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Self-improvement is a very popular concept in human life; we all have a few things we want to change to make ourselves better. Maybe you want to lose weight or improve skills in certain areas, or want to be more comfortable in social relationships, become happier, work more efficiently. No matter what the end goal is, to achieve them you need to define specific goals, make changes in yourself and deal with the obstacles you encounter.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Defining Goals

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   Predict what might happen in the future. Think about your motivation to take action, think about both the positive and the negative things that might happen in the future, the desire to accomplish your goals, and the commitment to self-improvement. When you think of a bright future, you will envision the most perfect ego you can be, while visualizing the background of a bad future will help you realize things. What awful can happen if you don't accomplish your goal of self-improvement.
   • Imagine a miracle coming to you one night and when you wake up the next morning you will become the person you have always dreamed of. Somehow the things you wish to improve on happened at midnight. Now, wonder how special you are? How do you feel? Are there people around you? And what are you doing? At the same time just imagine how wonderful life is when you enjoy it in the perfect fulfillment of yourself. By building on these fantasies, you will be able to develop your goals. Imagine yourself as a confident person and in perfect shape. Now think what would you need to do to get this result?

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   Identify what you need and don't need to improve. You need to define a specific goal and decide which one should prioritize first.
   • Identify your existing capital or strengths (sincerity, hard work, rich love ...) and what you need to change or your shortcomings (temper, overweight ...). This will help you target the most important goals you need to work on.
   • Sort the list of goals in order of preference. Rate each goal between 1 and 10 and the number 10 is your highest priority. Let's focus on this goal first.

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   Receive feedback. Getting suggestions on what to improve will increase your chances of completing a task and achieving your goals. Therefore, consulting others about self-improvement methods will help you develop specific goals to motivate yourself along the way.
   • Start by consulting other people or family members about how you can improve yourself. Only consult people you truly trust who are concerned about your feelings (instead of criticizing and disparaging you). They will give you amazingly helpful advice.
   • Talk to a soul mate, be it a therapist, the head of a religious organization, or even ask a mentor in a 12-step program. Getting outside help helps to limit mistakes that can be made due to self-denial and self-deception. We are sometimes too strict with ourselves and sometimes too easy on ourselves. However, if we really want to change, talking to others can help us visualize the most accurate picture of ourselves.
   • Be selective about what you can apply to and practice. If some of the suggestions are ineffective, apply another! No method will work for everyone. You need to determine which method is best for you!

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   Create SMART goals. SMART criterion means Specific - Specific, Measurable - Estimable, Attainable - Achievable, Realistic - Feasible, Time bound - Defined. For example, your goal is to lose 9 kilograms (specific, computable, and achievable) in 3 months (feasible, with a definite deadline).
   • Refer to the resource to create SMART goals at GetSelfHelp.Co.UK.
   • Divide your big goals into smaller goals to work on.For example, if you want to lose 9 kilograms, you can plan small goals like: reducing your daily calorie intake, exercising 3 to 5 times a week, limiting your sugar intake.
   • Instead of setting big goals, you should start by setting small goals to achieve big goals. For example, reducing 22 kilograms may seem like an impossible task, but something as small as a week without chocolate is more practical.

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   Seek information on how to pursue your goals. Information can be obtained from a variety of sources such as books, friends, relatives, family or counselors. You will be amazed at the variety of information you have!
   • Think about the positive changes you've had in the past. If you've never made any changes, think about how people with the same goals you have worked hard to be successful. Talk to people in situations like yours and ask for their help. For example, if you want to lose weight, you should sign up for Weight Watchers and join a training session at a center.
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Method 2 of 3: Embark on Making Changes

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   Make sure you're ready to change. There are four stages of the change process based on the Behavior Change Model. Determine what stage you're at to realize you're ready to change, or need extra motivation to act.
   • The previous period was expected: This is the stage when the problem comes up but you either don't realize or try to negate it.
   • Estimated period: You are aware of the problem and plan to change it. Usually one can be stuck at this stage for a long time. Maybe you are also in this stage if you can't figure out what you need to change.
   • Preparation phase: Commit to change yourself and plan for that change. You are probably at this stage if you already have a self-changing goal.
   • Action stage: You could be at this stage if you are setting a number of daily goals. You have already planned and worked to achieve your goals these days.
   • Maintenance phase: You have accomplished your goal and are continuing to keep pace.

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   Be your own coach. Daily self-training and self-examination help you to improve self-improvement, especially for leadership qualities. Daily self-checks help you understand your condition and your ability to reach your goals easily.
   • Ask your best friend questions like, “Have I focused on today's work and goals? Did I have a positive attitude? Have I been nice to myself yet? Did I take up the challenge today? Has the me of today changed for the better than yesterday? "

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   Get outside help. If you find that self-training has not been very effective, you can seek outside help. A life counselor can help you realize your goals and have a more positive attitude. Additionally, therapists and psychologists are professionally trained to counsel and assist you in achieving your personal goals by applying therapies focused on problem solving. Solution (SFBT - Solution Focused Brief Therapy).

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   Never stop practicing! Change is slowest when you do large-scale self-improvement. Keep practicing until your goal comes to fruition.
   • Don't forget to remind yourself of the tasks that you must complete each day.
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Method 3 of 3: Facing Obstacles

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   Understand that obstacles are normal. If the change goes well, all of us will have time to adjust to more easily. And the truth is that change does not have a particular path, it is a long journey, but on that journey you may encounter many difficulties and obstacles.
   • For example, it would be unusual to lose weight if someone lost weight every day. You may not lose any kilogram today, but increase it again a few days later. This erratic change is inevitable, but it's important not to let this change make you give up your goals. The last important thing is that you can lose weight. Remember that you can do whatever you think (it makes sense)!
   • Make a list of all the possible obstacles for you. They will probably appear during your self-improvement journey. The rest is to determine how to get over it.

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   Focus on what you will do in the future. Focusing too much on your mistakes really doesn't help in accomplishing your goals. Focus on what you can do now or what you can do in the future. Instead of letting difficulties stop you, focus on moving forward and learning better ways to cope with future problems. There are many ways to cope. You can either bypass it or jump on it to move forward.
   • Speaking of weight loss again, if you wanted to lose weight but ended up gaining weight over the weekend, instead of thinking negatively and giving up your goal, think, "weight gain This weight is normal. I will continue to lose weight with healthy foods! "

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   Accept and assert yourself. Research shows that people who take difficulties and challenges have a real motivation to change themselves in a positive way. In addition, those who have a sense of their own worth are often able to think and understand their own difficulties and obstacles.
   • Recognize your strengths and your challenges. You can also write them down if needed.
   • Try to understand yourself as the people around you understand you. Make an objective view of yourself by observing your own behavior such as how you act, how you talk, or how you think about the people around you.
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Advice

• Make sure that when you go to bed you feel like you've accomplished something in your daily tasks. It's not something big that can change your life, but make an effort to be a little better or just read a few pages PER day. While this is small, it can have more of an impact on you than big changes that don't happen often.
• Please be patient. Pat your back encourages joy of success. Give yourself time to relax if you feel fallen, tired because "Rome is not easy to build in a day" or doing anything takes time! Be persistent because you can. Good luck and good luck to you!
• Trust yourself and believe in the path you have chosen.