourself and the people involved in the formulation of the situation and during the situation and after it ended?
   • What are your needs in the meantime, and have they been addressed? Why not?
   • Are you motivated for this action? Which factor or who is the catalyst for this behavior?
   • What is the standard of judgment in this situation? Are they your own values, your parents ', your friends', your spouse's values, or come from an organization such as the law? Are they the right standard of judgment, and if so, how can you be sure?

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   Accept that you made a mistake and move on. We all know that it's impossible to change the past. So, after taking the time to learn from your actions and make amends and correct mistakes whenever possible, it's important not to dwell on it for too long. Remind yourself that the sooner you end up feeling guilty, the quicker you will be able to increase your focus on new, newer parts of your life.
   • Another benefit of using a journal to deal with guilt is that it helps you keep track of your own feelings so that you can discern the rapid reduction in sin once we acknowledge it. . It is especially important that you take note of the change that atoning and correcting mistakes brought to the situation. This will help you feel proud of your progress in a way that allows you to take advantage of guilt in a positive way.
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Method 2 of 2: Coping with Inadequate Guilt

1. 

   Recognize the type of guilt you have committed and its purpose. Unlike "proportional" sin that can signal us that we must correct our wrongdoing, the sin of disproportionate usually comes from one of the following sources:
   • Do better than others (survivor's guilt).
   • Feeling that you are not trying hard enough to help someone.
   • Something that you think that you have done.
   • Something you haven't done but you want to do.
     • Take the guilt of being promoted. If you spread negative rumors about your co-worker to get a promotion, this guilt is entirely appropriate or proportional with your action. However, if you are simply being promoted because you deserve it and you still feel guiltyYou are facing guilt inconsistent. This kind of feeling has no logical purpose.

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   Look back at what you can and cannot control. In your journal, write down something you have complete control over. In addition, you should also add elements that you have partial control over. Blaming yourself for a mistake or something that you have only partial control over means that you are getting angry at yourself at something completely beyond your capabilities.
   • Consider that you are not to blame for are not doing something is also quite a useful act, because of the timing in the pastYou may not have understood what you know well at present. It is likely that you gave the best judgment you could during that time period.
   • Remind yourself that it is not your fault that you survived a tragedy that others, even someone close to you, cannot survive.
   • Realize that others are not your responsibility. Even if you give them a lot of love and concern, they are the one responsible for going forward to ensure their own well-being (like you would for yourself).

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   Examine your standards for achieving and helping others. Journal, asking yourself if the behavioral ideas you have established for yourself are too high. Usually, these standards are imposed on us from outside forces to help us gain a foothold from a young age, but now, they can become too harsh and unattainable and possible. makes us feel extremely sad.
   • This also includes recognizing the right to stand up for your own interests. Since we often feel guilty for not humbling ourselves to others or for not sacrificing ourselves for something we love (such as free time or personal space), this is an important part of the process. through guilt. Remind yourself to accept that human interests can be quite conflicting, and this is completely natural. No one is at fault in seriously looking for a way to satisfy their own needs.

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   Focus on quality, not quantity, when helping others. Guilt often stems from thinking that we are not sensitive enough to be able to help others. And since you also have limits, you should remember that the quality of your help will decrease if you try too hard to support people in. every time or often help anyone you care about.
   • To avoid experiencing this kind of guilt, you should be more aware of the situation friend really need to be addressed. Being aware of a moment when you can help others can give you a healthier sense of your responsibility to others, and in turn, your guilt is automatically reduced. It will also help you to improve the quality of your help, making you more aware of the goodness of your actions. are do things than you do Candlestick do.

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   Seek acceptance and compassion through mindfulness. Mindfulness and meditation can help you learn to observe your thinking processes, including the tendency to maintain guilt, such as self-blame and over-self-criticism. Once you learn to observe them, you can begin to be kinder to yourself, and realize that you shouldn't take your thoughts too seriously or act on them.
   • Maintaining close contact with your loved one is also helpful, who accepts who you really are and shows unconditional compassion for you. By realizing how nice others are to you, you will be more likely to develop this attitude in front of yourself. However, friend who is responsible for self-acceptance and self-compassion, and this process can take place in the help of others (or not).
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Advice

• Don't be too perfectionist about your sins! As long as you are not immersed in these feelings, some guilt can help you strive to act with honesty, integrity, and consideration for others.
• Just think positively. You may have committed countless acts of hurting others and yourself, but the only solution is to forgive yourself and move on. If you apologized to the person and they didn't accept it, give them some space. If you keep apologizing and they still won't forgive you, this will only make you feel worse. Try to learn from your mistakes. The next time you do something that might hurt someone else, think before you act.
• You need to forgive yourself in order to feel better.

Warning

• Negative effects of guilt include low self-esteem, self-criticism, and other types of emotions. If you find these problems, they could be a sign that you have not fully dealt with your guilt.